To be annoyed by people whose social media profile picture are just their DC?

[FishfingerFlinger]

I realise this a trivial non-issue, but…

AIBU to be slightly irritated by people whose profile pictures on Facebook, WhatsApp etc are just of their children, and not of themselves?

You are a person in your own right, with your own identity, not just your DC’s. Own it with a picture of yourself! People get annoyed that when they become parents they are permanently known as ‘DD’s mum’ and then they lean into it by replacing their own face with their DCs!

In practical terms it’s also irritating on class WhatsApp groups and suchlike when you’re trying to put faces to names and there’s no face.

I agree with you. It’s tedious.

I don't think it's anyone's duty to put pictures of themselves on social media. There are many reasons for not wishing to do so, and one should accept it if they don't want to. My only reservation is that if you don't want to show yourself, you should think before showing your kids: they may also not want to be shown to all and sundry, and they're not usually being given a choice about it.

My children are beautiful and I am very proud of them. I want to show of their adorable faces whilst they are cute and small. I doubt I will be using their mug shots when their spotty hairy teens but for now I am proud of my gene pool

I do find myself wishing people would use a photo of their face, for purely practical putting-names-to-faces reasons. It's one thing at home, but at work I feel like management should enforce mugshots on Outlook.

A previous employer used a professional photographer to take headshots of all staff on their first day, and these went on their ID badges and in Outlook. No negotiation. No kids. No pets. It was fab! The only place I've worked where I actually knew everyone's name.

OMG. Why do you even care what profile picture other ppl use let alone feel angry about it? Get a grip !

I really can’t stand how I look, even worse on photographs so I use a pic of my kids. Anyone who knew me years ago would be more likely to recognise me from how they look than a recent pic of me

I am in my profile picture, but very distant because I am fat and ugly. My cover picture is my beautiful 4 year old tabby cat who is the centre of my universe!

@MouseInCatsClaws

I've done this. It's because I do not possess a single picture of myself taken since 2008 that I would happily allow other people to see, so I hide behind my kids I do take your point that it's annoying though

So you won't put a picture of yourself up because you don't like it but you'll happily use one of someone else (and presumably without their informed consent)? Presume your kids aren't teens yet? My teens would be furious If I did that!

I have a photo of myself which seems to be catnip to so-called doctors in scrubs, God fearing American troops and beardy 60 year olds

YABU - it’s nothing to do with you. Just ignore it if you don’t like it.

@EmeraldGreenVelvet

So you won't put a picture of yourself up because you don't like it but you'll happily use one of someone else (and presumably without their informed consent)? hmm
Presume your kids aren't teens yet? My teens would be furious If I did that!

Well i use a picture of my DD and she is under 10, i asked her and she was happy for me to use a very lovely picture of her as my facebook profile. So hmmm away, i have consent.

Your teens would be furious? Thats quite an over reaction, are they normally so hysterical over such a non event?

Nope, completely agree op. YANBU. People women foregoing their identity and who they were once they have children has sadly become so normalised in our society and almost seems like something to 'aspire' to so it's hardly a surprise.

My daughter is the spitting image of me, only much much younger. So everyone thinks it's me looking fabulous. Win win.

@CFEC

Nope, completely agree op. YANBU. People women foregoing their identity and who they were once they have children has sadly become so normalised in our society and almost seems like something to 'aspire' to so it's hardly a surprise.

OH has DD as his profile pic. Do you also believe men lose their identity and are just sad pathetic daddies when they do that?

@ddl1

I don't think it's anyone's duty to put pictures of themselves on social media. There are many reasons for not wishing to do so, and one should accept it if they don't want to. My only reservation is that if you don't want to show yourself, you should think before showing your kids: they may also not want to be shown to all and sundry, and they're not usually being given a choice about it.

Agree with all of this.

As for putting names to faces, well … I work alone, for myself, so that’s not an issue. And I prefer to slide anonymously along the pavements locally and know that I won’t be collared by anyone going “Oh that’s Lemon Jr’s mum — I’ll just ask her if she can help with the school fundraiser”

I don't use a photo on WhatsApp.

And on other social media it's a craft project.

Hate beyond words getting my photo taken and certainly not going to use it for the benefit of others.

Can't say I've ever given a second thought to what others choose as their photo.

I never put pics of my DC or DGC online.
Sometimes I have my face and sometimes just an interesting image.

Agree regarding photos of kids on social media. I’ve never posted a photo of DD. When she’s older she’ll have a choice about whether to put photos of herself online. Until then, I don’t post anything.

Yeah, people should stop putting photos of their kids on the internet.

I just can't be arsed with it really. I'm only on there to keep in touch with a few people. If it bothers you, don't be friends. It's way better than heavily made up, filtered, pouting. That has to be worse.