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CF. DSD, DSDs mum and dog

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Purplewishes · 24/08/2021 20:31

Currently on mat leave with twins, also have a toddler and DSD13 who stays between 2-4 nights a week depending on what she wants to do.

Have a great relationship with DSD and been in her life since she was 4 and usually have a good relationship with her mum.

DSD has a dog at her mum's, it's a small dog, unsure of the breed, it's yappy and it's not house trained and still pees and shits in the house. (DSD tells me this) I am not a great lover of dogs (traumatic experience when I was younger so please don't let the dog lovers hate me) anyway DSD has been talking a lot recently about her dog and she should bring it to meet the twins (?) Obv met with a laugh and "no chance"

I got a message from her mum a few days ago "Hiya, just a random question, are you a dog person?" To which I replied no. She then messaged back and said "oh well if you want to take the dog this weekend for us then I'm sure you will become one" She has a weekend away with her partner that has been booked for ages (which we obv knew about for childcare for DSD) I messaged her back joking and said no way. A few messages back and forth and she explained that her dog care had fallen through at the last min and she's really stuck.
She said that she either will need to cancel the weekend or that me and DSD would need to travel back and forward to her house twice a day to walk the dog so that would be two half hour round trips. I said no that I would be busy and she Jokingly said it would give me something to do while on mat leave

Also to note DSD will be in school on the Thurs and friday so her mum would be expecting me, the toddler and the twins to all take the journey to walk the dog ourselves.

Spoke to DSD who has been begging me to allow the dog to come and I was starting to feel a bit guilty and was starting to consider it UNTIL she let the cat out of the bag and said her mum had never booked dog care in the first place and had told DSD the dog would always be coming with her to our house.

AIBU to just sit and laugh knowing there's not a fuckin chance in the world I'm doing it now

OP posts:
CherryHug · 26/08/2021 15:50

Out of curiosity where are you that your kids have school today? Mine are off for the summer hols?

britnay · 26/08/2021 15:50

Scotland?

SunbathingDragon · 26/08/2021 15:51

@CherryHug

Out of curiosity where are you that your kids have school today? Mine are off for the summer hols?
Scotland’s summer holidays have finished.
DancesWithTortoises · 26/08/2021 15:54

@CherryHug

Out of curiosity where are you that your kids have school today? Mine are off for the summer hols?
Leicestershire are back
prettybird · 26/08/2021 15:54

Glasgow schools went back a week past Monday, so nearly 2 weeks ago. Some of the other LAs were a wee bit later but I think they're all back now, including the private schools.

PandemicAtTheDisco · 26/08/2021 16:01

I think it depends on exactly how determined she is.

I don't think she'll back down.

FinallyHere · 26/08/2021 16:02

16:02

Just sayin'

SpiesRUs · 26/08/2021 16:04

Oh dear I am willing to bet that CFex will find a way of lumbering you with the dog

mummabubs · 26/08/2021 16:04

I hope she hasn't been cheeky enough to just send the dog. I'm a dog owner and lover myself but I'd never condone what she's done! For context: when we go away we check what dates our dog sitter has before we book our break. It's unacceptable to assume you'd have it (in general but especially when the dog isn't house trained and you have young children). And as others have said, "no" is a complete answer in itself. She needs to respect that.

NeverMetANiceOne · 26/08/2021 16:07

I'm really hoping this silence from OP isn't because she's out walking her new dog...

DancesWithTortoises · 26/08/2021 16:12
Original poster
Purplewishes · 26/08/2021 16:24

Text DSD to see where she was

"Had to come home TO WALK THE DOG"

to walk the fuckin dog.

And I'm out. Told DH am taking fuck all to do with it

OP posts:
whatfreshheck · 26/08/2021 16:26

ShockShockShock

icelollycraving · 26/08/2021 16:26

Oh dear, I think you knew this was coming. What a fucking cheeky cow.

jadfiewahnds · 26/08/2021 16:27

ShockShockShock

Has anyone said Dogzilla yet?

MadeForThis · 26/08/2021 16:28

Dogzilla 😂😂😂

Dontbeme · 26/08/2021 16:28

It's seems all that time you spent building bridges with her for the sake of your DSD, while you thought you were coming to a friendship she was thinking you were a mug she could use for convenience. Let your DH deal with her about DSD from now on.

IBelieveInAThingCalledScience · 26/08/2021 16:29

That's unforgivable and a massive 'fuck you" from her to you.

CherieBabySpliffUp · 26/08/2021 16:30

So if the dog has been left while ex swans off on her jollies what are you going to do? Will you feel obligated to let DSD bring it back with her?

whatfreshheck · 26/08/2021 16:32

Call the RSPCA. The dogs been abandoned.

Lindjam · 26/08/2021 16:33

Maybe she is coming back early on Sunday and DSD is going to walk the dog between now and then? I don't think Monday is a BH in Scotland?

Or maybe the CF thinks you will back down. Poor dog. I hope it shits all over her favourite things!!

whatfreshheck · 26/08/2021 16:33

@Dontbeme

It's seems all that time you spent building bridges with her for the sake of your DSD, while you thought you were coming to a friendship she was thinking you were a mug she could use for convenience. Let your DH deal with her about DSD from now on.
This. She's no friend.
DishingOutDone · 26/08/2021 16:33

OMG she left it in the house. Not really funny anymore is it Sad

GinIronic · 26/08/2021 16:34

So the thumbs up was a fuck you after all.

friendlycat · 26/08/2021 16:34

She really has got some front to do this. I really can't see how you can be as civil to her going forward as you have been.

This is so unreasonable to you, and actually to her dog. You have enough on your plate to deal with. All she had to do was to book her dog into a local kennel. Perhaps you should tell your DH he will have to do that when he comes back from work.

I am sometimes utterly speechless reading how people behave in real life on this forum. You must be livid.