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To not self isolate with baby?

149 replies

auferste · 03/08/2021 16:25

My son is 7 months old, he went to his dads on Saturday overnight and his dad brought him back Sunday afternoon. Today, he messaged saying he can't see DS as he has to self isolate as his younger brother has tested positive for covid. DS would've been in contact with the brother.

WIBU to not isolate with him? I live alone so I'd have to Isolate as well and DS is fine.

OP posts:
Undersnatch · 03/08/2021 17:07

You need to find what were the circumstances of the contact with the brother. How long was he around him, was there skin to skin contact. These were the kind of questions track and trace asked me. As if he was not a close contact of the brother, you would only need to isolate if baby’s dad tests positive.

gardeninggirl68 · 03/08/2021 17:09

your baby would hate staying inside???

well how do you think the rest of us have felt?

MadeOfStarStuff · 03/08/2021 17:09

YABVVVU not to isolate your son

Selfish fuckers like this doing as they please is why this will continue to spread.

Original poster
auferste · 03/08/2021 17:09

I'm still not going to do a test on him as he's only a baby!

He will only nap in his pushchair on walks, so he will be very overtired as he won't nap in his cot.

OP posts:
gardeninggirl68 · 03/08/2021 17:10

@auferste

I wasnt in contact with his brother, DS is a baby and would hate staying inside as we don't have a garden or anything. I'm also not going to do a test on him as he doesn't have symptoms!
and plenty others don't have gardens ..... you are not a special case, plenty of others have done it. just get on with it, its a few days!
gardeninggirl68 · 03/08/2021 17:11

@auferste

I'm still not going to do a test on him as he's only a baby!

He will only nap in his pushchair on walks, so he will be very overtired as he won't nap in his cot.

as you say, he's a baby....and will learn to nap elsewhere
Trampolean · 03/08/2021 17:11

It depends what you're planning on doing imo, going shopping or to groups where others are would be selfish, taking him for a walk in the pram then meh, he won't be touching stuff others are and presumably won't be getting too close. Please don't go to baby groups etc though, that's selfish af.

Sirzy · 03/08/2021 17:12

@auferste

I'm still not going to do a test on him as he's only a baby!

He will only nap in his pushchair on walks, so he will be very overtired as he won't nap in his cot.

Again unfortunate but tough.

If you have managed to get this far in without having to isolate then you have done pretty well. It’s not been easy for anyone but if we ever want to get out of this we all need to do our bit

hotasharibo · 03/08/2021 17:15

@auferste

I wasnt in contact with his brother, DS is a baby and would hate staying inside as we don't have a garden or anything. I'm also not going to do a test on him as he doesn't have symptoms!
He will hate staying inside? He's a baby he won't really notice Hmm

Feel sorry for you with no garden though. Just rotate the toys and be kind to yourself. Order some take always if you can afford it

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 03/08/2021 17:19

I can't work out if you're stupid or just really selfish.

Please educate yourself.

Here are a couple of links for starters...

www.romper.com/p/how-do-you-test-a-baby-for-coronavirus-infants-are-not-immune-to-the-virus-31635433

www.babycentre.co.uk/a25037704/coronavirus-covid-19-in-babies-and-children

Chloemol · 03/08/2021 17:20

If ds was in close contact with someone who has now tested positive then he has to self isolate,it that means you as the care giver have to stay in as well, tough

No bloody wonder the countries in the mess it’s in

AlmostSummer21 · 03/08/2021 17:21

@auferste

I wasnt in contact with his brother, DS is a baby and would hate staying inside as we don't have a garden or anything. I'm also not going to do a test on him as he doesn't have symptoms!
He's 7 months. He might not like not going out, but frankly 'tough'. You both need to isolate for 10 days as MANY other adults, children & babies have - you & your DS aren't 'special cases'

People 'don't like' getting Covid - which outweighs your baby not liking staying home.

Don't wait for T&T to get in touch (the brother may not have even included him in his contacts) just do the right thing.

