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To lock the jackass in (parking thread)

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BlueEyesWhiteDragon · 31/07/2021 10:57

I live in a rural location which is very popular with walkers / bikers / horse riders etc. It's heaving today for some unknown reason as the weather is rubbish!

We have 2 driveways. One which was with the original cottage then a small bit of garden then a second which leads to the additional land we have. The second driveway the forestry commission have a ROW over as the track continues up into the forest. Next to that driveway is a footpath. Both driveways have gates at either end and both say private property/dogs running loose. (Diagram attached - not to scale!)

I have just had a straw delivery and so opened the second driveway gates to let the farmer in and trundled round the back to show him where to put them. He's unloaded and driven off and I've gone to lock the gates back up. Literally as he's driven off and I'm walking down a guy has pulled in the gates and parked up and 3 kids have jumped out and he started unloading their bikes.

I politely ask him to move as he's on private land and he says there are no signs he thought it was a parking spot. I say they are on the gate and it's clearly an enclosed piece of land that is not a parking space and he says he couldn't see them as the gates were open but he'll only be a few minutes. No problem, I say, I'll pop back and shut the gates in 5. Off I toddle.

I have returned and his car is still there and he has gone. He has left a note on the windscreen which says "had to park here no other spaces". I mean WTF?!

WIBU to shut the gates, padlock the fucker in, block the gates with my truck AND then disappear for at least 48 hours?

To lock the jackass in (parking thread)
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Puzzledandpissedoff · 31/07/2021 13:31

Sorry to hear about the incident with the yobs OP, but if you've got expensive stuff in the yard you'll probably need to be there when he eventually goes after all

I wouldn't put it past someone like this to help themselves to something as "compensation" for their trouble

MydogWillow · 31/07/2021 13:31

CF's aside, your place sounds idyllic Smile

PigeonPink · 31/07/2021 13:32

Go and put a note under the windscreen wiper on the truck saying 'Private Property No Parking' and when he comes back say "Whose truck is that?"
YESSS!! Grin

HyacynthBucket · 31/07/2021 13:34

[LastCall} Brilliant. Get him (eventually, no rush) to recant in front of his kids as to what an entitled Cf he is, and how his DC should learn not to follow his example - he lied and arrogantly trespassed into your space. Hold firm OP, there is no need for notes on his car.

BluebellsGreenbells · 31/07/2021 13:34

yeOldeTrout
I've got mixed feelings about this thread

To me, it’s the people who allow these situations, ie the people pleasers, that increase the CF entitlement.
He may well think about his attitude in future and not inconvenience others with his parking.

It’s a life lesson.

Bet his wife gives him an earful!!!

SixesAndEights · 31/07/2021 13:34

@atlastifoundit

Go and put a note under the windscreen wiper on the truck saying 'Private Property No Parking' and when he comes back say "Whose truck is that?".
Heehee! Yes, this is a good one!!
lastcall · 31/07/2021 13:36

@atlastifoundit

Go and put a note under the windscreen wiper on the truck saying 'Private Property No Parking' and when he comes back say "Whose truck is that?".
Hilarious! Can you imagine the look on his face!
MagnoliaBeige · 31/07/2021 13:36

I bet he would have moved his car immediately if you’d been a burly male - apologies OP if you are one of those Blush

MotionActivatedDog · 31/07/2021 13:37

Ooh he’s an arrogant twat! Instead of just knocking and saying “I’m sorry, that was cheeky, would you mind letting me out please?” He’s decided to leave the car even longer to let you stew. He’s probably hoping to come back with a mate later and speak with your “sane and reasonable non crazy bitch husband” Grin send out the goose to speak to him.

MrMeSeeks · 31/07/2021 13:37

Don’t let him out.
Serves the idiot right.
Make it as hard as possible, maybe he’ll think twice next time for being a lazy cf

Sunny68 · 31/07/2021 13:38

So invested in this 🍿

Mumdiva99 · 31/07/2021 13:38

I am way over invested in this thread!! Good on you for locking the gate. Don't move your truck yet. He shouldn't have taken the piss. He needs to apologise to you.

HaveringWavering · 31/07/2021 13:39

Tbf not locking the gate wasn't an option. I've got loads of really expensive stuff up in the yard my insurance stipulates it must be behind locker barriers.

