Thinking ‘couple time’changes when you’re pregnsnt

[LBirch02]

Went out with my boyfriend on Sunday on our first proper day out together - to a tourist type city about 10 miles away so plenty of nice walks etc - since finding out I’m pregnant- it felt exciting in a way - but I had burning indigestion for a lot of the day - so I was complaining I had tummy ache and needed a wee for a lot of the time! In other words I feel like my boyfriend’s just acquired a toddler I want to make our days out and date nights nice and romantic but since being pregnant I either need to wee, burp or sit down every 5 seconds 😂 I was just wondering is this what family days out are going to be like now - I think my boyfriend’s illusions of me have been shattered! The elasticated waist trousers has also now had to come in so he’s already lost his body conscious, gym bunny girlfriend!

Oh God yes first trimester was the pits esp with my first, between 6 and 10 weeks I only made it to work every 2nd day, it was awful. It got better though OP and the middle part was quite fun! And the first tri wasn't nearly as bad with subsequent babies although the needing to wee aspect was pretty much constant for all of them.. fun times!!
I hope you feel a bit more energetic and comfortable soon

I never got a glow. I never got that dark line you get from your bellybutton either. I don’t know why but I felt really cheated out of that 😂

I miss wine. That never went away.

To be fair, I think the early stage of pregnancy can be almost as hard as the latter stage. I was sensitive to smells, had cramps so I was always checking I wasn't bleeding and felt so drained. Plus you haven't had any of the good bits that reassure you, like scans and feeling movements. The second trimester was when I felt really good in pregnancy so hopefully you'll have a bit of a break from your symptoms.

@LBirch02 maternity tights are the best thing about pregnancy. I do not lie. Even though its just bloating now, comfort is key.

You need to tailor your dates. You're not sleeping so screw the romantic walks. Taxi, dinner, taxi. Or cinema, ice cream, car etc.

Whilst various bits ache now, enjoy SITTING. once your large baby is low, it'll hurt to even do that and you'll end up on your feet.

How sure are you it isn't twins? 👶👶

God, everyone's being so mean! At 8 weeks I felt horrendous. I was bloated, constantly nauseous and throwing up for hours every day, crying all the time and also had insomnia so bad I was sleeping about 3 hours a night. It was a nightmare. A nightmare which continued until DS made his appearance at 39 weeks .

Hang in there OP. Make sure to get loads of rest, even if you're not asleep. I used to go to bed at 7pm and just stare into the void because I was too wiped to do anything else.

Plan on going out again in about 7 or 8 years...

You won't get more sleep as pregnancy progresses, it'll be less, go to the gp and get a prescription for the giant bottles of gaviscon.

It'll be a long 9 months at this rate!

Op how do you know it's not a multiple if you're 8 weeks? The baby is the size of a Berry - you jeans should still fit fine!

I get you are excited op, but seriously, did you not realise pregnancy would change your body and your relationship?

You think you're struggling with peeing so much now? Wait til you've had the baby, then everytime you sneeze or laugh you risk peeing. Your belly may be saggy, your bits won't look the same and your boobs won't look the same. You may never lose the weight you gain from pregnancy. If you're lucky, none of that will happen, but that's luck and not many women have it.

Your relationship is going to be strained to hell and back. Dates are unlikely to happen sex may not happen for weeks or months after birth. You'll both be knackered constantly.

This is all obvious and I don't get why people are surprised by how much it changes your life. A child is like throwing a grenade into your relationship. Some relationships don't survive it.

I used to keep gaviscon tablets in my handbag at all times and a gaviscon bottle by my bed for night time chugging! In the first trimester I would wake up with a flat(ish) stomach and as soon as I ate/drank anything it would bloat massively for the rest of the day, but the ‘proper’ bump came later, around 16 weeks I think. Second trimester is usually the easiest, not too long till things improve OP 🤞

Bloody hell. Alot of people got out the wrong side of bed today!
OP I've never felt worse than the first trimester ( although its much easier with your first than subsequent so please put your feet up and enjoy!) I felt better from 13 weeks onwards ish and now at 33 weeks I'm starting to struggle again now, but again having two other small kids to look after makes it harder!
I don't think your dramatic I definitely got a hint of humour in there! Make sure your other half is looking after you and milk it with him for all its worth! I always wish I had a made more fuss as once baby is here its all about them!

