to say women living with men don't own toolboxes

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straw poll!

I don't really know if this is true, I just want to see what the response is on here!

YABU - I live with a man, and I own a toolbox, or share equal ownership of the household toolbox

YANBU - I live with a man, and the toolbox in our household is his property, or mostly viewed as his property

If you don't live with a man, please don't vote! Although, please comment as much as you like.

This is one YABU that I am hoping to "lose"!

Thank you

@Pinkywoo I see I'm not alone with the disappearing tools!

I live alone so have my own toolbox but if I lived with a man then we would probably just share one.

YABU

I have a tool box, and a secret stash - my husband has a tool jumble. Mine is more DIY tools, his are bike maintenance mainly. The problem is with any cross over items as these mysteriously are drawn into the jumble never to be seen again. So anything that I absolutely need (screwdrivers for opening up the cat flap, that weird spanner size for my sewing machine get hidden in the stash and checked in and out like library books.

We're both mid-level inept at large scale DIY unfortunately.

I have the Ikea toolbox, little electric screwdriver and my own tape measure

www.ikea.com/gb/en/cat/tools-16293/

I keep them in a kitchen cupboard and it means if I need to do a little job I can without having to run the gauntlet that is an enormous garage stuffed full of multiple versions of every tool known to man, but arranged in a way that means only DP can find anything.

But seeing as I'm the brains of the operation and he's in construction it makes sense for him to lead the bigger jobs anyway. We play to our strengths.

MIL was so impressed when she saw I had my own tools, she immediately went out and bought herself a set and some for her DM because all the men in the family are the same and now that FIL and GFIL are sadly no longer with us, we have inherited pretty much all of their own tools.

It's like a Yorkshire industrial heritage museum in there and I know more than anyone would ever need to know about about the benefits of having imperial and metric tools and how useful it is to have a socket that is ever so slightly too small because it's 15.6 mm instead of 16 mm or whatever, when trying to remove a bolt that is stuck fast.

@ShitShop

And while I’m technically better and more experienced than DP at DIY he can afford better tools which would help me immensely. Nothing worse than using a screwdriver and screws that seem to be made of cheese!!

Why can't you afford the same tools your DP can?

Anyway, the Ikea tools I linked to above are cheap and good quality.

I do the vast majority of DIY in the house. DH keeps taking my tools and losing them though, pita!

We have just bought a toolbox to house our tools - drill, saw, hammer, proper ratchet screwdriver etc, all of which I brought to the relationship. DH's contribution was two Ikea tool sets (the screwdriver and pliers set). Two of them, because he bought a second after forgetting he already had one this might give you an indication as to the balance of DIY activity in our house.

All tools shared here. They live in the shed in a big chest of drawers.

I no longer live with a man (yay!) But when I did I always had some tools but he kept 'borrowing' them and they never got put back so I bought him a "Daddy's at home toolkit" for father's day (relationship was crap by then anyway and he had totally forgotten to get me anything for mothers day) from the kids for the house but I was the only one who used it.

I've not got a nice selection of my own tools in my own house.

The toolbox and its contents are definitely mine, it was all given to me as a gift. DH isn't really interested in DIY but I quite enjoy it.

YANBU I wouldn't know how to use a toolbox

we share ownership of tools bought for the household but my DH is a self employed cabinet maker so obviously those tools are his and belong to business and will remain his even if he used them to make a houselhold job easier like fitting bespoke shelving in niche beside fireplace or using a copy lathe to replicate mouldings etc
I had a tool box of my own before we married but his are professional tools not DIY and obviously better

I buy the tools and he then steals them. On Saturday, he sulked for an hour because I insisted on being allowed to use the garden shredder I'd bought to clear the mountain of cabbage stalks, corn stalks and general prunings that he had left in a heap in the middle of my vegetable garden. I ignored him.

Ah I wish I could vote YABU but alas, all tools are my husbands, and I never really use them, if at all.
To my shame, he also does any and all car stuff, the garden jobs and takes the bins out.

I don’t own any tools nor have I ever used any. No thanks!

DH owns a construction company so thankfully I have no need to ever use tools 😂

I inherited my DF's toolbox and I love it. I'm the one that uses it, DH doesn't have a clue.

Well it's looked like you've lost so therefore won OP.

Just wondering why you asked?

Not allowed to vote, as I don't live with a man.

I always wish I had learned more about DIY (and had a tool box). When my dad was alive, he encouraged me, but I ended up being over fifty divorced, etc not knowing how to put a shelf up even.

So mid fifties I decided it was time to learn.
A month ago I bought myself a power screwdriver.
Not a big deal for some people, but scary for me.

Since being divorced i've had to tackle many technical issues myself.

So I have drawers with tools now. Of my own.

I have a DD as you know and feel it is really important to learn these things.

Wish I hadn't waited so long as it is harder when you are older. But still..

Well done all who have tool boxes, with or without a fella.

@BarbaraofSeville

Well it's looked like you've lost so therefore won OP.

Just wondering why you asked?

Because it is used as an illustration of inequality, and I wondered if it was true

And even though I hate the job. I take my own bins out.

@beigebrownblue

Not allowed to vote, as I don't live with a man.

I always wish I had learned more about DIY (and had a tool box). When my dad was alive, he encouraged me, but I ended up being over fifty divorced, etc not knowing how to put a shelf up even.

So mid fifties I decided it was time to learn.
A month ago I bought myself a power screwdriver.
Not a big deal for some people, but scary for me.

Since being divorced i've had to tackle many technical issues myself.

So I have drawers with tools now. Of my own.

I have a DD as you know and feel it is really important to learn these things.

Wish I hadn't waited so long as it is harder when you are older. But still..

Well done all who have tool boxes, with or without a fella.

well don you too!

We’ve got a general toolbox that I use. No one owns the contents. Tools are generic and functional.
But I keep my mitts off all the special stuff he has for woodwork and carving. They’re in special drawers and racks and are sharpened with Japanese water stones. I’d knacker them and he’d be sad.

I have a tool box, DH never did. Most diy is done by me. He can just about change a light bulb

OK, thanks. Inequality in what sense? Just interested that's all, not being arsey.

Your admittedly very unscientific poll has shown that most women who live with men still have their own tools or equal access to the household toolbox. And thankfully the 'proud that they never have to do DIY' contingent is very much in the minority.