Is SIL being a CF?

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We live in a seaside area and every summer holiday, without fail, SIL comes up with some convoluted reason why her 3 DC (my nephews and niece) should come to stay with us for an extended period. They're aged between 10-13, so in a way it's nice for my DD to have some company her own age, but at the same time I do feel like she's being a bit of a CF here, as she expects me to feed them - and they all eat ENORMOUS meals and they do have a habit of going off and getting into scrapes so I'm forever worrying about them.

My eldest nephew is somewhat opinionated and does try and tell my DD - who is saying she wants to identify as a boy, but that's another thread - what to do, which inevitably leads to a row. Dniece is sweet , but does tend to cry and get upset easily. My husband is a scientist and works ridiculously long hours, so it's just me doing everything, and we also have a large dog who needs a lot of exercise.

AIBU to tell SIL that I can no longer have them all in the school holidays?

YANBU, Enid.

Absolutely not BU! What are her reasons?!

On the plus side, they do have a habit of finding large amounts of gold ingots. Which is nice. And solves your home ed dilemma, as you can pack dd off to boarding school.

Just say no!

YANBU.

What reasons is she giving?

What happens if you say no?

Absolutely - just say no! She’s using you for free childcare - if you want to see them still, she comes as well and does the childcare whilst also allowing your DD to see her cousins.

@HollowTalk

YANBU, Enid.

Ah you poor thing, Fanny!

Mind you, Quentin needs to pull his finger out - if he's able to remember complex equations then surely he's able to prevent a few kids killing themselves/others whilst you have a well-deserved spa day!

They sound quite low maintenance to me, just pack them off for the day with lashings of ginger beer.

It's ok, the dog will often get them out of scrapes and I think they might be keen to make home made lemonade and befriend local travellers in need of assistance.

Hope they get stuck down in a cave and get locked in by a lowlife smuggler - that should keep them busy for an afternoon or so
Then home for lashings of ginger beer

Just send them off with Timmy for the day, don't forget the sandwiches and ginger beer.

Don’t be so bloody ungrateful, what about all those ingots?

@Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies

On the plus side, they do have a habit of finding large amounts of gold ingots. Which is nice. And solves your home ed dilemma, as you can pack dd off to boarding school.

Eh?

Just palm them off onto a neighbouring small aircraft owner for a few days OP.

No say no sounds like hell.

Sounds like it’s time your DD went for an extended stay with them instead.

Actually it was lashings of hard boiled eggs. Often misquoted as lashings of ginger beer 😁

Doh. I missed the joke

Send them to camp out on that nearby island your husband owns! They'll have a whale of a time.

@CoffeeBeansGalore

Actually it was lashings of hard boiled eggs. Often misquoted as lashings of ginger beer 😁

And lashings of poisonous snakes. Somehow that doesn't sound nearly so appetising.

Solidarity to you, dear, long-suffering Aunt Fanjo. You have a DH problem. LTB!

Tins of peaches! Don’t forget them.

Just say no...

Ach, just make sure you buy them lashings of ginger beer, say ‘yes’ to any requests that they go off in caravans / on bikes / to an island, and don’t worry too much.

If you could tell Anne to smash the patriarchy and Quentin to pull his finger out, that would help though.