Thinking ‘couple time’changes when you’re pregnsnt

[LBirch02]

Went out with my boyfriend on Sunday on our first proper day out together - to a tourist type city about 10 miles away so plenty of nice walks etc - since finding out I’m pregnant- it felt exciting in a way - but I had burning indigestion for a lot of the day - so I was complaining I had tummy ache and needed a wee for a lot of the time! In other words I feel like my boyfriend’s just acquired a toddler I want to make our days out and date nights nice and romantic but since being pregnant I either need to wee, burp or sit down every 5 seconds 😂 I was just wondering is this what family days out are going to be like now - I think my boyfriend’s illusions of me have been shattered! The elasticated waist trousers has also now had to come in so he’s already lost his body conscious, gym bunny girlfriend!

Obviously things will be different. Did you think nothing would change? You’ve very precious aren’t you 🙄

I felt worse in my first 12 weeks than the rest of the pregnancy - I was just so tired all the time, and it felt like I had a constant hangover, just - bleugh. Then after that it got easier and I really enjoyed the rest of my pregnancy. Every pregnancy is so different though, so just listen to your body and if you're struggling just plan things that involve less walking etc.

Thanks for sharing your experiences - nice to know that things can improve - I think insomnia - which as we all know is a insert expletive of your choice here is exacerbating my symptoms. But I’ve overcome insomnia naturally before - so although unpleasant - not duly worried

Ah come on. I do think the OP is possibly being a touch dramatic (sorry Op and I agree the first trimester is hard at times especially if you don’t know what to expect!)

But let’s hold off on the bullying and verbally abusing pregnant women shall we. I’ve been a victim of that on here myself and it sucks.

@Lagirl20 my comment is directed at you really- you sound horrible.

Sorry to say but you’ll be needing a wee all the time for the next 7 months..... also I think I was a bit bloated before I had a bump.
I’m afraid this is all part of being pregnant, it’s not glamorous... I had piles and ginormous leaky boobs too with all 3 of mine.

Lagirl20 just always thought my own pregnancy = nice neat little bump - no unladylike symptoms

Everyone is different in pregnancy but at 8 weeks hardly anyone knew I was pregnant and no one even wondered. I was a work full time and just getting on with my life, in my normal clothes until 14 weeks. Normal life never resumes once you have a child OP 🤣🤣

Gaviscon is a life changer for heartburn

The wee thing is hormonal right now and will probably ease off, it did for me. But now I’m going all the time because there’s a big lump of baby kicking around on it. I’m exhausted from weeing.

Sounds like you can all relate at some level - as soon as I get back to sleeping normally I think there’ll be an easing of symptoms- personally - I think this is making it worse

I found the first trimester the worst, I remember being on a coach very early on and needing to ask the person next to me to move about 10 times as I kept needing a wee! I was also pretty bloated and moved to elasticated waist stuff too, but mainly as my regular clothes I liked to wear form fitting so wasn't any give! It did settle though.

But no, days out won't ever be the same again, but that's not necessarily a bad thing!

SmidgenofaPigeon ah that’s where we’re different- people have guessed with me. At first I honestly thought that the morning sick feeling was down to not eating at all the previous evening - I wasn’t connecting it with pregnancy at all but other people were!

A word of warning - I had pregnancy insomnia from conception to birth... I watched a lot of Netflix and read a lot of books through the nights.

Indigestion is the root of all evilness!! I had it with my first and Rennies helped a lot. I will admit that the first real relief i felt from it was sitting in the delivery suite holding my baby, the nurse offered me a cuppa and I thought "wow I actually don't have indigestion right now!"

And the peeing thing never stopped for me even nearly 8 years and 1 more child later so my advice is do your kegel exercises every day!!

Good luck and congratulations

@PurpleDaisies

This is going to be a very long pregnancy.

OP, you do know that an 8 week fetus is the size of a raspberry and weighs about . 04 ounces, don't you? A week ago it was still considered an embryo.

You’ve posted in aibu op so people are going to be unnecessarily horrible.

It’s well known that the first trimester sucks the hardest. I was sick, bloated and really ill from about 6 weeks onwards with both of my pregnancies. Just take it easy, have date nights but no long walks if you can’t manage it!

Ignore any mean spirited comments OP. Everyone's pregnancy is different. I found the middle bit ok but was so tired in the first trimester (and bloated) and found the third really tough. I liked the Gaviscon dual action tablets

I think pregnancy changed my lifestyle more than I was prepared for physically and mentally (and I hadn't been out drinking all of the time before so not in an obvious way) - it's a transition period before the baby is born in more ways than I had realised.

@SheABitSpicyToday not for everyone- that’s the point! I barely noticed trimester 1 apart from feeling tired and nauseous but not terribly, of course I thought I was really suffering- until I hit 32 weeks. These last few weeks for me since then are hands down the hardest.

Other than the last few weeks before birth, the first trimester is always by far the hardest for me.

It's rather unkind to tell OP she's making a meal of it. It's different for everyone.

I really struggled in the 1st trimester as well. I became very tired, nauseous and bloated from 8 weeks and had to buy loose clothes as my normal bottoms didnt fit. It got easier from around 13/14 weeks though, I loved the 2nd and early 3rd trimester but the last few weeks were though.

Ahhhh some of these comments are a teeny bit mean! Although I get it from the perspective of you still have a long way to go...

I felt awful from 5/6 weeks....exhausted, bloated, indigestion and then came the Hyperemesis Gravidarum which lasted righttttt through to 32 weeks when DD was born.

Unfortunately, the ideal of 'natural glow, neat little bump' often isn't the reality of pregnancy :D

Agree with @eurochick. The insomnia may not go away.
My daughter is 17 months and I still don't sleep much. I'm 13wks pregnant with my second and my sleep is getting worse and worse. I'm absolutely exhausted and fed up of watching the clock most of the night.

Being pregnant in the first few weeks really affects some people. Don’t let some posters put you down OP. They’re just being nasty to suggest you’re milking it.

She’s probably just excited.

People are being very judgemental. I love how everyone assumes that if they were fine at 8 weeks everyone is 🙄 At 8 weeks pregnant I was super bloated, absolutely exhausted, nauseous 24 hours a day, vomiting, and definitely not a fun date. 2nd trimester was a dream in comparison! OP if it makes you feel better, 13-28 weeks was a much nicer time for me. Also you get an actual defined bump rather than that delightful bloated fat feeling you have early on. Can't promise the peeing and wind will go anywhere though 😬