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AIBU?

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Positive covid and dinner booked?!

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Windingroad21 · 04/09/2021 11:21

AIBU? Parents a nightmare, but that’s another thread.

‘D’ M and Dbro (same household) all tested positive on Sunday, attributable to Bbro going clubbing. ‘D’F negative.

DF birthday next week and he’s texted myself and DP inviting us to dinner out! Wtf? I said straight out no way as they’re a nightmare, and covid.

They’re adamant they’re going as DM/Dbro will have had ‘10 days’ by then since testing positive.. can this be right? How? Surely you must be sure you’re completely well and take a further PCR to confirm to be safe, and ensure safety of others.

AIBU to be horrified or am I misinformed on what the rules are here?

OP posts:

FuckPilledLatteplus · 04/09/2021 12:35

Unless your negative DF is working during the day or has mobility issues, he should be walking the dog.

You don’t like your family. That’s what this thread is really about.

Singinghollybob · 04/09/2021 12:36

He can get a PCR if he doesn't have symptoms, as he's a close contact of a positive person.
My husband was advised to take a PCR by test and trace even though he was non symptomatic, as I had tested positive.
This is confirmed by Government guidelines.

Kitchendrama1 · 04/09/2021 12:40

@SisterAgatha

I think this is right, we had a guy at work who was told he was ok to come back after 10 days but he wanted a negative PCR to reassure him and work. They wouldn’t give him one as by then he no longer had symptoms.

It seems wrong logically but I think it’s right in the eyes of the current rules. Crazy.

Not crazy.

The government tell you not to re-test within 90 days for a PCR.

The lateral flow will show he’s not longer contagious.

You know virus die of in the body? As long as he’s got no other symtoms he’s ok to work/leave the house.

StealthPolarBear · 04/09/2021 12:46

Surely he can get a pcr as a household member of someone who is positive??

Zippy1510 · 04/09/2021 12:47

They are breaking rules by not quarantining now but they are allowed out in 10 days. I would however be more concerned about your DF contracting it in the next 10 days whilst sharing a household and then passing it on at the dinner if he doesn’t realise he’s contracted it at that point. So no I wouldn’t be meeting up with them unless your DF tests negative again much closer to the date.

liveforsummer · 04/09/2021 12:50

@StealthPolarBear

Surely he can get a pcr as a household member of someone who is positive??

Yes but he's already taken it

GreenTortoise · 04/09/2021 12:50

To be completely honest you sound like you moan about them all the time and just embarrassed of them in general not because she took the dog out.

I don't understand how you can go on a whinge fest but not actually be aware of the government guidance on what you can and can't do. I'm not sure why you're so surprised at the rules...

GreenTortoise · 04/09/2021 12:51

Also you can't actually take a LFT OR PCR if you have tested positive for COVID for 90 days.

Bbq1 · 04/09/2021 12:52

[quote Sparklfairy]@LindaEllen the DM has been out walking the dog when she's supposed to be isolating?[/quote]
Maybe and that's irresponsible BUT that's not what Op is asking about, apparently it's about the dinner. However, Op you do seem to be grabbing at any excuse to avoid going because dislike your family. Just don't go if that's the case.

takehomepay · 04/09/2021 12:59

OP, you keep saying you’ve been ‘misinformed’ about 8 times now!

It takes just a few minutes to read the guidelines on the gov website, it’s no one’s job to inform you personally!

MeredithGreyishblue · 04/09/2021 13:05

OP, it's not helpful to you, or anyone else to presume who has caught covid from where. It'll drive you insane and, in reality, he / They could have got it anywhere. Demonising people is really divisive. And it will wear YOU out too.

My MIL is out of her isolation today and she certainly hasn't been clubbing! Or near anyone who has.

Don't let your anxiety ruin relationships for you. I know it's hard.

TheChip · 04/09/2021 13:08

Youre just going to have to he straight and tell them that you do not want to go. Covid isn't going to help you with this one, unless you say you've been pinged and are waiting for the pcr test to arrive

HailAdrian · 04/09/2021 13:22

Of course you can go back out after 10 days of isolation, you're not even supposed to have a PCR that soon after testing positive!

StealthPolarBear · 04/09/2021 13:31

Liveforsummer ah of course, thanks.

starfishmummy · 04/09/2021 13:36

I would probably suggest postponing the booking until everyone knows they actually feel well enough to go.

dworky · 04/09/2021 13:37

@UnsuitableHat

Doesn’t sound like you want to go anyway, so good that you’ve said no.

Ignore the point, why not?

maddy68 · 04/09/2021 13:40

10 days .....they're fine to go.

olidora63 · 04/09/2021 13:42

10 days self isolation from beginning of symptoms or positive PCR whichever came first. You cannot retest for Covid for 90 days after positive result so DF is right .

Plumtree391 · 04/09/2021 13:43

They are right.

It's a shame they tested, frankly. So many people seem to test themselves regularly; I understand if they have to for whatever reason/guideline but otherwise, why bother? Just be as careful as you can.

5lilducks · 04/09/2021 13:47

They are correct. 10 days self isolation and that's it. As far as I can remember people never had to re-test before coming out of a 10 day self isolation. If you are not comfortable going then tell them so, cases are on the rise so tell them you are not comfortable going out just yet.

MyDcAreMarvel · 04/09/2021 13:52

@Plumtree391 It's a shame they tested, frankly. So many people seem to test themselves regularly; I understand if they have to for whatever reason/guideline but otherwise, why bother?
Yeah you are right, why bother , who cares if people get very sick in , hospital , die or get long Covid.

Thegreymethod · 04/09/2021 14:01

You can continue to test positive for 90 days after having covid, when booking a test it asks you if you've tested positive in the last 90 days before you book it. When we had it they told us not to test again for 90 days or it would possibly show as positive and we'd have to isolate again so them doing another test after isolation would be pointless anyway. If they've done the 10 days they're free to go out and do what they want. It sounds like you don't want to go and using them having covid as an excuse, they'll be expected to go back to work after the 10 days so why not go for dinner?

Sparklfairy · 04/09/2021 14:15

Jesus @Plumtree391 if you have Covid, you still have it whether you test positive or not, so surely it's better to know so you don't spread it?!

You can't avoid testing just because it'll impact your social life. It takes no time or effort to test at all, but put simply, people don't want to have to isolate or change their plans. Completely selfish burying their heads in the sand so they can kid themselve everything is fine.

Plumtree391 · 04/09/2021 15:26

Oh ignore me, I don't go out and mix anyway so it doesn't apply to me much.

takehomepay · 04/09/2021 15:33

I kind of agree with @Plumtree391in that I’ve not tested for CV19. I think I had the virus in March 2020, isolated for weeks afterwards as it was a bad bout, but no testing was available.

I’ve not had any symptoms at all since then, so don’t feel any need to test unless someone I know tells me they have it and we’ve had contact.

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