When you eventually do speak to the CF OP I suggest that you explain this in a very measured and calm way. That will 100% give you the moral high ground.

I’m not 100% sure that you need to keep the truck in front though, do you genuinely believe he might try to drive forward and smash your gates open?

LuaDipa · 31/07/2021 13:39

@yeOldeTrout

I've got mixed feelings about this thread.

I agree parker was unreasonable, I know OP can validly do all she's done, but fundamentally, the car parked there was never an actual inconvenience to her. Moreover, OP now has the huge inconvenience of how does she want to get out of this situation. Sounds like OP is trapped in her home.

Fun fantasy but reality of execution not so appealing.

The inconsiderate parker can quite easily knock and ask op to open up. It may also give him the chance to apologise.

The issue isn’t really the inconvenience, more the fact that op approached him to explain, there were other spaces but he still chose to stay put as that was easier for him. I wonder if he would be equally understanding if op rocked up outside his house and parked on his drive. Plus the gates are surely there for a reason. Op can’t be expected to leave her property vulnerable just to allow him free passage when he was specifically asked not to park there.

I sincerely hope that this makes him think about his attitude to other people’s property in the future.

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 31/07/2021 13:40

People on MN are very enthusiastic about encouraging punishment, revenge, anger, intolerance and resentment.

This is the exact reasoning from the CF's playbook, though. They help themselves to whatever they want, without any care about how much it may hurt, upset or inconvenience other people - and then, when challenged, they do the 'reverse victim and offender' thing and start trying to make you justify why you couldn't have worked your life and your own plans around their brazen entitledness and just shut up and be a doormat.

Maybe I should go and steal £200 worth of stuff from Tesco and then, when stopped at the door by the security guard, angrily demand he explain to me and justify exactly how my theft will mean that their CEO will be inconvenienced and unable to eat or pay their own bills....

GojuRyuLover · 31/07/2021 13:40

Smile Brew

SirGawain · 31/07/2021 13:41

People on MN are very enthusiastic about encouraging punishment, revenge, anger, intolerance and resentment.

No! They’re enthusiastic about calling out entitled dickheads.

Billybagpuss · 31/07/2021 13:41

Seriously though OP, I’d be now inclined to give him a get out option maybe pop a note on the car saying that it is private property that has to be secured at all times and give contact details.

Even if you don’t get an apology you’ve made him sweat, probably caused a marital argument and ruined their day and hopefully he’ll think twice next time.

starfish4 · 31/07/2021 13:42

The amount of times we read someone has blocked someone's access on/off their property (lady couldn't go to work yesterday as car blocked in), it's great to get one of these idiots back.

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BlueEyesWhiteDragon · 31/07/2021 13:42

So the current debate in the house is do we
A. Remain as we are.
B. Escalate by opening gate between garden and drive2 so dogs are everywhere and he can't get to his car.
C. Go the carvery.

DB (who is here for the weekend) says B. He reckons we almost doing them a favour by letting the dogs out as we making it clear it's it's one property so he knows to come ring the doorbell AND C.

I'm thinking A. Its no major inconvenience how things are and I very rarely get anything exciting to post about on MN so he's actually done me a favour ;)

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atlastifoundit · 31/07/2021 13:42

I can't help wondering which of the children was the first to say:
"But Dad... the lady said you couldn't park there".

Chloemol · 31/07/2021 13:43

You told him it’s private land and you would be back. You are back, he has gone

Lock the gates.

Add to his note, there are plenty of parking spaces at xxx, I told you I would be back to lock the gates. Please come and knock on my door, if I am in I will consider opening the gates, but at the moment you are trespassing on private propertyb

dodobookends · 31/07/2021 13:44

C. Definitely.

Mountainpika · 31/07/2021 13:44

When you finally let them out, say to the children, "You've learned a valuable lesson today. If you say you're going to do something, do it. Your father said he would move the car. He didn't. I said I would lock the gate. I did. Think about it."

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BlueEyesWhiteDragon · 31/07/2021 13:44

I also suspect he would move if I was a burly male. Unfortunately I am 5'4 almost 40 year old woman who is very far from intimidating.

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