AIBU that nobody in their right mind could ever aspire to or have a goal of being half of a relationship with someone found guilty of killing another person?
YABU to make it such a black and white issue. It is entirely dependent on the situation and thr context as to whether a relationship with someone who has caused someone's death is viable. There is a difference between someone who made one stupid decision to get behind the wheel when drunk and someone who went out with the intention of killing someone.
Not everyone who causes someone else's death sets out with the intention of becoming a killer. I have a friend who was out clubbing when we were all 18/19, there was confusion over taxis at the end of the night and there was a bit of a scrap between his group of mates and another group of lads in the street. My friend grabbed a guy who had jumped on the back of another friend and had him in a headlock. He pulled him off his friend and threw the guy down onto the ground. 99 times out of 100 the guy would have ended up a bit winded but would have been fine. On this occasion, when the guy hit the ground he caught his head on the corner of a kerbstone, it caused a bleed on his brain and he was found dead the following morning.
My friend was arrested and charged with manslaughter and he was absolutely distraught and filled with remorse when he was told what had happened. He pleaded guilty and went to prison. He tried to kill himself within the first week and spent the first 6 months of his sentence on suicide watch until he managed to get seen by the MH team.
He was lucky to get into a couple of MH programs that helped him deal with what happened and he spent the majority of his sentence working with a charity who employs ex-offenders to come into the prisons to rehabilitate offenders who were convicted of crimes involving alcohol and/or violence. When he was released he went to work for the same charity, going both into prisons to work with offenders but also into schools and colleges to have talks with students about binge drinking.
We are now in our mid 30s, he is now the case manager for the charity he works for, volunteers for a local mental health charity, set up a "Street Angels" program (volunteers work with the local police to keep everyone safe as they leave clubs at the weekends by doing little things like giving out sweets/lollipops to big groups as they then can't be shouting at each other to trigger fights with a mouthful of sweets) is married and has two young children. If you met him today you would never know his history and people are often shocked to find out he has even been in prison, never mind what he was convicted of. He doesn't lie about his past if someone asks about it, but he doesn't walk around with an "I KILLED A MAN" tattooed on his forehead either.