CF. DSD, DSDs mum and dog

[Purplewishes]

Currently on mat leave with twins, also have a toddler and DSD13 who stays between 2-4 nights a week depending on what she wants to do.

Have a great relationship with DSD and been in her life since she was 4 and usually have a good relationship with her mum.

DSD has a dog at her mum's, it's a small dog, unsure of the breed, it's yappy and it's not house trained and still pees and shits in the house. (DSD tells me this) I am not a great lover of dogs (traumatic experience when I was younger so please don't let the dog lovers hate me) anyway DSD has been talking a lot recently about her dog and she should bring it to meet the twins (?) Obv met with a laugh and "no chance"

I got a message from her mum a few days ago "Hiya, just a random question, are you a dog person?" To which I replied no. She then messaged back and said "oh well if you want to take the dog this weekend for us then I'm sure you will become one" She has a weekend away with her partner that has been booked for ages (which we obv knew about for childcare for DSD) I messaged her back joking and said no way. A few messages back and forth and she explained that her dog care had fallen through at the last min and she's really stuck.
She said that she either will need to cancel the weekend or that me and DSD would need to travel back and forward to her house twice a day to walk the dog so that would be two half hour round trips. I said no that I would be busy and she Jokingly said it would give me something to do while on mat leave

Also to note DSD will be in school on the Thurs and friday so her mum would be expecting me, the toddler and the twins to all take the journey to walk the dog ourselves.

Spoke to DSD who has been begging me to allow the dog to come and I was starting to feel a bit guilty and was starting to consider it UNTIL she let the cat out of the bag and said her mum had never booked dog care in the first place and had told DSD the dog would always be coming with her to our house.

AIBU to just sit and laugh knowing there's not a fuckin chance in the world I'm doing it now

What a fucking cheek

So nobody will be walking the dog at all?

Lucky MIL. I wonder how much damage the poo and wee will cause.

"She's messaged me again saying MIL will have dog if I wouldn't mind popping in to let him out quickly (MIL lives less than 5 min walk from us)"

"I have already told you that I cannot look after the dog"

Doesn't her partner have ny friends or rellies either?

The idea that you can POP anywhere with a toddler and twin babies!
Ex is a joke.

Please tell MIL the whole truth

@babyghirl "who let the dogs out".......

Well it certainly wasn't me coz am not doing it 🤣

Will update later one the gruesome twosome have passed out for the night

@Purplewishes

There is no way on this earth that you can "pop" anywhere with three small children. It takes forever to get ready to start with and you don't need the hassle and extra work.

I remember those days well. Just as I thought we were ready to go out, the baby would throw up or have a poonami all over himself and it would be another half hour before we even got out. And you have two babies to contend with!

Tell MIL the whole story, that you have refused multiple times to have anything to do with caring for the dog, and the dog is likely to wreck her house.

I hope you told your MIL that her "dog care that fell through" was because she decided that you'd be doing it, only mentioned this to you yesterday, and then was put out when you refused.

Wow this is outrageous - she has lied to MIL saying "someone" would be lined up to walk the dog, and then separately told you to "pop round" to let it out!!

You and MIL need to close ranks on this, I really hope you can stiffen each others' spines here as otherwise the ex will do this to you both every time.

There are so many options for the ex as well - rover.com, pawshake, holidog.com, googling local dog or house sitters and working her way down the list ringing them all. It's outrageous how she's trying to manipulate you both.

You need to tell your MIL the full story and stand firm on not getting involved.

You do need to bring your mil up to speed pdq.

What a monumental cheeky fucker!

I'ma dog lover.

I would pretty much have any dog, any time, any how - BUT under no circumstances would I expect someone else to look after my dogs.

Some people don't like dogs, some people are afraid of dogs, some people are allergic to dogs, some people just don't want another person's dog in their house. Whatever their reasons, they don't have to justify it to anyone.

I feel for that poor little dog. It is going to be terrified left overnight on its own - but that isn't your responsibility. It is hers.

She should pay for kennels or a dog sitter.

The cow!

Unbelievable!

I would also be tempted to tell MIL that she lied re care falling through.

The common link here is DH (it's his ex, his daughter, his mother). Can he not message his Ex and make it clear that NOBODY from his family will be imposed on to care for this dog and that she either puts it into kennel or finds a dog sitter.

You definitely need a proper conversation with your mil. Her ex dil has no shame.

She is just absolutely determined to force this dog on you, isn't she.
Unbelievable, it truly is! Has she lost the plot? You say she's always been fine. So wtf is this about?

This thread is the best! It’s giving lots of entertainment today the Ex is an u believable CF. Lying to all of you, and stupid enough to think you don’t talk to each other?? Eagerly awaiting the updates..
ps id tell MiL right now you can’t walk the dog.. tell the cf to hire a dog Walker! They are 15-20 an hour lol

Beginning to see why your DH doesn’t get on with her!

Quick update, MIL popped in, gave her the run down of everything that had happened and showed her the messages. She's not happy about being duped so is planning on texting ex back to say sorry she can't have the dog after all.

I'm going to join you all and grab some popcorn for this too

Go MIL! Very glad she is on your side.

What a CF, you have 3 small kids!!! Well done for standing your ground.

That dog needs a new home but not yours.

Left alone all day - no wonder it poos and pees.

And abandoned on holiday by owner who thinks it's okay for it just to be walked and left at home otherwise. It really is an RSPCA matter.

That’s a very positive update. This is a lesson your dsd’s mum won’t forget in a hurry!

@Purplewishes

Quick update, MIL popped in, gave her the run down of everything that had happened and showed her the messages. She's not happy about being duped so is planning on texting ex back to say sorry she can't have the dog after all.

I'm going to join you all and grab some popcorn for this too

Hahahhaha oh dear!!!

I honestly cannot believe the brazen cheek of the EX

@Purplewishes

Quick update, MIL popped in, gave her the run down of everything that had happened and showed her the messages. She's not happy about being duped so is planning on texting ex back to say sorry she can't have the dog after all.

I'm going to join you all and grab some popcorn for this too

Interesting!