CF. DSD, DSDs mum and dog

[Purplewishes]

Currently on mat leave with twins, also have a toddler and DSD13 who stays between 2-4 nights a week depending on what she wants to do.

Have a great relationship with DSD and been in her life since she was 4 and usually have a good relationship with her mum.

DSD has a dog at her mum's, it's a small dog, unsure of the breed, it's yappy and it's not house trained and still pees and shits in the house. (DSD tells me this) I am not a great lover of dogs (traumatic experience when I was younger so please don't let the dog lovers hate me) anyway DSD has been talking a lot recently about her dog and she should bring it to meet the twins (?) Obv met with a laugh and "no chance"

I got a message from her mum a few days ago "Hiya, just a random question, are you a dog person?" To which I replied no. She then messaged back and said "oh well if you want to take the dog this weekend for us then I'm sure you will become one" She has a weekend away with her partner that has been booked for ages (which we obv knew about for childcare for DSD) I messaged her back joking and said no way. A few messages back and forth and she explained that her dog care had fallen through at the last min and she's really stuck.
She said that she either will need to cancel the weekend or that me and DSD would need to travel back and forward to her house twice a day to walk the dog so that would be two half hour round trips. I said no that I would be busy and she Jokingly said it would give me something to do while on mat leave

Also to note DSD will be in school on the Thurs and friday so her mum would be expecting me, the toddler and the twins to all take the journey to walk the dog ourselves.

Spoke to DSD who has been begging me to allow the dog to come and I was starting to feel a bit guilty and was starting to consider it UNTIL she let the cat out of the bag and said her mum had never booked dog care in the first place and had told DSD the dog would always be coming with her to our house.

AIBU to just sit and laugh knowing there's not a fuckin chance in the world I'm doing it now

Is MIL's garden dog-proof? Even if it is, if they haven't bothered to house train the dog it's not likely to be trained enough that it will come back to you, a stranger, when called. That would involve you having to put your hand near its mouth to get its lead on, which you simply won't do and would be unwise as a stranger to a dog who has been dumped in a strange house and been left alone all day. This has disaster written all over it and could result in somebody easily getting bitten. I'd do what a PP suggested and start a WhatsApp group between the three of you and say, 'There seems to be a bit of confusion over the dog this weekend. I am not going to pop anywhere to look after the dog and the dog is not coming into my house'. Christ. She is a breathtaking CFer this one!

Sorry, ignore my last post, I hadn't seen the latest update!

It really is all her own doing. Let's hope she learns the lesson that honesty is always the best policy 😁

She’s quite mad. Bonkers. I hope mil puts her foot down and tells her absolutely not. She’s a majorly cf!

😂😂 This is going to be good. Just grabbing my popcorn.

Total CF!

The CF is going to go mental, because she'll have thought - once again - that it's all been sorted; and now, the evening before she's due to leave, her fall-back arrangement has now fallen through ... I'm worried that she'll leave the poor dog shut in one room of her house with a huge bowl of kibble. Dammit. That's how I get guilt-tripped into doing stuff like this!! OP, don't do it, stand your ground, Ex will have a friend that can step in ...

Sorry, but I’m still stuck on the dog giving you something to do while you’re on may leave with twins, and a toddler PLUS a 13yo.

Give me an hour and I’ll have caught up in time for the denouement.

🍿 she is definitely the CFer of the Week 🏅

She really really doesn't want to pay for dog care does she?

Christ she's relentless... 🤣

Loving your updates, OP!

Like a dog with a bone!

This is a disrespectful thing to try on you.

Wow, cf just keeps getting better.

Glad mil is on your side. Got to be one of the rare nice ones on mn!+

I really admire you for sticking to your guns and be clear from the start.

Can’t believe there are so many CF’s in the world!

I genuinely astounded at her levels of CFery. Also annoyed on your behalf OP!

My boys would absolutely LOVE a dog. I would too to be honest as I love dogs and had one growing up.

DH is WFH permanently full time however I'm not willing to commit myself to the guilt of putting it in kennels when we go on weekends away or even just days out. It's simply not fair to do that to a dog, particularly a lone dog. I hope she realises she is not fit to care for it properly and gives it to someone who can.

@purplewishes
Popcorn and a wee wkd at the ready she going to blow her lid on this one lol.

[quote Babyghirl]@purplewishes
Popcorn and a wee wkd at the ready she going to blow her lid on this one lol.[/quote]

😂🤣 sure is 😂

@Purplewishes

Quick update, MIL popped in, gave her the run down of everything that had happened and showed her the messages. She's not happy about being duped so is planning on texting ex back to say sorry she can't have the dog after all.

I'm going to join you all and grab some popcorn for this too

Glad she's now in the loop.

I seriously think you DP needs to try and distance himself and his family from her now, she's acting like part of the family and she's not anymore. That and even if she was she'd still be a CF!

@shockedNeighbour I don’t think you should feel guilty if your dog is in kennels while you’re away for the weekend?

I will not walk your sodding dog
I will not walk him to the log
I will not walk him to the park
I will not walk him after dark

Will you walk him from MIL’s house?
Will you walk him with a mouse?

I will not walk him from MIL’s house
I will not walk him with a mouse
I will not walk him with a frog
I will not walk your sodding dog

Will you walk him really fast?
Will you walk him, please, you must?

I will not walk him really fast
He’s your problem, not my must,
You must think I’m off my rocker
You really are a cheeky ducker

@EatYourVegetables

I will not walk your sodding dog I will not walk him to the log I will not walk him to the park I will not walk him after dark

Will you walk him from MIL’s house?
Will you walk him with a mouse?

I will not walk him from MIL’s house
I will not walk him with a mouse
I will not walk him with a frog
I will not walk your sodding dog

Will you walk him really fast?
Will you walk him, please, you must?

I will not walk him really fast
He’s your problem, not my must,
You must think I’m off my rocker
You really are a cheeky ducker

Love it! 👏🏻😆

I seriously think you DP needs to try and distance himself and his family from her now, she's acting like part of the family and she's not anymore. That and even if she was she'd still be a CF!

See it is this shit I really can't stand about blended families. Of course the ex is still partner the family. She is the mother of the dsd/granddaughter. She doesn't stop being family just because her and the op's dh have split up. And I say that as the SM and felt the same about my dd's dad's exw. It made me mad to hear people call her out as not family and make her feel unwelcome at miles funeral. I didn't and don't particularly like his exw, but she was family as she was and is my dsc mum.

Oh my goodness !!! Glad ur sticking to ur guns!!! This women is he most CF ever