To ask if you prefer your friends over your siblings

[Hiyanice]

Or not

Much closer with my friends but I’d be quicker to save my sisters life in some mad dramatic scenario. And no parent alive to be answerable to (heron why didn’t you jump in to save buzzard?) so it’s real.
We’re not very alike and have to be a bit careful with each other but love each other and are there for each other unquestioningly.
Friends I am much more myself around, am closer to in day to day ways.

autumn is that you Buzzard ?

Depends on which sibling and which friends tbh. I have several.

The person I’m probably closest to is my closest in age sister. We are very different people and have very different lives, but we are still very close. Even if she drives me mad at times. My friends are easier relationships, but not as meaningful as the relationships with my sisters, though probably more meaningful than with my brother.

@AmericanBookworm

One of my sisters is my BFF, we adore each other and always have. My other siblings are not the same, most of them I wouldn't have a relationship with if we weren't siblings but we do have decent sibling relationships.

I don't know if there is something hereditary in my family or not but for the past 5 generations on my mother's side of the family there have been one pair of sisters per generation who have an exceptional bond, I feel extremely lucky that I am one of the pair for my generation.

Well, its quite the same for me. One of my sisters is my BFF, our friendship is enhanced by the fact that we're sisters and we know that we can be brutally honest with each other and we will always have each other's back.

On my mum's side, all families have a pair of siblings with a very very strong bond.
And funny enough, amongst our friends, we have loads of pairs as well.

My sisters haven't spoken to me since the new year, years of me helping them, physically and financially then they cut me off.
It's not the first time they've done this to me, I usually try to smooth things over but this time I'm done, decided this time is the straw that broke the camels back.
I'm so done with their treatment of me, they seem to be in cahoots in their dislike of me.
I don't have any friends so it's a pretty lonely existence

dizzythat sounds crap. Support.

@HeronLanyon

dizzythat sounds crap. Support.

Thank you, that was really nice of you to reach out

Well can’t read a post like that and not. I and or loads of us will have had similar times of family problems and low on friends doesn’t help. You’ll know it ebbs and flows and being a bit crap now doesn’t mean it stays that way.

Yup! I love my friends and cannot stand my one still-living sibling.

Definitely. My brother is nice enough but we have exactly zero interests in common.

No, my sister would be my number one, but my best friends come a very close second, also my SIL.

No, but I think I'm incredibly lucky that she's my closest friend looking at some of the siblings on mn!

We both have lots of other friends a d quite a few shared ones

Yes - I do care about my siblings, but they are both men. I have an intense ‘sisterly’ bond with a few friends. And we chose each other.

Absolutely! I prefer my in laws to my siblings!

@Autumn101

I love my sister but she’s an incredibly difficult person so my relationships with my friends are much easier and to be honest more enjoyable. We don’t have much in common at all and very different lives which doesn’t help either

Are you me? 😄 Saved me typing it out!

Yes. I live my sibling but I'd have ditched her long ago if we weren't family. She's a lot of work.

I might get on better with friends and enjoy and look forward more to spending time with them.

BUT, I am old enough that some very close friends have become less close, or moved permanently to the other side of the world, or married the wrong guy and taken on his worldview, or been disappointed with my choices (even if they are right)...and those close friends have come and gone. My brothers are still there, as they have always been, and will be until we die. If anything we get on better now.

So yes, I have friends I might prefer, but I don't lose sight of which relationships are permanent.

God yes

My siblings (and their partners) are my best friends. I love them to pieces. I have great friends too, but no one comes close to my sibs.

Friends.

They’re just two completely different relationships but if I had to choose to have one type or the other I’d choose friendship.

One sibling is best friend and am very close to other one not so much and don't think we would get along if we met outside the family. Weird as it was totally the other way round when we were kids.

I have 0 relationship with my siblings and wouldnt be friends with them if they werent my siblings. Fact is we are nc now.

I will tell you if i prefer my friends when i get some

Yes

Good God, yes.

I prefer quite a few strangers or people with whom I share the barest of acquaintances with over my siblings, to be honest.

Funnily enough, I'm in a total strop today because my DM went off on a ramble about how you need your sisters for company. Clearly she's not noticed what a fuck up the remnants of our family are & that my siblings would always prefer their friends to family.