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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

What’s the most seemingly uncontroversial opinion you can think of that will still spark a fight in AIBU?

553 replies

OaxacaChihuahua · 07/08/2021 10:14

I’ll go first:

Losing a pet is not the same as losing a child.

Now your turn!

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CoalCraft · 07/08/2021 21:02

It's not unreasonable for your in-laws to expect at least some access to a new grandchild

dexterslockedintheshedagain · 07/08/2021 21:05

It's ok to wash tea towels with underwear

Milkmachine2 · 07/08/2021 21:23

That it's not the end of the world to let a baby take a lick of your ice cream.

ShortBacknSides · 07/08/2021 21:41

It's okay to call your husband "hubby"

No, it's really not. The first unreasonable statement on this otherwise reasonable thread Grin Grin

burritofan · 07/08/2021 21:44

In the vast majority of cases, under 2's are much better off at home with a SAHP.
You’ve misunderstood the “uncontroversial” point of the thread. Or perhaps you haven’t and are just being goady?

Monkeybusinesss · 07/08/2021 22:50

You can leave a not that unwell parent to look after their own children - you don’t have to rush down a motorway to get them Wink

LolaSmiles · 07/08/2021 22:53

burritofan
A few posts seem to have missed the lighthearted and uncontroversial memo.

Fizbosshoes · 07/08/2021 22:53

It's ok to wash tea towels with underwear

I'm curious to know what wash the laundry police would put masks in (must they have their own separate wash?) to avoid being grim/vile/boak/too unhygienic for words....

Meraas · 07/08/2021 23:13

Washing chicken. British out the crazy in some people.

50ShadesOfCatholic · 08/08/2021 02:12

That it's possible to work hard and still be poor.

Ijustknowitstimetogo · 08/08/2021 02:35

@dexterslockedintheshedagain

It's ok to wash tea towels with underwear
I must admit this had me looking for a downvote button.
MistyGreenAndBlue · 08/08/2021 04:18

@Clocktopus

The number of children born per family matters on a population level, not an individual level. A woman choosing to have 4 children is not responsible for climate change any more than a woman who chooses to remain child free is contributing to the end of the human race.

Was just going to say that "how many children do you have vs how many did you want?" always ends in a bunfight.

I have four, to some people this makes me the equivalent of someone who punches sea turtles for fun.

If they mean because you are extremely brave, then I agree Grin
MistyGreenAndBlue · 08/08/2021 04:20

@MissChanandlerBong22

I don’t understand this thread
Based on some of the answers here, you are not the only one.
LoveFall · 08/08/2021 04:47

I really love my MIL. I wait for her to drop in every day and give me baby raising tips.

LoveFall · 08/08/2021 05:00

I let my dog/cat lick my dish and then clean it in the dishwasher. It is perfectly hygienic.

PurpleOkapi · 08/08/2021 05:12

Whether one spouse has the right to demand the other make a life-altering decision (move, have a child, quit a job, etc.) doesn't depend on the sex/gender of either.

VERONICA4545 · 08/08/2021 05:14

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merrymelody · 08/08/2021 05:23

Extramarital sex

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 08/08/2021 05:30

Extramarital sex

What? Are you referring to the Mumsnet received wisdom that all individuals who are not in a state of marriage are absolutely riddled with STI's, therefore, if a married person happens to have relations with one of them... BOOK YOURSELF AN STI TEST!!!!

Classica · 08/08/2021 05:36

'extramarital sex' isn't an opinion.

I think some students have failed to understand the assignment.

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Callixte · 08/08/2021 06:19

Lots of “social norms” ones: some adults want and expect to celebrate their own birthdays, others genuinely would rather not. Some people don't need or want a car, others absolutely do under current conditions where they live. Some people always BYOB, others generally expect the host to provide a variety/the guest’s preference. A pot luck is not inherently outrageous, although some people don’t like/would avoid them. It’s not automatically reasonable or unreasonable for your adult child to pay rent at your house; it depends on the circumstances.

Lots of food ones: any vegetables can be served with a roast, even courgettes. Lasagne can be made without béchamel sauce. It is OK for a parent to ask questions and do research before agreeing that a pre-teen can go full vegan or vegetarian. Carnivores can survive without meat for one meal, although some may strongly prefer not to. It is OK to have a dry wedding if you’re both teetotallers, but it’s also OK to serve some alcohol if your guests will drink it.

It is OK - and technically correct, in a US context - for Prince Harry to say “gotten” instead of “got”.

The (undeniable) fact that some/many women are racist and/or otherwise objectionable does NOT somehow magically exempt deliberate use of misogynist and rape apologist language from being …. well, misogynist and rape apologist.

Some men don’t use (and aren’t lying about not using) pornography.

Peoniesandpeaches · 08/08/2021 06:31

@Peachdisco

That most people on this thread don't understand the meaning on uncontroversial.
Also most don’t seem to know what “post an opinion” means and are just putting topics they know cause bun fights.
OaxacaChihuahua · 08/08/2021 06:37

Well I can’t argue with anything as authoritative sounding as Dr OOSA’s herbal portion, sign me up.

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