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AIBU husband and waitress?

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Millionnewnames · 13/08/2021 11:33

Husband and I own a small cafe. We live in the flat above with my parents. We have two young girls working for us front of house, they are delightful and hardworking.
After noticing we were running low on a few things in the kitchen I went down into the cellar to get them and found one of the waitresses draped around my husband. I furiously asked WTF he was doing and he called me ‘a stupid woman’ and told me the girl had fainted after seeing a huge spider clambering about in the onions. He was stopping her from hurting herself as she fell.
I’m not sure what to think now.

P.s lighthearted. Bored. Guess the show and add your own.

OP posts:
SunSeaSurfGin · 13/08/2021 23:01

[quote Millionnewnames]@SunSeaSurfGin
Sorry dear, but your mother sounds absolutely fab to me! Perhaps you should lighten up a little sweetie, darling?[/quote]
Grin

GCrebel · 14/08/2021 12:11

@Chikapu

I recently bumped into the man who jilted me on our wedding day, we've decided to forget the past and become friends. My mother is extremely disapproving of our relationship and can't resist making snide remarks all the time. His family is extremely wealthy but somewhat lacking in the sophistication stakes. I'm finding myself very attracted to him and think he feels the same should we try again?
I'd stay just good friends if I were you.
Tessabelle74 · 15/08/2021 18:04

I'm absolutely fed up to the back teeth of people mispronouncing my surname, I repeat it often, it's not complicated at all! It's not helped by my sister refusing to say it properly too, hinting I'm a dreadful snob for caring, not hard to say when your husband lays about the house in a string vest! Snob indeed!

DanielRicciardosSmile · 15/08/2021 18:32

@DameAlyson

I'm a teacher in a secondary school. My colleague and I are concerned about one of our pupils. We have discovered that she lives in a scrapyard with her grandfather, Who refuses to talk to us. Should we report to social services, or do we really need a Doctor?
I think its a bit more serious tbh. I'd suggest calling the police. In fact, I think there's a police call box just by that scrapyard you mention...
Ashard20 · 15/08/2021 18:55

@DanielRicciardosSmile
@DameAlyson
It all takes time and is relative to other spatial dimensions ...
Perhaps we should have a professional chat. I have concerns regarding a group of children who also hang out in a scrapyard. They seem to have acquired property belonging to London Transport and are given to randomly bursting into song and dance.

VerbenaGirl · 15/08/2021 19:19

One of the British Airman was a supply teacher at our school!! We LOVED his lessons.

Romney981 · 15/08/2021 19:43

I work all hours in an east end pub but think my boyfriend often goes missing - he claims he works for the government but I think he has another woman

Ashard20 · 15/08/2021 19:58

@Romney981
Oh dear, Sweetheart.

SunSeaSurfGin · 15/08/2021 20:07

Nominating this thread for mn classics @MNHQ

GrinGrinGrin

aerosocks · 15/08/2021 20:22

O. M. G.

It's my son's 13th birthday today and he's just come down to breakfast with unwashed hair and wearing a baseball cap back-to-front. He does look ridiculous. Is it just a phase?

AngelDelightUk · 15/08/2021 21:26

I’m having a real crisis. I spent years and years lusting over my landlady, well she wasn’t really a landlady because I never paid her rent. She was my best mates sister, which was sort of awkward but he left to work in Germany at some point and he’s never been spoken about since.

Anyway I got together with the landlady, we got married and had three kids. It feels a bit like outnumbered at times, especially as one of our friends is a doctor who looks just like the dad from it.

I really want to go back in time to when it was me and Tim sat in the pub with him moaning about me fancying his sister and me denying it. I was funnier back then. We even had a cleaner who broke stuff. What should I do?!

Purplealienpuke · 15/08/2021 21:41

Im so fed up with my neighbours.
My husband and I are fairly generous and welcoming but one set of neighbours are ALWAYS popping by. I wouldn't mind so much if she wasn't so drunk and loud all the time. And whenever my gay son and his boyfriend are here she's all over his boyfriend, its embarrassing 🙄
Her husband boasts constantly about his wealth (they live a few doors down) and is a real know it all.
Another neighbour is on her own now her daughter and grandkid moved out (don't blame her)
Shes another one who invites herself round and expects to be waited on hand and foot then MOANS about everything.
Should we just sell up and move??

