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AIBU to think this is a well known scam?

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EvaRoad · 30/08/2021 20:15

....or have I just been unlucky? (Name changed as too outing)

At the end of July my girlfriend dropped her phone and it broke "beyond repair". She was distraught, did not know what she was going to do and needed a new phone. I suggested she asked her friends or asked her family but ultimately she made it clear that if I didn't get her a phone then she would not be able to contact me anymore. I was in a difficult position, her birthday was coming up, so I eventually relented and purchased her a new phone on a contract. Anyway, I never got to see the phone, as she kept on making excuses not to see me, and then last week she said she had "got back with her ex", didn't want to see me again, and blocked me. Obviously she's still got the phone and I've now got to pay for the rest of the contract.

What really gets me is that this is the second time this has happened to me, my previous girlfriend did something similar, breaking up with me within a few weeks of getting her a new phone a couple of years back.

So is this a well known scam, or have I just been unlucky? Do girls really drop their phones as often as they say?

OP posts:
ChargingBuck · 31/08/2021 12:23

I suggested she asked her friends or asked her family but ultimately she made it clear that if I didn't get her a phone then she would not be able to contact me anymore.

That's not bad luck, it's gullibility.
Next time a girlfriend informs you that her time & attention is going to cost you money ... make a better decision. Unless you enjoy being with sex workers who are pretending to be your g/f.

ChargingBuck · 31/08/2021 12:25

But the question was very much phrased along the lines that I had to show I was serious.

Erm ... so you were prepared to "show you were serious" by paying to continue the relationship? Eeeuuw.
Stop acting like a John, & you''ll be less likely to be treated as one.

ChargingBuck · 31/08/2021 12:26

@EvaRoad

For those saying I was gullible, how else would you respond to the line "You would do it if you really loved me?"
"You wouldn't treat me like a cash cow if you really loved me."
thanksforyourcommentrandomman · 31/08/2021 12:33

@MadeForThis

Did you ever actually meet her in person?
Actually snorted at this!
00100001 · 31/08/2021 12:34

@EvaRoad

Set the alarm, got up early, phoned O2 and asked for the IMEI to be blacklisted. Thanks everyone for the suggestion, I had not thought of that. I still have to pay off the balance of the contract though.

Not my finest moment, and I hope I have learnt my lesson.

If you have household insurance, you might be able to make a claim against it, as stolen property.
minionsrule · 31/08/2021 12:52

00100001
I think you will find that's called Insurance Fraud.
The phone has not been stolen, the OP willingly handed it over, just his gf broke things off with him straight after.
But like calling off an engagement as soon as you get the ring, not morally good but not illegal

Iloveginger · 31/08/2021 13:38

Are you particularly wealthy Op. £760 is a lot to spend on someone you have been in a relationship with for a matter of months.
I'm guessing not, if you are paying for it monthly contract.
Why are you spending so much money on a GF (ex or not).

hedgehogger1 · 31/08/2021 14:06

In your 30s?! I thought you were a teenager til that post. Bloody hell

MurielSpriggs · 31/08/2021 16:39

@ChargingBuck

I suggested she asked her friends or asked her family but ultimately she made it clear that if I didn't get her a phone then she would not be able to contact me anymore.

That's not bad luck, it's gullibility.
Next time a girlfriend informs you that her time & attention is going to cost you money ... make a better decision. Unless you enjoy being with sex workers who are pretending to be your g/f.

He'd have got a lot more for £760 that way.
Cirin · 31/08/2021 17:35

Break up with them for being a controlling loser.

Or for being 15. Because this sounds like teenage nonsense.

Cirin · 31/08/2021 17:40

@MadeForThis

Did you ever actually meet her in person?
Haha, really does sound like all he did was send a few dodgy messages to her OnlyFans.
ChargingBuck · 31/08/2021 17:59

He'd have got a lot more for £760 that way

Oooh @MurielSpriggs, you ARE awful. But I like you ...

Backtobacktheyfacedeachother · 31/08/2021 18:46

Good for you @EvaRoad expensive mistake but at least now you have the satisfaction that she will have to buy herself a new phone after all Grin

EspressoDoubleShot · 31/08/2021 19:54

You’ll not recoup your money but you have the satisfaction that her phone doesn’t work anymore

EspressoDoubleShot · 31/08/2021 19:58

Out of interest @EvaRoad as you’re the bill payer abs account holder do her itemised phone bills come to you?

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