Dad put baby to sleep

[PlanetTeaTime]

Since DD was born 6 months ago, I have nursed her to sleep every single night and for most of her naps (sometimes I can get her to sleep in the car or a sling). She is now teething and has bitten me several times this evening.

After over two hours and several bites, I've told my partner no more, he will have to try to get her to sleep tonight.

He says he can't and he's tried before and he can't do it. He's never tried rocking her longer than 15 minutes before handing her back to me.

Am I being unreasonable to ask him to take over?

My 18 month old feeds from me then I quite often have to hand over to dad to get him to sleep, he goes off so much better for him! And when I work evenings he just goes! As soon as baby realises there is no milk, they seem to be much calmer, he just has to try for a bit! Should add this is my third and it's been the same with all 3 x

I didn’t realise this was a thing!
I never did this with any of my babies. They were fed, winded and changed, then laid down in their carry cot to settle.
Provided they are comfortable, there’s surely no reason why a sleepy grizzle will do them any harm?
It must be a thoroughly difficult habit to break, and you have my sympathy. Some pp’s have already suggested that you stop feeding to sleep, and I would agree. There will be some crying, but your little one must learn to self settle at some stage, and it sounds as though you have had enough. I wouldn’t start rocking to sleep either. It would just be another habit which would be hard to break once started.

Really? Get some bottled milk, and then you both can feed her. How is he supposed to breastfeed her if she's hungry? She's probably hungry and is ready for solids. Stop making life hard for yourself by making it easy for all. Baby will survive and be more contented if you're happy.

OP can you get her to sleep in her room without feeding her?

@godmum56

anybody else go [ :O] when they read the title of this thread?

Yes! My DH has said that before and he got the too. He doesn't do it anymore...

@Mumontour85

Thanks. I thought the same thing at some of the comments tbh. Thanks for the solidarity.

@hartwood

My daughter doesn't scream, if she did I would be very concerned, she doesn't cry much at all to be honest.

@urkidding

Are you a troll? 🤔

@Toomuchspinning

You are not being unreasonable in that you should have support and be parenting equally, but if you have an exclusively breastfed baby who has only really ever fed to sleep, it is a bit much to suddenly go cold turkey.

I agree, but he needs to know that there is no 15-minute time limit on this. He needs to do whatever it takes, and do it regularly so that the baby gets used to him. He could sing nursery rhymes while you are settling her, then gradually take over.