AIBU to think this is a well known scam?

[EvaRoad]

....or have I just been unlucky? (Name changed as too outing)

At the end of July my girlfriend dropped her phone and it broke "beyond repair". She was distraught, did not know what she was going to do and needed a new phone. I suggested she asked her friends or asked her family but ultimately she made it clear that if I didn't get her a phone then she would not be able to contact me anymore. I was in a difficult position, her birthday was coming up, so I eventually relented and purchased her a new phone on a contract. Anyway, I never got to see the phone, as she kept on making excuses not to see me, and then last week she said she had "got back with her ex", didn't want to see me again, and blocked me. Obviously she's still got the phone and I've now got to pay for the rest of the contract.

What really gets me is that this is the second time this has happened to me, my previous girlfriend did something similar, breaking up with me within a few weeks of getting her a new phone a couple of years back.

So is this a well known scam, or have I just been unlucky? Do girls really drop their phones as often as they say?

Actually it’s quite dull now
You’ve half plenty advice. You can chose to
Disregard advice and keep,texting. Just because
Or disable her phone and inquire what’s the penalty clause for cancellation

You know when folk go too far?

That…

This is great. It’s like our own Cardiff Shore or summat.

Next up: EvaRoad gets mugged off again.

OP, how much money will the contact cost you until it’s paid off? Eg how much per month x how many more months ?

Try to think of it as a small price to pay to be rid of her? And disable the bloody phone!

She is taking your for a ride. Why would she think that you would pay £500 for a party for her when she is back with her Ex?

Some people here are being quite mean to you to be honest. Tell her you want the phone back or for it to be put into her name and if not you will get it blocked. Give her a deadline for this and do not give any extensions to the deadline - and when she doesn't do wither, report to your provider as lost/stolen and they will block it. You got it as an upgrade so they will have the IMEI etc and will be able to do it.

@EvaRoad

Just had a reply "Actually I thought you wouid make it up to me and I would have changed my mind. Bit tight aren't you?" I think I am being bullied here.

Funny how you can type out her texts to you but can’t type out your texts to her.

Everything she's saying is manipulative.

For those saying I was gullible, how else would you respond to the line "You would do it if you really loved me?"

'That's a really transparently manipulative thing to say' would be a good answer maybe.

Especially don't do large financial things early in a relationship, unless you have, like, Christian Gray's income maybe. It makes you seem like a desparate pushover and doesn't inspire respect.

If you see red flags like 'if you loved me you'd' (which is blatant) stop dting the person.

It's £760 over 11 months left. Very frustrating.

*dating

Look, you have been scammed twice and you are completely ignoring any advice here. You know you don't have to put up with this but you seem to prefer just to complain. Report the phone is lost and ask them to block any activity.

So disable the phone. Deny her usage
Look into the cancellation clause see if it’s less than £760

As if you took out a £70 a month contract for a new girlfriend.

You can't buy love OP.

@phishy, what I wrote was: "OK I understand all of that. I still took out a new phone contract for you in my name. If you decide not to continue with us after just four weeks, I want my phone back. I don't think that is unreasonable". This got the "Well you are being very childish" response.

You can either send her one last message to say either return the phone or it will be blocked, or just block it tonight without telling her, I understand your upset and taking it very badly but she doesn’t give a shit about you and is using emotional blackmail to try and keep you hanging on and it sounds like it’s working! It’s easy to block and she won’t know it’s blocked, it just at won’t work so if she gets in touch just say you know nothing about why it’s stopped working and you hope she manages to get another phone soon.

oops I've dropped my phone OP....

[quote EvaRoad]@phishy, what I wrote was: "OK I understand all of that. I still took out a new phone contract for you in my name. If you decide not to continue with us after just four weeks, I want my phone back. I don't think that is unreasonable". This got the "Well you are being very childish" response.[/quote]
Thanks. I still think you need to send a clear text. My suggestion below. Why are you hesitating?

‘I want the phone returned to me by 5pm tomorrow. If you don’t return it, I will file a report with the police that you stole the phone from me. I’ve also blocked the phone so you won’t be able to use it anyway. Once you’ve returned the phone, NEVER contact me again or I will report you for harassment.’

You are both in your 30s? You sound like 14 year olds.
Report it stolen and use the IMEI number to get it blacklisted. That’ll render it useless regardless of the SIM that is being used.

@EvaRoad Oh noes, my phone fell in the bath. If you loved me you'd... If you cared about my mental health you'd... :)

The person could get their own phone contact for a few quid a month, if they couldn't afford a basic phone outright. If she hadn't been with you she'dve had to get her own phone and would have.

I've not heard of a 12 month phone contract for years. They all tend to be 24/36 months now. Are you sure you've only got 11 months left?

Definitely only 12 months, got an email about it this afternoon which kind of prompted the thread.

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

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You are both in your 30s? You sound like 14 year olds.

Not sounds no…

Well I quite agree but one doesn’t like to be accused……

Yes this is shit