I really need some opinions as have had to keep this secret in RL and o think I need perspective -;will try to be brief !
Had a on/off casual relationship from when I was 18 to 26 and we had an unplanned ,but much loved son who is now 18. No hard feelings , good friendship to base smooth co- parenting on , all good. I had a horrid marriage of 13 years in between that I have been out of for over a year. DH dad been very supportive , friendship resumed how it had been and he is a complete rock and someone I consider 100% trustworthy and am very happy and lucky to have in my life.
He has a best friend that he has had for about five years or so , previously I had only briefly met him once. When they were both on a drunken night out. Few months ago , DH 's dad ( I don't really see him as an ex partner tbh) I must have come up in conversation , and he gave his best mate my number and said why don't you take her out ? So he messaged me a few times , we agreed to go out in a date.
Ds dad was not happy when o mentioned it in conversation and was very much that no he would not like that it made him uncomfortable and it was breaking the mates ' code. So i duly cancelled the date , but as I thought about it I felt a bit resentful as I really got on well with this bloke and I thought it might be fun. We sort of tried to stop texting but unsuccessfully. Fast forward four months and we have been chatting and really really want to go out properly and see whee it goes but we both feel more than a bit conficted as DSdad has expressly said it would not be a good idea.
So I suppose my AIBU is , AIBU to still go out with this man even though it feels like we have to do it in secret ? We are both single , consenting adults. Or would it be too much of a risk for an old friendship to take ?