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To write a sarcy comment on this fb post?

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Sunshineandlollyfucks · 09/08/2021 19:22

I know I probably am bu Grin
But often people are so bloody entitled and it drives me mad.
DD goes to a popular nursery in the area which accepts both private paid and government funded children.
As it’s a lovely nursery there is often a waiting list for places and you do really need to apply within a reasonable timeframe to get a place for the term. For example, my DD started in a September and I applied in the May before that and was told she was one of the last children they were accepting.

Anyway - I’m on a Facebook page for the local area and this lady has posted asking what time the nursery opens as she has been trying to call and email them for three days to apply for her son with no reply. I’ve politely answered her post to inform her that they’re currently closed for the summer and that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway. I also said that she might find that there’s no space and they’ll put her son on the waiting list or request that he starts in the January term instead.

She’s commented back with a screenshot of their website post from April this year stating that they’re now taking applications for September 2021 with the caption “can you please just tell me what time they are open so I can take my son over there for admission”. I haven’t replied to it at all because I think it is downright rude however I’m very tempted to say something back.

I know It’s not a big deal but it’s just the entitledness of this lady. She would be taking her son over there to meet a locked gate and empty building Grin

Anyway, rant over

OP posts:
topwings · 09/08/2021 21:27

I thought that was a screenshot from April as OP said

Yes but applications are still being accepted as the website hasn't been updated to say that admissions are full. Potentially the OP is doing the nursery out of business by warning other parents off.

SeasonFinale · 09/08/2021 21:30

The only entitled person here was the OP!

First, OP, you actually don't know whether there are any spaces. There may be spaces for all sorts of reasons. Also you don't know the personal circumstances of the applicant. Her DC may be in a category that puts them up the wait list.

The polite answer would be that they were closed for Summer but term starts on x date. I may have even said to keep trying the email address as I would assume that someone will be picking up emails from time to time and wished her luck.

eekbumbler · 09/08/2021 21:30

What use is a nursery that closes for the entire summer anyway?

frumpety · 09/08/2021 21:37

Potentially the OP is doing the nursery out of business by warning other parents off.

They are closed, shut for the Summer and not answering any calls or emails. Maybe they will closer to the start of the new term, maybe they will have a space then, who know's.

Perhaps OP should just tell them the normal term time opening times and the other Mother can take her chances and turn up in the hope that someone is around ?

Miniestelle · 09/08/2021 21:40

Comment about the lady turning up to locked gates with her son and the grin after it is nasty.

I cannot believe your sense of 'entitleness' (?) That you expected your post to get some kind of round of applause for you from people. You posted in the hope everyone would laugh with you and suggest their own nasty comments for you to post. No one is laughing with you. At you maybe....

alltheemptyfields · 09/08/2021 21:51

@eekbumbler

What use is a nursery that closes for the entire summer anyway?
term-only nurseries are convenient for many parents, and you are not expected to pay to save the place. Win win.
frumpety · 09/08/2021 22:01

that she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open as they are probably full for September by now anyway. I also said that she might find that there’s no space and they’ll put her son on the waiting list or request that he starts in the January term instead.

I have to agree this bit was uneccessary OP, yes she is a bit bonkers thinking they are going to be open when she has been told they are shut for the Summer, but she is clearly having a bit of a panic, having left it to the last minute for whatever possibly legitimate reason.

AngelicaElizaAndPeggy · 09/08/2021 22:02

'We are so fortunate that our work in connecting the world through Facebook has given us the ability to give back to our local community, our country and the world'
Mark Zuckerberg

Bet he's proud right now.

Seriously - I think you can just leave it as it is. You've said what you said, let her crack on and work it out for herself. No need to invest yourself more now.

happydays2345 · 09/08/2021 22:04

@Catawaul

Why are you gatekeeping nursery applications?
This 😂
Trying2310 · 09/08/2021 22:08

You must have a lot of time on your hands to be bothered by this! The only one who was rude was you but I think you know that after reading all the other responses to your op.

Bluntness100 · 09/08/2021 22:13

What an odd thing to do op, you actually sound like you’re beinf all smug over nursery places.

Honestly there’s Amanda from motherland vibes in this. How odd.

NerrSnerr · 09/08/2021 22:15

I'm also not sure the relevance of the nursery that takes funded and private children? Don't all private nurseries take 2 year funding (and the 3 year funded hours??)

Bawse · 09/08/2021 22:15

@Catawaul

Why are you gatekeeping nursery applications?
Innit Grin
Twillow · 09/08/2021 22:18

YABU yes. It's really not a big deal, and you don't know anything about her or her situation.

Willwebebuyingnumber11 · 09/08/2021 22:19

Doesn’t seem much of a long waiting list but yeah, you could’ve just said they open in September..

Willwebebuyingnumber11 · 09/08/2021 22:20

@Bluntness100 yes to Amanda 😂😂

Honestly Julia, the nursery is closed for the summer. Surely you knew that? Everyone knew that.....

YoBeaches · 09/08/2021 22:21

You've no idea on her circumstances but have totally judged her when all she did is ask a simple question.

Stay out of it, nothing to do with you and your assumptions. If you can't be polite don't get involved at all.

lotusbell · 09/08/2021 22:22

"Gandalf of the nursery " 🤣🤣🤣

MsHedgehog · 09/08/2021 22:31

Yeah you sounded very unpleasant in your post, especially as you know nothing about this September!

Also, applying in May for a September start is hardly a popular nursery. I signed up to two nurseries in May just gone for an April 2022 nursery and we’re on the waiting list for both!

EmoIsntDead · 09/08/2021 22:33

[quote Willwebebuyingnumber11]@Bluntness100 yes to Amanda 😂😂

Honestly Julia, the nursery is closed for the summer. Surely you knew that? Everyone knew that.....[/quote]
tilts head

tinkly laugh

EmoIsntDead · 09/08/2021 22:34

OP, you sound insufferably condescending 🙄

PluggingAway · 09/08/2021 22:47

I think your message to that woman was quite rude. You sound very smug. All she asked for was opening times, you didn't need to give her a patronising lecture.

Pottedpalm · 09/08/2021 22:52

OP, you were rude. It’s not your business.

TooBigForMyBoots · 09/08/2021 23:03

I can't believe the posts on this thread.Shock YADNBU OP. You have been nothing but helpful and polite to this stranger (who clearly doesn't know the area/schools/cafes).Hmm

Her response to your kindness has been snippy and dismissive.SadWine You have to let it go.Flowers At least you know to avoid her if you see her around. Which hopefully won't be often since your children will be at different nurseries.Smile

YelloYelloYello · 09/08/2021 23:16

@TooBigForMyBoots do you really think polite to say ‘she would have done better to apply weeks ago when they were open’?