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AIBU husband and waitress?

214 replies

Millionnewnames · 13/08/2021 11:33

Husband and I own a small cafe. We live in the flat above with my parents. We have two young girls working for us front of house, they are delightful and hardworking.
After noticing we were running low on a few things in the kitchen I went down into the cellar to get them and found one of the waitresses draped around my husband. I furiously asked WTF he was doing and he called me ‘a stupid woman’ and told me the girl had fainted after seeing a huge spider clambering about in the onions. He was stopping her from hurting herself as she fell.
I’m not sure what to think now.

P.s lighthearted. Bored. Guess the show and add your own.

OP posts:
MrsLCSofLichfield · 13/08/2021 13:53

@Nc123 - I think these men are behaving very sadly and you should LTB.

Novelusername · 13/08/2021 13:54

Ashard20 Is there anything (or anyone) in your life that makes your heart flutter?

MrsLCSofLichfield · 13/08/2021 13:57

@Ashard20 - I think I know you you feel. Do you just want to do something rebellious and exciting, but you don't know where to start? Do you keep thinking of silly things, like getting the impulse to shout out "TESCO!" when you are in Sainsbury's?

dunkaccino · 13/08/2021 13:59

I've been sent to work in the arse end of nowhere, in a village full of complete idiots. One of them is trying to poison me with ridiculous food combinations, one is stuck so far up his own backside and his son is a foppy fool, and my 'helper' is fucking insane. Please send help, lots of chocolate and a hot man.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 13/08/2021 14:01

@SurferRona

I have job running a house in the country, looking after three men. One is a sweary alcoholic, one is an eight year old in a mans body and the other, who thinks he’s in charge, has defrauded a charity of its money Shock. After years looking after them, the fella in charge has now brought in equipment to automate my job (making tea mostly). Clearly I am going to LTCB and run away with our milkman and his massive tool, but should I take them to a tribunal for constructive dismissal? Should I get this moved to the legal board for proper advice?
Careful now! And Down with this sort of thing!
UnoriginalPenguin · 13/08/2021 14:02

@dunkaccino
Your prayers will be answered one day.

MadamBatty · 13/08/2021 14:03

I’m beginning to think my friend looks down on me somewhat. I mean I love her to bits & we know each other since school but there’s just something I can’t put my finger in.

She’s always been the glamorous, attractive one though she’s has a hard time lately. Her husband died & she had to move from her stately home Manor to the gate lodge.

Now the Manor has a dishy new owner & I think he fancies me. Once again though I think my friend is making a play for him.

What should I do, gosh this is difficult

TimeIhadaNameChange · 13/08/2021 14:03

Is it ALWAYS a red flag when a man says he works as a spy?

My friends say my new fella is obviously married and I'm just his bit on the side, but I think they're just jealous. I know he works away a lot, which could be suspicious, but he seems to know what's going on in this blasted war almost before it happens, so he HAS to be legit, surely? And he always brings me expensive presents such as chocolate and stockings so AIBU in thinking my friends are just envious of my good fortune?

TimeIhadaNameChange · 13/08/2021 14:06

@MadamBatty unfortunately I fear your friend, who was to the manor born, will to the manor return. I suggest you ask the new owner to introduce you to some of his friends.

Ashard20 · 13/08/2021 14:07

@Novelusername Would it be disloyal to say yes...but he has a chauffeur. I'm sure he's terribly stuck up. My heart is fluttering like little wings.
@MillionnewnamesYes , yes - that's me! The most rebellious thing I get to do is drive the painted mini into town.

MadamBatty · 13/08/2021 14:13

@TimeIhadaNameChange

Darn & blast, he was always so nice to me. I’m just being silly again as Audrey says. I should know better, silly mousey old me.

ClawedButler · 13/08/2021 14:17

@TimeIhadaNameChange

Is it ALWAYS a red flag when a man says he works as a spy?

My friends say my new fella is obviously married and I'm just his bit on the side, but I think they're just jealous. I know he works away a lot, which could be suspicious, but he seems to know what's going on in this blasted war almost before it happens, so he HAS to be legit, surely? And he always brings me expensive presents such as chocolate and stockings so AIBU in thinking my friends are just envious of my good fortune?

