... to ask if you ever had sex with someone you didn't fancy

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Did you ever have sex with someone you didn't especially find attractive or want to have sex with? I'm in that situation. Person who works in a firm near where I work, know each other a while, went for food/drinks a few times, then sex. He's nice, I like him as a person.

No details needed. It's a first for me, and feels a bit strange. Just wondering about others.

YABU: I've only had sex with people I really felt attracted to

YANBU: I've had sex with some people I was not really attract to

Sadly, I’ve done this far too often.

YNBU ...I have had sex with a couple of people I didn't fancy, I ended up feeling quite low and uneasy afterwards. Though I was at a point in my young adult life that I only felt I was of any value to men if they wanted to have sex with me so I didn't make wise decisions.

That's not representative of all situations though, sometimes attraction can develop, and if there is mutual respect, curiosity and open mindedness combined with an overall positive friendly relationship then there is no harm in testing the waters and seeing where things go.

@LadyOfTheCanyon

God yeah when I was younger. Usually at the end of the night in a kind of 'Come on then, lad, you'll do' sort of way.

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Yes I have it was a fwb set up and it creeps me out seeing him around now as I never actually fancied him!!

Yes, with someone I had been friends with for a while. I knew he fancied me and I liked him in that he was a really good guy but I didn’t fancy him. I enjoyed the attention though and him chasing after me and one night I slept with him when we were both drunk. Still feel bad about it, I shouldn’t have done it knowing how he felt about me. It was a long time ago and I was very insecure and the attention made me feel better, pretty shameful really!

I’ve slept with 12 men in my life, I didn’t fancy 9 of them at all.