to say women living with men don't own toolboxes

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straw poll!

I don't really know if this is true, I just want to see what the response is on here!

YABU - I live with a man, and I own a toolbox, or share equal ownership of the household toolbox

YANBU - I live with a man, and the toolbox in our household is his property, or mostly viewed as his property

If you don't live with a man, please don't vote! Although, please comment as much as you like.

This is one YABU that I am hoping to "lose"!

Thank you

I've had my toolbox longer than I've had DH!

YABU.
I own a toolbox. Contents: measuring tapes, 3x30mtr, 1x3m, trowel, line levels, builders string, nails, pegs, torch, binos, pen, pad, brushes, knife, multi-tool, mallet. Occasional use in DIY, but geared to a hobby.

DH owns an enormous toolbox with everything and does most DIY and all car maintenance (ex mechanic, extremely practical).

YANBU- although he barely has one either

YABU

DH doesn't do DIY. All tools in this house (whilst technically 'joint') have been purchased by me.

Except for the drill which was bought by DH for me as a birthday present (but I picked it out and sent him the link).

I did have one Victoria Wood moment (Dinnerladies reference) when one of the neighbours popped round to borrow DH's ladders. He looked quite confused when I said "Actually, they're my ladders".

All DIY/decorating/gardening is done by me, DH does all the ironing though (I bloody hate ironing).

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My wife has a toolbox and I don't.

YABU

My tool box is probably now more extensive than DH's and it's me who steals his tools!

Mine buggers off to work with his toolkit everyday. I have my own. Although only the screwdriver gets used to open the battery compartments of sodding children’s toys.

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER

Toolbox is 95% used by dh, though I will use a hammer or screwdriver now and then, and used the electric screwdriver to remove umpteen horrible, tightly fixed handles from a whole wall of wardrobes before replacing them.

OTOH I can say hand on heart that he’s never once felt the need to use anything out of my sewing basket! Let alone my sewing machine. Funny, that….

That's an interesting point. The sewing box is definitely mine. DH will ask permission to use it when he needs to sew buttons on etc.

Maybe not quite so enlightened after all.

I have lived with men and lived alone. Never owned a toolbox ever!

We have our own tool boxes but only as my tools are a lot better than his. I prefer good Teng sets which I owned before my partner came along as used them to work on my classic cars. Whereas partner just needed normal tools for around the house.

Tools in the house have almost entirely been purchased and solely used by me, DH is not really interested. Though I just consider them household items and not really "mine."

I had a toolbox before we married. DH has bought most of the tools we now have as he renovates property. However, they are there to be used by whoever needs them. The sewing box sits in a cupboard and DH uses it to repair stuff. I bought myself a workmate a couple of months ago to do some woodwork.

We both have a toolbox, I do plumbing related work in the house, he tends to do the electric, so different gear and we have a joint tool peg board for other stuff.

I had a tool box before DP moved in- things I'd bought & some bits my dad gave me because he had duplicates and stuff from when we cleared out my grandma's shed. It was a decent basic kit.

DP restores and builds stuff and has a basic electrician qualification. He has quite the kit- although not quite professional level. When he moved in, it all got merged for space and is considered shared- although he's better at using it all. I'm happy to let him lead the DIY and maintenance although he has taught me to do stuff.

Similarly he's added a couple of bits to the kitchen but it's basically all mine and I do more cooking.

YABU, my OH's part in DIY is generally to make tea and be on standby to whisk me to Minor Injuries!
He did put up some curtain rails once though. However, I'm pretty sure he doesn't know what's in the toolbox...

I was horrified to discover in the early days that dh didn't own even a hammer.

Birthdays and Christmases over the years have dealt with that! He was actually excited the year he received a chainsaw.

No option for me. The tools are mine. Husband occasionally insists on buying a new one because he couldn't manage a job with what we had.

Said new tool sits in the drawer and I do the job with one of my original tools.

He had the tool box but I consider the best equipment in the kitchen to be mine. We might actually be living in the 50s with the exception of gardening tools which are also mine.

I don't live with aman but have a long term partner (6 years) and all DIY in my home he brings his toolbox from his house.

I have a tool box it’s pink! My DH wouldn’t know what to do with half of them.
I get very excited when i get to use my drill!

DP brought only a single screwdriver into this relationship.

The tool cupboard therefore belongs to me, and he can borrow any of the hand tools. Needs to ask permission before touching the power tools though!
Partly because I don't trust him not to break the tools, and partly because I don't trust him not to accidentally cut off his own feet/hands/head.

YABU.

Our household owns a toolbox. Neither of us engage with it frequently, but we both do when necessary. Both of us would regard the idea that you need a penis as well as a screwdriver to wire a plug as ridiculous.

We also own a collection of cookbooks, which are mostly DP’s domain, and a collection of politics books, which are mostly mine. Traditional gender stereotypes are not really our thing, which is admittedly easier when you are childfree.

We have our own. I'm not allowed to touch his tools. I lose them 😬

I’m the daughter of a tradesman, he’s the son of a weathy man. His dad fixes things by paying people like my dad to do it. Consequently he doesn’t know one end of a hammer from the other and is fucking useless and I do most of the DIY. Not even sure he could figure out how to open MY toolbox.

YABU! The tool box is mine.