SunSeaSurfGin · 15/08/2021 22:34

@AngelDelightUk

I’m having a real crisis. I spent years and years lusting over my landlady, well she wasn’t really a landlady because I never paid her rent. She was my best mates sister, which was sort of awkward but he left to work in Germany at some point and he’s never been spoken about since.

Anyway I got together with the landlady, we got married and had three kids. It feels a bit like outnumbered at times, especially as one of our friends is a doctor who looks just like the dad from it.

I really want to go back in time to when it was me and Tim sat in the pub with him moaning about me fancying his sister and me denying it. I was funnier back then. We even had a cleaner who broke stuff. What should I do?!

I know Not going out may seem the easy option. But sometimes you need to go out with your BIL for a pint and put the world to rights and a whole conversation of one liners . Employ a cleaner although maybe it's a long shot to rempoly your old cleaner who is now a successful midwife.
Mamanyt · 16/08/2021 01:06

To be perfectly honest, I'd have fainted all over the barstid, too. But I'm nearly 70, and weigh nearly 16 stones. I'm a round old thing. I doubt I'd raise even one of your eyebrows.

viques · 16/08/2021 10:17

I live in a beautiful, quintessential English country village, honestly, it’s stunning, also helped by the fact that we are in a weather pocket so it is always warm and sunny. When we moved in we were overwhelmed by the way we were welcomed into the community and really though we had found our forever home. However, since we arrived, and apparently for some years before that, there have been a huge number of gruesome murders in the neighbourhood, and it turns out that most were committed by local people, many of whom we knew and liked. Funnily enough one of my neighbours is a senior police officer, but when I asked him about it he shrugged his shoulders and didn’t seem to think there was a problem.

I know MN neighbour threads are usually about parking, noise , feral children , trampolines and piles of logs, but please can you help me by voting.

Should we move?

YABU - An above average suspicious death rate is is part and parcel of perfect country life like church bells and cockerels. Stop being a wimpy townie.

YANBU - Don’t mention it to potential house purchasers.

Bloodypunkrockers · 16/08/2021 11:28

@Purplealienpuke

Im so fed up with my neighbours. My husband and I are fairly generous and welcoming but one set of neighbours are ALWAYS popping by. I wouldn't mind so much if she wasn't so drunk and loud all the time. And whenever my gay son and his boyfriend are here she's all over his boyfriend, its embarrassing 🙄 Her husband boasts constantly about his wealth (they live a few doors down) and is a real know it all. Another neighbour is on her own now her daughter and grandkid moved out (don't blame her) Shes another one who invites herself round and expects to be waited on hand and foot then MOANS about everything. Should we just sell up and move??
I think you need to grow a pair, to be honest

There's a nice girl just moved in across the road. Be more like her

And stop making bacon rolls and tea and soup for the ungrateful buggers

Lweji · 16/08/2021 11:34

OP, are you quite sure you live with both your parents and not just your mother? Wink And IIRC, the waitresses also live with you.

(bored too)

OhGiveUp · 16/08/2021 11:42

My boss won't let me leave early to see to my pussy.
I'm single so me and my pussy are very close and it needs a lot of attention, especially when I've had to leave it alone all day, so it's desperate to be stroked when I get home.
My boss says I shouldn't spend my working day thinking about my pussy, especially when customers need serving.
Is he being unreasonable?

Ashard20 · 16/08/2021 12:02

@viques
I wouldn't move if I were you. Some of those other pretty villages are also full of murder and intrigue...I've heard of florists dying with scissors stuck in their neck, romantic but sleazy couples found beheaded after suspicious car crashes, not to mention rampant swans.
YANBU to feel like this but I'd stay put. The grass is always greener etc and as long as it doesn't get too busy in the middle of July and August, you'll be fine.
Just stay away from cheese wheels and trust no one!

