To ask him to start making his own way home

[Wearegoingtoneedabiggerboat]

DP and I both work Fulltime. We have one car, so in morning I drop him off at work then drive another 15 mins to my work.
I finish at 4 then drive 45 mins back home, take DD to sporting activity (it’s not on public transport route so she can’t get there herself) I then drive back to DP’s work and pick him up. I get back home around 6.30 then leave again at 7.15 to pick DD up.
I have been doing this 5 days a week for around 5 years. To be honest I am a bit knackered and would like to suggest that DP gets public transport home. It’s a 10 min walk from his work and it would take 20 mins. I would then pick him up at the station as it’s another 20 min walk to home.
I have suggested this before and he says he can’t understand why it should make any difference to how tired I feel as in his eyes driving the car to pick him up should not be a problem.
Can anyone think of any other alternative if they think I am being unreasonable to suggest he gets public transport.

I’m in agreement with PPs that he can get his exercise cycling home from work, this killing two birds with one stone.

@Wearegoingtoneedabiggerboat

I drop DD off at 5.30, DP is supposed to finish at 6 but due to the nature of his job he normally gets into car between 6.15 and 6.30. This means I am hanging about waiting in the car for 30 mins

This is so awful that he thinks it's ok. You finish work at 4pm and home by 4.30pm. you then spend over 3hrs daily running around playing taxi for everyone else. And he thinks that's nothing, not tiring, no inconvenience whatsoever.

And who is this "everyone else" he thinks you "do everything" for? Does he mean, you treat the DC like the DC that they are and expect him to behave like the adult that he is?
Anyway, let him think that. You don't have to appease him. You can let him think unreasonable thoughts and be annoyed if that's how he chooses to feel. You're not responsible for his happiness.

It makes sense for you to drive to/from work and him use public transport and his own legs to get home. Your work is further away and you take DD to her sport after, which he can't do because he's at work. If he took he car to work instead of you it would mean the whole family's life revolving around him more than it does aleady

@ittakes2

You don't say how long it takes to go and pick him up.

She said earlier in the thread it's 20min car journey. So that's 40min plus Extra 30min waiting time on top when he's inevitably late finishing. So he thinks it's ok for OP to waste over an hour of her time fetching him home, but not ok for him to use an extra 30min of his time getting public transport home instead of a lift. He's a git.