We been living together for just over a year. Prior to that my husband lived on his own with his mum regularly visiting him (she lives abroad) for weeks on end. She would come over to do his cleaning, laundry etc and pretty much treated his house like her own.
Since the pandemic she has not been able to come over at all and we have managed to set up our own home and enjoy life just as our family.
Now however that the lockdown is over his mum is a regular visitor in our house! My husband just tells me that his mum will be coming over for a week or so on particular dates. I’m expected to just accept it as he wouldn’t dare to tell his mum that we want to spend time just as our own family.
The most irritating thing is that when she is over she completely takes over. She will not only try and do the cleaning her way but will go into our bedroom and move my things. My husband turns into a child when she is over refusing to help with any housework or childcare because “his mum will do it for him”
I feel like she is invading my personal space. I hate the fact that things are not done my way in my own home. I feel completely pushed out.
When I mention it to my husband he gets annoyed and says that he doesn’t see a problem with it, she is just trying to be helpful.
Am I being unreasonable or is it wrong for a guest in your own home to go up to your bedroom and start re arranging your clothes and doing your bed, and using your dish cloth to clean dirty trainers?
I feel that I should bite my tongue to keep the peace but every day of her being here makes me miserable to the point that I’m considering moving out with the kids!