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Positive covid and dinner booked?!

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Windingroad21 · 04/09/2021 11:21

AIBU? Parents a nightmare, but that’s another thread.

‘D’ M and Dbro (same household) all tested positive on Sunday, attributable to Bbro going clubbing. ‘D’F negative.

DF birthday next week and he’s texted myself and DP inviting us to dinner out! Wtf? I said straight out no way as they’re a nightmare, and covid.

They’re adamant they’re going as DM/Dbro will have had ‘10 days’ by then since testing positive.. can this be right? How? Surely you must be sure you’re completely well and take a further PCR to confirm to be safe, and ensure safety of others.

AIBU to be horrified or am I misinformed on what the rules are here?

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LindaEllen · 04/09/2021 11:37

@Sparklfairy

"How long you need to self-isolate If you test positive, your self-isolation period includes the day your symptoms started (or the day you had the test, if you do not have symptoms) and the next 10 full days.

If you get symptoms while you're self-isolating, the 10 days restarts from the day after your symptoms started.

When to stop self-isolating
You can stop self-isolating after the 10 days if either:

you do not have any symptoms
you just have a cough or changes to your sense of smell or taste – these can last for weeks after the infection has gone
When to keep self-isolating
Keep self-isolating if you have any of these symptoms after the 10 days:

a high temperature or feeling hot and shivery
a runny nose or sneezing
feeling or being sick
diarrhoea
Only stop self-isolating when these symptoms have gone.

If you have diarrhoea or you're being sick, stay at home until 48 hours after they've stopped."

Will they actually self isolate though? It sounds like they wouldn't have a problem 'bending' the rules...

How does it sound like they'll be happy to bend the rules? What rules have they bent? They're acting entirely within the rules, so your post is unfair.
TreaslakeandBack · 04/09/2021 11:37

We are all going to get it at some point. Get jabbed and live your life.

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Windingroad21 · 04/09/2021 11:37

Test and trace ping.

It may well have been an equal cause of infection. The communal area is more out of me being concerned for the neighbours as my family seem to think they can wander in there maskless with Covid and the dog as it’s a way out to the park and that’s out door, so that must be safe..

I accept I’ve been misinformed, as I’ve said before, I’m just surprised. Learning for me too.

I’ll leave this here.

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FfrothiCoffi · 04/09/2021 11:38

Did someone tell you that they have to have a negative test before coming out of isolation? Who told you that?

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Windingroad21 · 04/09/2021 11:38

But they’re not isolating properly if they’re entering communal areas which are high traffic and used by others whilst within the 10 days, are they?

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Poptart4 · 04/09/2021 11:39

Honestly it sounds like you hate your family and are looking for an excuse not to meet up with them without having to feel guilty about it. i.e they have COVID so it's not my fault I can't meet up with them.

Even when told by numerous people that you are wrong about the quarantine time you still refuse to believe it.

You also pointed out that they caught COVID because your DB went clubbing, implying he was being irresponsible. The world is opening up again. Your DB did nothing wrong. We have to get on with our lives and yes people are still going to catch COVID unless they never leave leave house or interact with another person again. The judgement needs to stop.

MeredithGreyishblue · 04/09/2021 11:39

You are being unreasonable to be horrified, yes. 100% unreasonable.

Sparklfairy · 04/09/2021 11:39

@LindaEllen the DM has been out walking the dog when she's supposed to be isolating?

LookAtMoiPloise · 04/09/2021 11:41

@Windingroad21

But they’re not isolating properly if they’re entering communal areas which are high traffic and used by others whilst within the 10 days, are they?
Are you just looking for reasons to moan about them now?
Original poster
Windingroad21 · 04/09/2021 11:42

The clubbing comment was factual.

I’ve not ‘refused’ to believe the quarantine time. I’ve stated I’ve been misinformed and I’ve been surprised by what the rules are. I’ve read and fully accepted this.

You’ve decided I’m judging.

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TheLovelinessOfDemons · 04/09/2021 11:42

Yes you can go out for dinner with them after 10 days isolation.

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Windingroad21 · 04/09/2021 11:43

As for looking for reasons to moan about them, that was in response to someone telling me they’re completely compliant and I was merely pointing out they’re not. But hey…

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GiveMeNovocain · 04/09/2021 11:44

Obviously we have no idea if they're breaking the rules at the moment. Hopefully your dad is walking the dog as he's negative. However, whatever they're up to now after 10 days your mum is good to go.

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 04/09/2021 11:44

Has your DM been out walking the dog when she was supposed to be self-isolating?

FfrothiCoffi · 04/09/2021 11:45

My friend’s daughter tested positive a couple of weeks ago. Friend tested positive 5 days later. I have been taking and collecting friend’s daughter from school (same school as my children) this week, from the day she came out of isolation, as my obviously can’t leave the house until her isolation period ends.

PomPomSugar · 04/09/2021 11:45

I’ve not read the whole thread but just wanted to say, just because DF is negative now doesn’t mean he will stay negative! My nephew tested positive 7 days after my niece.

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Windingroad21 · 04/09/2021 11:46

@TheLovelinessOfDemons yes, she has been walking the dog. Accessible only by going through a communal stairwell and a couple of doors.

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saraclara · 04/09/2021 11:46

@Windingroad21

Ok. I accept that I’ve not understood what the rules are as such, never been in this position.

I’m just surprised.

It's been 18 months. How on earth can you still be so ill informed?

I'm sorry, but I keep coming across this sort of thing and it boggles my mind. All this information has been right under our noses, in fact positively shoved at us for all this time, every sodding day. If you're so worried about covid, how have you not made sure you know these things?

FfrothiCoffi · 04/09/2021 11:46

Yes there is a chance your DF will test positive over the next few days. In which case I’m sure they’ll cancel the dinner, won’t they?

CaddieDawg · 04/09/2021 11:47

Once you've tested positive with symptoms you are told not to retake tests for up to 3 months as it'll still show as positive due to it still being in your system. There are some symptoms you can still have but end isolation (cough) but others (temperature) where you should keep isolating. There's no test to tell whether you are still infectious

Coulddowithanap · 04/09/2021 11:47

Surely the dog still needs to be taken out?

FfrothiCoffi · 04/09/2021 11:48

@Coulddowithanap

Surely the dog still needs to be taken out?
The DF can take him if he’s negative and double jabbed.
WhoisRebecca · 04/09/2021 11:48

If I had to take a further PCR I would probably not be allowed out now after having Covid in July! I took part in a study for PHE and did three further PCR tests after my isolation period, all of which came back positive- but I wasn’t required to isolate, because I wasn’t infectious.

MissyMooKins · 04/09/2021 11:48

Yabu they are correct.

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Windingroad21 · 04/09/2021 11:49

@FfrothiCoffi will they fuck!

@saraclara that’s just rude. I’ve asked a question and accepted I’ve been misinformed/ ill informed. I’ve never required to understand the detail as I’ve not been in this situation, and the rules change so much. I’ve been so anxious over all the fear of covid I’ve deleted the news apps on my phone and don’t watch tv. Thanks for making me feel shit.

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