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AIBU?

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AIBU to ask people to lateral flow test?

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Teachertired92 · 09/08/2021 20:25

I’m due to have my first baby in 3 weeks and I have said if covid rates are still high in my area, I want people to complete a lateral flow before coming over and holding my baby for the first few weeks to give her immune system a chance to improve.
Some people are saying this is ridiculous and they won’t be coming over, including close family members. They claim I’m stopping them seeing their new family member.
AIBU?

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Teachertired92 · 11/08/2021 07:53

@Curiosity101 I’ve been anxious about the vaccine as well, it’s only this last week that the midwives have been recommending it to pregnant women so I’ve been given some research into it and also have an appointment with my GP to discuss. I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place with it all and don’t know what to do for the best anymore. And before pregnancy I wasn’t really worried about covid but now it feels like my mind has done a total U turn on everything

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Curiosity101 · 11/08/2021 11:36

@Teachertired92 Well good luck with the remainder of pregnancy and the birth 😊. This will soon be a distant memory.

Hope you make a decision you're happy with regarding the vaccine too. It really is a hard decision. I'm on a birth group with lots of other September mums to be and it has been a regular topic of conversation. If it helps at all, the vast majority of us have had at least one vaccination. But a number of people have made the decision to wait. None of us can possibly say who has made the right/wrong decision. But I can be confident that of the ones that have had it (probably 100+ in our group) no one has reported any issues so far so I'm still feeling really glad I've had both my doses.

123deepbreath · 11/08/2021 13:45

Most definitely not unreasonable, we're asking people to LFT prior to coming to see us, I'm 36 weeks pregnant now, it's just an extra layer of protection for asymptomatic cases from our point of view, it's not a perfect test but it's better than nothing!

Confused102 · 11/08/2021 13:53

Honestly I wouldn't be asking for anyone to visit for at least a few months. My dh would also agree with this.

youdoyoutoday · 11/08/2021 13:56

Your newborn, your say, that's it.

thing47 · 11/08/2021 14:39

OP if it's the gagging which is the issue (I think you mentioned this in one of your earlier posts), you can now get LFTs which only require a nasal swap, not a throat one. Just a thought.

On your general point YANBU – your baby, your rules. Anyone trying to pressure you into a different opinion than that can be told to fuck off.

SianyBabe1 · 14/09/2021 10:13

My parents want me to have one before I can go to their house. I've said no. Firstly, it would make me sick and secondly it is not reliable whatsoever.

JaninesEyePatch · 14/09/2021 10:17

I am normally fairly laid back about these things but even I would say YANBU.

You are not stopping them coming over, just asking to take a quick test which will barely inconvenience them.

The fact they are acting like this I think I would be inclined to now say they are not coming at all.

Hope all goes well and congratulations on the new arrival when the time comes! Enjoy those newborn snuggles x

SisterBeaverhausen · 14/09/2021 10:29

Yanbu I have asked my family and friends to do the same leading up to and after the birth of my baby (I'm due in November)

Star81 · 14/09/2021 10:41

If your family can’t respect you wishes and do a simple, free lateral flow test then they are stopping themselves seeing the new baby, not you.

lockdownmadnessdotcom · 14/09/2021 10:51

@Potatoy

Perfectly reasonable. I do one before I go and visit my nan. Its good to protect the most vulnerable.

Well it might be if they were more useful than a chocolate teapot.

OP are you vaccinated/have you had covid? If so I think your antibodies will pass to your baby anyway. That's the best way to protect the baby.

LFTs are a complete waste of time.

The way I see it, the 30 seconds of being uncomfortable isn’t worth risking my daughter getting covid

That's fine - if people find it too uncomfortable, they can just see you outside.

Ellie56 · 14/09/2021 11:08

They claim I’m stopping them seeing their new family member.

No they're stopping themselves by refusing to go along with your request.

It's your baby and your decision. If they don't like it they can lump it.

SianyBabe1 · 14/09/2021 12:48

So having something stuck down your throat that will make you physically sick.....and yes, I have tried twice....same thing....was sick...is OK ? Don't think so. I can keep a distance, but not gonna make myself puke up every time I want to see my family. They are not even reliable.

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