DH packed lunch comeuppance

[Bananapuppy]

A couple of months ago, I took the children to school/nursery (as I did every day) and for the first time, had managed to forget the baby’s packed lunch. Never mind, sacrificed my lunch break to take it in, bit of a pain, no big deal. My DH just couldn’t get his head around why I hadn’t checked I had it before leaving- not in a mean way, just in a conversational, very logical way- aghast that I didn’t have a mental checklist in the car every morning. I tried to explain to him that it was a little bit chaotic in the morning, to which his well meaning solution was that we should leave earlier. I was not impressed. (Things are very 50/50 in our house, he wasn’t being a twat, he just didn’t ‘get it’).

Well, two months ago, I started working full time, and DH in turn reduced his hours to fit around school drop offs. In his 8 weeks of school/nursery runs so far, he was forgotten the little one’s lunch at least five times. The mornings are absolute chaos and he ends up spending his lunchtimes driving like a headless chicken to drop things off…

WIBU to suggest he “makes a mental checklist in the mornings”, or simply leaves earlier?

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Honestly, you owe it to HIM to repeat it to him.

The only U part of this is that you havent told us what you said to him about 'told you how easy it is to forget...' and more importantly, his response..the look on his face..level of blushing and cringing on his part...level of glow-basking on yours..come on, update!

Hate to stereotype but men do seem to find multi-tasking difficult.

Perhaps we should say “Multi Tasking Impaired”?
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Hate to stereotype but men do seem to find multi-tasking difficult.

I used to work with a bloke who was very good at multi-tasking. He could stand, talk, and piss everybody off - all at the same time.

@WoolieLiberal
There's no evidence that women are better at multi tasking than men, it's just that no one expects men to.

@WoolieLiberal
There's no evidence that women are better at multi tasking than men, it's just that no one expects men to.

I was going to say this!

OP you’ve made my day! You definitely have to remind him.

It’s amazing how these things looks simple from the outside.

You were bva to not tell us the moment it first happened, then the moment it happened the second, third, fourth and fifth time. Please keep us updated 🤣🤣🤣

Thank you for finally posting tho. It took me until page 3 to stop laughing out loud.

Brilliant! I also got comeuppance recently and even though it cost money it was wonderful! I have restarted commuting and drive to the station every day to park and get the train. I have park there and done the commute for 8 years. A couple of Saturday's ago DP decided to use the station car park as we were in town to pick up some shopping. He was literally in the middle of telling me to be careful everyday in the station car park because of the bollards... when he hit one of them himself! It was fantastic. Obviously I was really sympathetic, "Oh no, how unfortunate, perhaps it moved as you got there, shows you how careful I'll have to be".

Brilliant

This reminds me of the time, several years ago, when we had a holiday in the Lake District. DH had berated us for not being organised enough and informed us how he was always prepared for any eventuality. We were very lucky with the weather for the first few days but by the middle of the week, Cumbria’s reputation as the wettest county in England proved itself. It was at this point that DH realised he had forgotten to pack his cagoule. Fortunately, Cumbria has plenty of shops that stock such items but ever after, we were able to call out “cagoule” every time he starts to tell us about organisation.

Even with a printed checklist and an extra 15 minutes, these mistakes are very common. Tiredness and stress (which arise in the predeparture moments of the morning), not to mention distractions (e.g. phone call, blocked toilet, broken cup on floor, an extra nappy change, or baby crying) break the flow of thought and actions. Consequently, a lunch gets forgotten - or in the case of Home Alone, Kevin gets left behind! Its normal.

The strange thing is that your DH displayed no empathy, even though he had made the same mistake multiple times. Is he Aspergic? Does he fail to accept other people's opinions? Does he polarise everything into right or wrong? If so, he might need to go on a training course to modify his thinking and behaviour.

Go for it, OP. In my family this kind of joke would run for approx. the next 30 years.

I think a Post It note on the rear view mirror might help him. Or a photo of your little one eating a sandwich stuck on the windscreen?

Ooh, training course is a good idea 😂

your much more diplomatic than me, I would have suggested both the mental checklist and getting up early after the first time he forgot. 😂

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You should make him a tick list and stick it to the fridge... I'd be so petty...making sure "getting up" , "brushing teeth" ..every tiny detail was on the list

Oh yes you definitely have to have this conversation as it will be so amusing for you.

However, very refreshing to hear of a man doing his bit for his family and seeing how hard it is to juggle life. 😀

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You should make him a tick list and stick it to the fridge... I'd be so petty...making sure "getting up" , "brushing teeth" ..every tiny detail was on the list

I favour small lists all over the house, especially in unexpected places, that he won't find for a while, e.g he goes to put on his winter coat for the first time in October and there's a list in the pocket saying, "Put right arm in right sleeve, put left arm in left sleeve, the zip goes at the front".