Amdone123 · 16/08/2021 13:10

I am absolutely devastated. My wife, whom I have been married to for years and with whom I share a ds, has met someone else and has thrown me out of the marital home.
I am now residing in a poky bedsit and feel like my life has ended. It is so unfair.
My nights are the worst so I joined a support group. They're all a bit strange but I really have a connection with a lady in the group.
The problem is the leader of the group. A lovely lady called Louise who I feel wants the best for us, but keeps asking if there were any sexual problems in our previous relationships.
It's making me uncomfortable.

WWYD ?

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 16/08/2021 13:12

viques
Perhaps you would be better off in a historic university city. My aunt’s friend lives in another quiet village and she is forever tripping over dead bodies even when she goes on holiday to nice hotel.

TrampolineForMrKite · 16/08/2021 13:20

I’m a TV repair person by trade, lived on the Herts/London borders all my life. A few years ago I went to a job in the East End and just felt a real affinity for it.... Such a melting pot of cultures and people. Anyway, while there, long story short, I found a passage through to the 1940s.

I couldn’t tell my DW, I was worried that she would think I was mad, but I did confide in my best friend who is a graphic designer. One thing lead to another and I went back to the 40s a few times, and my best friend designed me counterfeit ration books and stuff so that I could fit in.

This was about three years ago. I became addicted to going back and ended up- entirely by accident- married to a woman from the 40s and convincing a load of people- including Noel Coward- that I wrote the entire catalogue of Lennon and McCartney’s work.

I’m in too deep, can’t sleep, constantly anxious. Would I BU to confess all to my (contemporary) wife and brick up the portal?

viques · 16/08/2021 13:22

[quote Ashard20]@viques
I wouldn't move if I were you. Some of those other pretty villages are also full of murder and intrigue...I've heard of florists dying with scissors stuck in their neck, romantic but sleazy couples found beheaded after suspicious car crashes, not to mention rampant swans.
YANBU to feel like this but I'd stay put. The grass is always greener etc and as long as it doesn't get too busy in the middle of July and August, you'll be fine.
Just stay away from cheese wheels and trust no one![/quote]
Thanks for replying. We recently looked at a fabulous property in a similar village in Yorkshire but realised just in time that it had been the epicentre of a number of very dramatic accidents over the years, plane and helicopter crashes, floods, fires, lightning strikes and multi vehicle crashes to name a few. The insurance premiums on the property were eye watering, and my OH said he would feel safer on a small leaky boat drifting in shark infested seas in the Bermuda Triangle.

We are now looking at ugly little houses in small unphotogenic villages with no community facilities like village halls, shops or pubs and with really poor internet connection.

viques · 16/08/2021 13:26

@ChazsBrilliantAttitude

viques Perhaps you would be better off in a historic university city. My aunt’s friend lives in another quiet village and she is forever tripping over dead bodies even when she goes on holiday to nice hotel.
Thanks for the tip! I will get searching on Rightmove.
Runningupthecurtains · 16/08/2021 13:49

@viques

I live in a beautiful, quintessential English country village, honestly, it’s stunning, also helped by the fact that we are in a weather pocket so it is always warm and sunny. When we moved in we were overwhelmed by the way we were welcomed into the community and really though we had found our forever home. However, since we arrived, and apparently for some years before that, there have been a huge number of gruesome murders in the neighbourhood, and it turns out that most were committed by local people, many of whom we knew and liked. Funnily enough one of my neighbours is a senior police officer, but when I asked him about it he shrugged his shoulders and didn’t seem to think there was a problem.

I know MN neighbour threads are usually about parking, noise , feral children , trampolines and piles of logs, but please can you help me by voting.

Should we move?

YABU - An above average suspicious death rate is is part and parcel of perfect country life like church bells and cockerels. Stop being a wimpy townie.

YANBU - Don’t mention it to potential house purchasers.

If good weather is important to you might I suggest you relocate to a small Caribbean island. I believe there is one that has a reassuring British police presence.