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DS refusing to try on his school uniform

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GadyLaLa · 18/08/2021 20:34

DS has just turned 4 & he starts school in September. He’s currently being assessed for ASD & has an EHCP for starting school. He has some sensory issues, especially with clothing.
I’ve bought all his school uniform & I’m trying to encourage him to try it on, even just 1 item. He gets quite upset at the mere mention of the uniform & won’t even look at it, never mind try it on.
I’m dreading his first day at school as I know he’s going to refuse to wear it, & I don’t know whether I need to be firm & insist he wears it/force it on him, or if I should just let him wear what he wants & send the uniform in with him.
I know I sound silly but I feel I’ll be gutted if he doesn’t wear it - I don’t want him to stand out like a sore thumb & be labelled as ‘different’ right from the word go, & I don’t want to be judged by other parents for not dressing him correctly. I’m feeling like a bit of a failure about it all.
But equally I definitely don’t want him to be distressed/uncomfortable & hate school because of the uniform.
I’ve spoken briefly to the school’s SENCO & she was a bit like “it’ll be fine, don’t worry” but I don’t think he’ll magically change his mind about it & just wear it.
Any tips, or anyone with any experience of this kind of thing & how you got around it?

OP posts:
DingDongThongs · 20/08/2021 18:44

have you tried m and s sensory range or asda's?

Schools have to legally make reasonable adjustments.

Moonface123 · 20/08/2021 18:59

I think it's ridiculous expecting any four year old to wear a shirt and tie.
That's more appropriate for secondary school.
I wouldn't stress it, let him chose what he wants to wear, main thing is you can get him to school.

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