Send thank you cards for baby gifts?

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Is it me or is it bad form not to send thank you cards if you’ve invited people to a baby shower or even any following baby’s birth? I didn’t do a shower when I was pregnant but I still sent out cards for gifts people had been generous enough to give. Just wondering if I’m being OTT.

I'm 29, never in my life have I sent or received a thank you card for a gift. None of my family and friends send them.

If toxic femininity was a thing this would be it, making women that have just given birth feel guilty for not sending a bit of card in the post.

If you enjoy sending thank you cards then go ahead but understand that's your social norm within your family only, and other people are not being rude because they do not follow the particular traditions of your family.

social norm within your family only, and other people are not being rude because they do not follow the particular traditions of your family.
Ridiculous post 😂. Do you know many people outside your immediate family?

Yes, I know lots of people outside my immediate family, and none of them have ever sent me a thank you card for a gift. Equally, they have never done a thank you interpretive dance, or a thank you casserole. Thank you text or phone call, yes.

Some families send thank you cards. Some don't. If you are in the do camp, don't label the rest of us as rude for not being like your family.

The part I found ridiculous was it's the social norm in your family only. It very clearly isn't, it's a social norm fill stop.

You just don't subscribe to it and that's your choice. It's a valid one.
But making it sound like some esoteric, arcane practice is ridiculous.

YANBU. It literally takes 5 minutes to write a thank you card, which is a fraction of the thought, time and effort it takes to choose and purchase a gift. People have terrible manners these days, IMO.

I also find baby showers grotesque....

I find it worse manners to think someone is owed something more than a normal thank you because of the "time and thought" which went into the gift😱

A thank you letter IS a normal thank you...

Nobody is 'owed' a thank you, it simply reflects poorly on gift recipients if none is offered. It's a simple gesture of acknowledgement and gratitude and really not a big deal. It's a strange thing to begrudge and just looks like you can't be arsed or don't care if you don't bother.

Is it laziness if you hate doing it but still send them?? I certainly don't feel lazy when I do the laundry, must we not only do our chores but love them too?

@BookFiend4Life

Is it laziness if you hate doing it but still send them?? I certainly don't feel lazy when I do the laundry, must we not only do our chores but love them too?

No. It's a lack of basic morals and manners. Slippery slope that. One day you don't send thank you cards, next day you are opening local secret brothel while randomly punching swans in a face, ya know.

Toxic femininity?? Heard it all now