Tricky, but if he was to, oh I don't know, compose a bunch of amazing songs I'd never heard the like of before, I reckon I could forgive him.
vampirethriller · 13/08/2021 14:17

@AutistGoth well you see I have asked them but they don't seem all that keen. In fact one of them couldn't wait to get away. I can't think why, I made them some lovely pastries.

AutistGoth · 13/08/2021 14:20

I'm fond if my DP, but he does seem to get into a lot of trouble. A few examples: accidentally smashing a priceless chandelier at a stately home with his brother and late grandad. Painting the local restaurant with luminous paint and failing to stand upright at the bar when trying to "play it cool."

Now, I'm a live singer - I admit that as I've got older career opportunities have dried up somewhat. My DP's idea of getting me back onstage was to set me up with a vocalist who had difficulty pronouncing his "Rs."

So as not to drip feed, we live in a high rise building development which has seen better days, with his well-meaning but frankly plonker of a brother and his ageing uncle who won't stop going on about the war.

Should I stick it out or LTB?

ViciousJackdaw · 13/08/2021 14:22

I've had it up to here with DH. He wanders round the house shirtless all the time, even when we have guests. He's got stacks of dusty old science magazines in the garage that he refuses to get rid of and one time, he even brought a dead fox into the house. As for my boys, I just wish they'd get themselves nice girlfriends and settle down.

Mathscourses · 13/08/2021 14:24

@Nc123, I think you should stay with your DP who shares a house with his best mate.

I have a feeling that in a few years time he’ll be working as a GP in a pretty Cornish town where it’s always sunny and summer. He’ll be earning loads of money and will make your supper every evening, even though it will always be a nice fish. You can pretend to work as the practice nurse, but really just go out looking for fit surfers every day. Or Al, if that’s how your tastes run.

Be careful of the local vet, though. I think she will pretend to be you.

alwaysinpainofsomesort · 13/08/2021 14:25

@ViciousJackdaw Tell him to shit on the old magazines and chuck them on a bonfire! Oh, and get the bambino’s to help! 😉😆

AbsolutelyPatsy · 13/08/2021 14:27

i have just come back from a dreadful trip with my dh, we borrowed a car and went for a picnic
oh my goodness, the car was hanging off the edge of the cliff would you believe it,

we are home safe now, as safe as i can expect with my dh,

drudgewithagrudge · 13/08/2021 14:29

My husband is a keen cyclist but I think he uses it as an excuse to meet up with the local blonde bombshell. He pesters our neighbour to take messages to her at her workplace and pretends to take up various hobbies as an excuse to not turn out the back bedroom. My friends who I meet for coffee sympathise but tell me not to LTB but stay and make his life a misery. What shall I do ?

Gwenhwyfar · 13/08/2021 14:31

[quote alwaysinpainofsomesort]@SurferRona That would be an ecumenical matter! 😉[/quote]
The money was only resting in his account.

alwaysinpainofsomesort · 13/08/2021 14:32

My DP is obsessed with metal detecting! He’s always out in a field somewhere or having meetings with his fellow enthusiasts, where they ‘show and tell’ their latest finds (usually bottle tops and old, worthless coins). He can’t seem to hold down a job either so spends all his time on his hobby. We have a young son so he’s got responsibilities now but he is still obsessing over finding gold and something called a ‘gold dance’. My DM says I should LTB but I love him?! What should I do?!

Dramalady52 · 13/08/2021 14:35

Madam Edith, I think you should pay attention to that lovely undertaker with the dicky ticker and leave your husband to the communist resistance

alwaysinpainofsomesort · 13/08/2021 14:38

@AbsolutelyPatsy

i have just come back from a dreadful trip with my dh, we borrowed a car and went for a picnic oh my goodness, the car was hanging off the edge of the cliff would you believe it,

we are home safe now, as safe as i can expect with my dh,

I don’t believe it! 😮😉😆
MsFannySqueers · 13/08/2021 14:38

Myself and my flat mate need a third person to share with us.We are both female and considering a male flat mate. Do you think this arrangement could possibly work? Our landlord lives in the flat downstairs. His wife seems very keen on the young man we are thinking of sharing with.

whyayepetal · 13/08/2021 14:40

OP, if yo were looking for the gateau, I believe you left it in the chateau.

(And be careful Mum, I think Uncle Arthur is on dadsnet)

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