Hi everyone so I'm after some advice regarding my inlaws... Particularly mother in law! We've been married for 15 years now and have 3 kids (14, 10 and 9). They live 45 mins away. From the minute we had kids my mother in law has always been quite over bearing, her rules are best etc and they had to come over weekly, often unannounced. We have got it down to every other week now but she is still very needy towards my husband, calls twice a week, wants to know everything we're doing or have been doing etc.
She often isn't very respectful of little rules I have like no shoes in house, no sweets before dinner etc...
Anyway the current dilemma is that we saw then last Sunday for a meal, there were a couple of undermining things she did towards our parenting which riled me but I won't go into that.
So we saw them last Sunday, we go away this Sunday, she is insisting they come over to say bye to us before we go away. My hubby obvs said we are only away for 4 days and you are seeing us the following Saturday to which she has said at our age you don't know what's around the corner -(early 70's). Hubby and I had a row as he feels the same as me it's necessary but he's trying to keep everyone happy. He explained to them today that we will be busy so we will see you next week, his mum is now upset!
My hubby has a sister an hour and a had away and a brother in the States and she doesn't do this to them just us and I think it's because she's in the habit of having to see the kids but it's really riling me!
Honeslty am I in the wrong here? She will sulk now and my hubby will end up giving in.
Any advice appreciated