He's shagged her tonight, hasn't he?

[Fullerene]

Ex is with his ex tonight, overnight. They have a casual FWB relationship since splitting up; I was never comfortable with the two meeting up, which is one of the main reasons I splut up witn him. She is dating someone, but that didn't stop her last time (while he and I were still together - he declined because she had a bf and he had a gf ath the time). He already told me he is upset another one of his exes (who he will see in a month) has a BF so he won't be able to shag her.

He's rodgering the other woman right now, isn't he? Even though we've only split up for a week. I have a feeling and it's never before let me down. MN please help me get rid of him in my thoughts?

Block him on everything to start with. That’ll stop him contacting you and telling you stuff you don’t want to listen to about who’s he’s ahem, “rogering”.

Read a book.

Your boyfriend was/is shagging every woman in sight and you thought you were in the wrong?

You're well rid of him.

And nothing of value was lost.

@Seesawmummadaw

Hopefully his penis will fall off soon.

So very few MNers would have a problem with their very recent ex-bfs shagging someone else (an ex they've always mistrusted because she actively wanted sex witn him during your relationship)? Or even the thought of it?

Well I would be thinking 'good riddance'

I may be upset because the relationship did t work out and he wasn't who I thought he was, but what he did after that? Nah my issue is only ever what goes on during the relationship

Poor Roger.

Oh darling, you really don't need this terrible man in your life.

I know you think you do at present because he's worn down your self-esteem, but with some no contact time you will start to see him for who he is.
You are worth more than this.

@Fullerene

So very few MNers would have a problem with their very recent ex-bfs shagging someone else (an ex they've always mistrusted because she actively wanted sex witn him during your relationship)? Or even the thought of it?

Yes, I dumped him. It still stings.

Tbf, and maybe its because I can be a bit of a twat, I would be happy I was proved right. 🤷‍♀️

@Fullerene

So very few MNers would have a problem with their very recent ex-bfs shagging someone else (an ex they've always mistrusted because she actively wanted sex witn him during your relationship)? Or even the thought of it?

Yes, I dumped him. It still stings.

Of course it’s horrible and it’s hurtful. That’s why when it’s a split like this and you’ve nothing you need to stay in contact about, cut contact. If you do have a reason to stay in contact (literally only reason I can think of is shared children) I recommend email so you’re not getting constant messages emails are easier to ignore in my personal experience.

If he’s got a thing for exes he will be calling you for a ‘rodgering’ in no time.

OP I think it would hurt like hell but it would also make me angry as hell. Use that anger to just completely cut him out of your life.

Distract yourself, watch crap TV, ring a friend, read silly threads on here but try not to think about him at all. And do not join his list of shaggable exes.

Move on

Block him. What an immature man he is.

Get yourself a good comedy to watch, some nice snacks. Text some good friends.

And BLOCK HIM! Delete from all social media. Delete any mutual acquaintances too.

The word shag is so common

He’s hardly ‘making love’ is he?

Of course this is upsetting for you but you shouldn't know what he's up to

I'm sorry OP. You're getting some awful comments on here.

Even if he has treated you appallingly, it can be difficult to get over someone. I'm sorry that you are struggling.

With kindness, I do wonder if you have low self esteem? This is maybe something you can reflect on over the next few weeks. You are certainly worth far more than how he has treated you. You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. I hope you are able to get some rest tonight. Perhaps you can look at some self care tomorrow? A nice bath, an outing with friends, or a nice meal?

Please be kind?

I will not.

You need to know the cold hard facts. He’ll have been twirling his Rodger at any port in a storm and you knew he had form. That is on you for putting up with it.

Truth hurts treacle. You don’t need kid gloves. You want a metaphorical slap round the chops with a metal gauntlet.

Don’t be his next port.

@happydays2345

The word shag is so common

I know, what will the village elders say?!

Thank you @SheWhoRemains, I have plans for tomorrow, even if on my own. It's been a strange year. I know he isn't right for me in so many ways, but he has been the first man in my life not to abuse the shit out of me, so yes, I am feeling low about having to leave this relationship, too.

I'm well past the age it's easy to find a new partner now, and even then, with my prior experience (emotional, physical and sexual abuse in the past), I don't trust my insticnts. I want to be on my own for a bit. It does, however, hurt to be replaced that quickly, by someone he has always fancied.

You are better than this.

The word shag is so common

What do you prefer then Hide the sausage or Hide Roger, maybe 😂😂😂

How do you know where he and his rodgering todger are tonight? Are you still in contact with him?
Cut him off completely and have yourself checked for STDs, he's not fussy where he dips his wick by the sounds of things.

It sounds like you made the right decision ending it. He behaves in a shabby way that would be very hurtful if you hovered on the periphery of his life not being his current girlfriend. He wants a harem of exes.

Let him get on with that but take your hat and coat.

I know it can really hurt walking away from people though.