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To write a sarcy comment on this fb post?

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Sunshineandlollyfucks · 09/08/2021 19:22

I know I probably am bu Grin
But often people are so bloody entitled and it drives me mad.
DD goes to a popular nursery in the area which accepts both private paid and government funded children.
As it’s a lovely nursery there is often a waiting list for places and you do really need to apply within a reasonable timeframe to get a place for the term. For example, my DD started in a September and I applied in the May before that and was told she was one of the last children they were accepting.

Anyway - I’m on a Facebook page for the local area and this lady has posted asking what time the nursery opens as she has been trying to call and email them for three days to apply for her son with no reply. I’ve politely answered her post to inform her that they’re currently closed for the summer and that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway. I also said that she might find that there’s no space and they’ll put her son on the waiting list or request that he starts in the January term instead.

She’s commented back with a screenshot of their website post from April this year stating that they’re now taking applications for September 2021 with the caption “can you please just tell me what time they are open so I can take my son over there for admission”. I haven’t replied to it at all because I think it is downright rude however I’m very tempted to say something back.

I know It’s not a big deal but it’s just the entitledness of this lady. She would be taking her son over there to meet a locked gate and empty building Grin

Anyway, rant over

OP posts:
Wineandroses3 · 09/08/2021 23:18

Your response sounds condescending

Willwebebuyingnumber11 · 09/08/2021 23:20

@TooBigForMyBoots name change, OP?

JustJoinedRightNow · 09/08/2021 23:24

Agree with pp, your initial reply wasn’t at all polite and sounded pretty smug, saying she would have been better doing something in the past which she obviously can’t change.

Stop gatekeeping the application process for the nursery - she only asked when it was open.

JoborPlay · 09/08/2021 23:28

@HmmmmmmInteresting

What kind of popular or otherwise nursery is closed for summer anyway?!

What do working people do?Confused

I was thinking this too!
JoborPlay · 09/08/2021 23:29

[quote YelloYelloYello]@TooBigForMyBoots do you really think polite to say ‘she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open’?[/quote]
I assumed it was a sarcastic response 😂

HaveringWavering · 09/08/2021 23:30

@Dishwashersaurous

Lots and lots of preschool are term time only. It's really common and normal
Most private ones stay open during school holidays. We’re going to miss that now he’s starting school.
PomegranateQueen · 09/08/2021 23:35

Yes she might be totally disorganised or there may be a very good reason why she has to apply so late. Marriage breakdown, landlord giving them notice etc.

You should have either helped her out politely or scrolled past.

MissCruellaDeVil · 09/08/2021 23:44

@TooBigForMyBoots

I can't believe the posts on this thread.Shock YADNBU OP. You have been nothing but helpful and polite to this stranger (who clearly doesn't know the area/schools/cafes).Hmm

Her response to your kindness has been snippy and dismissive.SadWine You have to let it go.Flowers At least you know to avoid her if you see her around. Which hopefully won't be often since your children will be at different nurseries.Smile

🤣🤣🤣
Whattheschitt · 09/08/2021 23:46

I love these threads. Nobody agrees with OP so they dissappear forever and no replies.

NoProblem123 · 09/08/2021 23:46

Don’t bother. She sounds quite rude and will learn soon enough anyway Grin

BSideBaby · 09/08/2021 23:56

Oh dear, you're THAT mum aren't you?

HmmmmmmInteresting · 10/08/2021 00:05

Bookmarking Motherland on my watchlist. I feel the need for material to rile me up .

Happymum12345 · 10/08/2021 00:10

Be kind enough to tell her the date and time it opens. She will realise soon enough if they’re full.

Member869894 · 10/08/2021 00:10

You sound awful

Shellfishblastard · 10/08/2021 00:42

To be fair, it’s better that the poor women knows she’s unlikely to get a space for September 😂

If they accept local authority funding she might get some info from the local authority too.

I’m assuming the OP’s response to her wasn’t as snippy as everyone here is making out (hopefully)

JuniperJuno · 10/08/2021 00:46

You are the rude one. Your comment would’ve got my back up! I would’ve been equally as snippy as she was if someone had been as smug and condescending as you were in your comment to her.

50ShadesOfCatholic · 10/08/2021 00:48

@TooBigForMyBoots

I can't believe the posts on this thread.Shock YADNBU OP. You have been nothing but helpful and polite to this stranger (who clearly doesn't know the area/schools/cafes).Hmm

Her response to your kindness has been snippy and dismissive.SadWine You have to let it go.Flowers At least you know to avoid her if you see her around. Which hopefully won't be often since your children will be at different nurseries.Smile

Grin Grin Grin Grin

Hello OP

timeisnotaline · 10/08/2021 00:54

@FourTeaFallOut

I’ve politely answered her post to inform her that they’re currently closed for the summer and that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway. I also said that she might find that there’s no space and they’ll put her son on the waiting list or request that he starts in the January term instead.

I'd have just stopped at letting her know that they are closed for the summer. Everything else is superfluous and guesswork designed to let her know how badly she has screwed this up.

This would all be helpful info to someone who didn’t understand how it worked and 100% accurate for any childcare near me. They wouldn’t have any places for September.
eekbumbler · 10/08/2021 01:16

It's a shame they don't actually segregate the nurseries really - those for the privately paid and those for the cough ughgovernmentfunded.

That way OP needn't worry at about these entiledness people with their over entitled ways because they wouldn't be asking silly questions.

Anyway - I was on Facebook and this Mum - Mum! Muummm... Muhm. Muh. M. Mm. Lady asked a question.

Silly billy. I could have told her she was asking the wrong question in the wrong way before she'd even thought of the question! I could have saved her a lot of questioning if only she'd known to know!

Huh.

Entitledidlness at its most entitled.

Yes.

That learned her a teaching.

TooBigForMyBoots · 10/08/2021 01:28

I'm not the OP.🐀

Suzi888 · 10/08/2021 02:02

I’d ignore it now. She’s probably in panic mode.

QueenBee52 · 10/08/2021 02:03

I feel sorry for the Lady on Facebook asking a simple question.. about the Nursery 😕

I don't think OP is coming back 😳

Meh2020 · 10/08/2021 03:17

Agree with others, you do sound condescending BUT also really judgemental; what’s the free Government hours got to do anything with whether it’s open or not…hmm I see what you’ve done there.

LongTimeMammaBear · 10/08/2021 03:33

Going back in to add further just makes you look like a knob. You’d just be escalating. Leave it

Make note of her name though and avoid her if she does manage to get her kid in to the nursery.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 10/08/2021 03:38

I may have thought bloody he'll you've left it a bit late but I wouldn't have said it. It's closed until Sept is all you had to say

A nursery attatched to a school wouldnt be open in holidays. One of mine went to private nursery until he started full time school , the other was at a school nursery and cm .