I'm nasty since having our baby

[PricklyHog]

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Has anyone else experienced this?

I feel like since I've had our son (7 months), I have turned quite nasty. I hate it but I feel like I can't help it. It's mainly directed at my husband but I have no patience for lots of other people as well.

Everyone is just bugging me. And if me and DH have a minor disagreement it feels like I can't control myself with how I retaliate (not physically btw!), I have said some horrible things, things I feel like I'd never have said before. I feel actually venomous sometimes with how I talk to him when we disagree. It's horrible. But at the time I feel totally justified until I've calmed down. Multiple times I've packed up to leave with DS over the smallest of things until I've calmed down.

Sometimes he just annoys me without even doing anything wrong. And I've been questioning recently whether I actually still love him but at the same time not knowing what's changed from now and then.

I feel horrible, like I'm not a kind person anymore. I can only describe it as how I used to feel a few days before my period, annoyed and snappy, the smallest things getting under my skin, except this is worse and it's all the time.

I have all the love and patience in the world for DS but absolutely none for anyone else it feels like.

It's OK to want space after an argument. No one is a prisoner in their own home.

But of course if you have a baby, someone needs to take care of the baby. So either the OP leaves the baby with her husband if she needs to get away or takes the baby with her.

After you argue, OP, why don't you go to stay at your parents or somewhere else for the night (and get a good night's sleep) and leave the baby with your husband? Are you afraid he won't cope or just reluctant to leave your DC? Why do you have to take the baby along with you all the time?

Hi I know exactly what your feeling. I know this post was back in aug last year funnily enough that’s when I had my baby girl. And Iv been the same as you since from what your describing. I’m nasty, I’m having anger outbursts, my mouth runs away with me, il tell anyone what I think(I never would of dared to do that in the past) I have so much anger towards people it’s unreal. I have been through a lot I won’t go into detail but I had an horrendous birth and so many health problems since, so I am finding all of that difficult to come to terms with. But the anger seems to come in episodes I can be fine for a week or two then bam il lose it big time. Sometimes over the slightest thing to some people but to me it’s a huge thing. I just want it to be me and the kids most of the time. I feel I am completely and utterly fed up of people crap and usually in the past I would bite my tongue but now I just can’t. And even my own family seem to be blaming it on my mental health. I do suffer with mental health issues but even so I know exactly what I’m saying. I feel im just not listened to or taken seriously. Anyway im on the list for counselling and they do think I have postnatal depression, possibly abit of post traumatic stress aswell. I didn’t realise with postnatal depression you had these terrible anger outbursts? Does anybody suffer with them? It’s like I can feel the anger building in my chest and im not violent or anything like that but I just need to lose my shit in order to calm down again.

Hi can I ask how did they help you? In what way? X

Following…I felt this quite intensely when my Dd was younger, but still have similar feelings towards Dh now that she’s 3