AIBU to ask people to lateral flow test?

[Teachertired92]

I’m due to have my first baby in 3 weeks and I have said if covid rates are still high in my area, I want people to complete a lateral flow before coming over and holding my baby for the first few weeks to give her immune system a chance to improve.
Some people are saying this is ridiculous and they won’t be coming over, including close family members. They claim I’m stopping them seeing their new family member.
AIBU?

I don't think YABU. I think its common courtesy to do a test before we see someone who is a higher risk.

I have a colleague at work who is a higher risk, so if I know I'm going to see him, I always do a lateral flow test.
I also wear my mask in his presence too. He says it's not required, but I will do all I can to keep him as safe as possible.

I can't understand why anyone would refuse. Surely we're all in the habit now of testing before seeing anyone vulnerable?

I stayed with my sister this weekend for the first time in the pandemic. We all tested beforehand. Why wouldn't you when it's so easy?

If nothing else, the last thing a new mum needs is Covid herself!

Ynbu. It seems fair enough. I would wait until visitors didn't need a test to come to your house before I came.

You’re definitely doing the right thing in taking sensible precautions. The new LFT kits are only to be used to swab your nose by the way, so they don’t have to do their throat and make themselves gag (pathetic excuse anyway though).

YANBU OP. I'm pregnant and due in November, if covid cases are still high only vaccinated people (besides my nephews who are children) will be meeting the baby. I'm not open to debate about this. All our immediate families and most friends are vaccinated. The friends who aren't vaccinated are the covid denier anti vaxx types who I've distanced myself a bit from anyway because of their ridiculous conspiracies. My friend who has been incredibly careful about covid was a close contact a week after giving birth along with her new baby, thankfully they were OK but it was a very fraught time for her as a new mum.

LFTs are free, come the day after they are ordered, are dead simple to do and help keep us all safe... And lots of us have been doing them routinely for months in order to visit care homes or in connection with our work. YANBU.

[quote Abouttimemum]@enoughforme that is factually incorrect.[/quote]
It's fact that I had Covid and took two tests negative.

My husband didn't test positive until his forth test.

It is well known the tests are FAR from accurate, FACT

I will say though that the person who had covid had taken a LFT the day of meeting my friend, it was negative (so false sense of security), the next day she developed symptoms and got a positive PCR. Although a lateral flow for me is better than nothing.

Your baby. Your house. Your rules. If they're so petty to not take a LF then they're the ones cutting their nose off to spit their face.

Your baby, your rules. You’re not stopping them meeting her, they just have to do this one thing. They will be the ones preventing themselves from meeting her if they don’t 🤷‍♀️

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I think its a good idea to get people to test. Atleast your doing what you can to stop your baby catching it.
I have a heavily pregnant friend who asks if people can do a test before meeting up with them. We all just send her a picture of the test before we leave to meet.

People should be respecting your wishes and doing what they can to ease your anxiety's. Anyone who refuses then dont let them see your baby. If they cant respect you on something as simple as that then they dont deserve to hold your precious baby, its so rude of them.

Congrats by the way, please dont feel bullied. Enjoy your baby

Have you been vaccinated, OP?

There's growing evidence that babies receive a good level of antibodies from their mother's vaccination so that will help protect your newborn.

Once again OP, I would say no visitors for the first few weeks regardless of any testing.

I currently testing before any social event, only polite imo
Yanbu, it is no hardship to do a test imo

You are asking this because of your anxiety, not because there’s a real need for people who have been double vaccinated to test before coming to see you.

Your relatives should do what you ask as new mums are allowed to be slightly unreasonable, but I can see why they’d think it was OTT.

YANBU to decide this but YABU to be disappointed that some people will decide not to come. It's up to them whether they want to put themselves through the testing procedure or not.

Presumably you will be testing yourself at least daily?

@ChainJane I test every time I go out, but staying in most of the time now and don’t plan on going anywhere after baby is born until rates in my area drop. But will continue to test each time I socialise or go anywhere. I’m not disappointed they’ve decided not to come, it’s more the constant texts telling me how unreasonable I am being and that I’m preventing them bonding with the baby and how awful I’m being to them. If they simply said that’s fine I won’t come, but look forward to coming when you’re ready I would totally understand

@F107

Since Thursday I’ve had COVID symptoms. I took lateral flow tests on Thurs, Fri, Sat and they all came back negative. Took a PCR test Sat and it was negative. It’s taken until Sunday (the fourth day of being ill) for both the lateral flow and PCR test to pick up I have COVID.

My husband has infected me after picking it up on a stag and now 5 others from that group have tested positive. They all had negative lateral flow tests for days despite having symptoms.

Lateral flow test are unlikely to protect you or your family and your best of isolating as much as you can.

This is why Lateral Flow Tests are not meant to be used if symptomatic as they don't usually detect Covid once it's become symptomatic. Please follow advice in future

I do a lateral flow test on my DS before I take him for play meets at the park. It’s not 100% accurate, but that negative test coupled with the fact they will be outdoors gives me enough peace of mind to know it will be safe.

Yanbu

YANBU. We’ve had a few babies born in our family this year and I’ve LFTed before seeing them each time. They didn’t ask but I thought it was sensible

I completely agree with you. If they are not willing to do a test which takes two mins, then they don't get cuddles with new baby!

Hope all goes well.

YANBU at all and I did the same when DD was born. But I found most people were sensible and turned up in masks without being asked to. My HV told me that one of her other newborns recently caught covid and had to be resuscitated after the Dad caught covid at a Euros party.

NBU to ask, but VU to take offence if they decide they can’t be bothered with the hassle and will wait to see you.

I don't think you're putting them out. I'd happily do it, to give new parents peace of
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