First trimester was worst for me from 6-13weeks I was so ill, exhausted and bloated. Things tend to be better for most folk in the 2nd trimester.

Now at 35 weeks I pee constantly, bending etc is uncomfortable as is sleeping plus lugging a kicking watermelon about is tiring. That said I don't really have other symptoms so consider myself lucky!! Good luck and hope you feel better!

I remember when I was 30 weeks pregnant and me and my OH went for a day trip out to Lyme Regis. I sneezed and wet myself and didnt have a change of trousers. Ah the good times. OP you have a loooooong way to go.

This thread is horrible.

Ah thanks for all the kind and supportive words - I’m not 100% sure it’s not a multiple pregnancy I was just going by balance of probabilities - no specific reason to think it is! I think my jeans don’t fit probably because I’ve been overdoing it a bit on the comfort foods

I never felt worse in my life than during first trimester of pregnancy (also suffer severely with sickness) and am now almost a week over due , but still doesn't compare to how bad I felt at 8 weeks, different people have different severity of symptoms throughout, hopefully second trimester will be better for you, my pregnancies are always just varying days of bad and worse unfortunately.

heygirlhey aw at least the end is in sight for you! I’m 5ft 1 so by 35 weeks I’ll probably be all bump!

@LBirch02

Ah thanks for all the kind and supportive words - I’m not 100% sure it’s not a multiple pregnancy I was just going by balance of probabilities - no specific reason to think it is! I think my jeans don’t fit probably because I’ve been overdoing it a bit on the comfort foods

Also - I was super bloated at the start of my pregnancy. I didnt fit into anything. I thought/assumed it was multiples too, but turns out my bloating was just massive! I started wearing maternity uniform at work when I was like 16 weeks pregnant and loads of people commented negatively. Fuck em, OP! Wear what makes you comfy.

Aw good luck with the birth surreymum89 sorry to hear that you’ve suffered badly with the symptoms

The first trimester was awful for me in three of my pregnancies. I just felt sick all of the time and I couldn’t shake it at all, I still had to crack on with life but honestly constantly felt like I had a stomach bug mixed with a hangover. It never disappeared at 12 weeks as is promised either, it took until closer to 20 weeks for me.

Not sure why your feet would already be sore, your baby is currently the size of a peanut so it won’t be causing any extra weight. Maybe you need some running shoes or walking boots?

Sorry OP I laughed out loud to see you’re only 8 weeks but tbh, I struggled more between 8-14 weeks than I have in the third trimester. I just feel a lot heavier and sore now but for me it’s not a patch on the sickness and constant UTI’s I had in the first trimester.

Ignore the nasty comments OP, I was a mess in the first trimester and felt horrendous as developed hyperemisis. Even walking to the top of the road was torture as felt so weak and even into the 2nd trimester i had to take regular breaks when walking the dog! I also bloated really early too so ditched the jeans ASAP!

Hopefully you'll get respite soon and feel 'normal!' but you're right, our date nights are now on the sofa whilst i fall asleep at 7.30pm (34 weeks now!)

Enjoy your pregnancy and hold on for a few more weeks and you should feel lots better :)

Hemingway - I think the insomnia is at the root of my sore feet - I think insomnia causes any fairly small symptoms to be exaggerated

Alot of women find the first 3 months difficult then it gets easier toward the end but some people just have shite pregnancies! It's only 9 months tho!

My first pregnancy was great no complaints what so ever! But this time I feel like all I do is complain even tho everything is going well and I'm not struggling I just moan moan moan!

Im 35 weeks tho so not long left