Thingsthatgo · 03/08/2021 17:23

Why did you bother asking on here if you are determined to go out anyway? YABU.

Waspsarearseholes · 03/08/2021 17:24

I was just about to post that only a really ignorant, selfish person wouldn't isolate after being in direct contact with a positive case but then I read that you have a seven month old baby would hate to stay inside, that you don't have a garden and he only naps in his pushchair which makes you the most elite in specialness and of course you don't need to follow the rules that have been driving literally everybody else up the wall for the last 18 months to try to bring this devasting pandemic down to controllable, manageable levels.

GCrebel · 03/08/2021 17:26

This has to be wind up, surely?

WeRTheOnesWeHaveBeenWaitingFor · 03/08/2021 17:27

TBH I’d take him for a quick walk in the pushchair. No contact with anyone though and not inside with anyone.

Whybirdwhy · 03/08/2021 17:28

I'll be flamed but.... if you're desperate, I'm not sure a walk round the block with the baby in the pram is going to cause an outbreak. Just make sure neither of you get hit by a car.

Waspsarearseholes · 03/08/2021 17:29

@WeRTheOnesWeHaveBeenWaitingFor

TBH I’d take him for a quick walk in the pushchair. No contact with anyone though and not inside with anyone.
Not having a garden suggests the OP might live in a flat. Which would mean her walking through, and touching surfaces, in the communal areas. Hardly fair to do that knowing your baby has been in direct contact with covid.
namechange30455 · 03/08/2021 17:29

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy

Test baby, take a test yourself and follow government advice, instead of posting on here.

Sorry, just had it with selfish people claiming they don't need to isolate. YES YOU DO. This is why half of my friends are now testing positive. And I haven't seen them for 14 months.

Living alone means you're isolated already, you just might need to order in some shopping.

The government advice which says you don't need to isolate unless you're contacted by track and trace?

You're telling the OP she doesn't have to isolate then?

inmyslippers · 03/08/2021 17:30

I wouldn't. Just get tested and carry on until track and trace get in touch

BillyIsMyBunny · 03/08/2021 17:31

I think you do need to isolate him but I would take a common sense approach. No visiting family members, baby groups, shops or other indoor places but taking him for a walk outside in his pushchair is okay if that’s the only way he is going to sleep. I would avoid leaving the house more than necessary, strictly stick to being outdoors and avoid anywhere with a crowd but if he is outside in a pushchair I don’t think there is a very high chance of him transmitting it to anybody even if he does have covid. Hope he is doing okay.

Trampolean · 03/08/2021 17:32

@Waspsarearseholes

I was just about to post that only a really ignorant, selfish person wouldn't isolate after being in direct contact with a positive case but then I read that you have a seven month old baby would hate to stay inside, that you don't have a garden and he only naps in his pushchair which makes you the most elite in specialness and of course you don't need to follow the rules that have been driving literally everybody else up the wall for the last 18 months to try to bring this devasting pandemic down to controllable, manageable levels.
To put this in perspective though, the baby will be in a pram which means they won't be touching anything, and OP can ensure they are a distance away from anyone else. OP themselves doesn't have to isolate, even if she was working in a hospital or school or whatever else where plenty of people would be, she would be expected to be in work as usual; only her baby technically should isolate. How much of a risk do you feel a baby in a pram is, really?
NailsNeedDoing · 03/08/2021 17:33

I can’t see the harm in your baby having a walk outside in a pushchair as long as you stay away from others. I certainly wouldn’t be putting a healthy baby through the trauma of a test for no reason.

GreenWheat · 03/08/2021 17:40

Best not to post threads like this on here OP - it always brings out the isolation police.

Ponoka7 · 03/08/2021 17:41

I'd test myself. Your baby isn't going to be near to strangers. I'd socially distance and wear a mask until I've had a negative test for the ten days. But I wouldn't fully isolate, just minimise contact and let people know who want to meet up.