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AIBU?

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DH packed lunch comeuppance

118 replies

Bananapuppy · 28/07/2021 12:57

A couple of months ago, I took the children to school/nursery (as I did every day) and for the first time, had managed to forget the baby’s packed lunch. Never mind, sacrificed my lunch break to take it in, bit of a pain, no big deal. My DH just couldn’t get his head around why I hadn’t checked I had it before leaving- not in a mean way, just in a conversational, very logical way- aghast that I didn’t have a mental checklist in the car every morning. I tried to explain to him that it was a little bit chaotic in the morning, to which his well meaning solution was that we should leave earlier. I was not impressed. (Things are very 50/50 in our house, he wasn’t being a twat, he just didn’t ‘get it’).

Well, two months ago, I started working full time, and DH in turn reduced his hours to fit around school drop offs. In his 8 weeks of school/nursery runs so far, he was forgotten the little one’s lunch at least five times. The mornings are absolute chaos and he ends up spending his lunchtimes driving like a headless chicken to drop things off…

WIBU to suggest he “makes a mental checklist in the mornings”, or simply leaves earlier?

😂😂😂

OP posts:
TwoMountains · 28/07/2021 13:38

It’s very restrained of you to have not mentioned it already Grin

godmum56 · 28/07/2021 13:38

not only YANBU, its an absolute requirement :)

newnortherner111 · 28/07/2021 13:41

Leave earlier should be the suggestion.

PaddleBlue · 28/07/2021 13:41

Yesssss why haven’t you already?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 28/07/2021 13:42

Is this just a pernickety 'He said that so I'm saying this' post?

Save your energy and work out how to do it together.

Chickychickydodah · 28/07/2021 13:42

I’d get one of those framed quotes with something relevant to the situation and put it by the door🤣🤣

Neondisco · 28/07/2021 13:42

I think you need to pretend to mot get it like he didn't get it!

You are a better person than me to have let it happen 5 times. Before saying anything!

Bananapuppy · 28/07/2021 13:44

No @GreenFingersWouldBeHandy it’s very lighthearted! Sorry if it came across that way. I’m just sharing some quiet smiles of parenting karma Smile. We are a fab team. It’s not an ‘issue’.

OP posts:
BigFatLiar · 28/07/2021 13:45

WIBU to suggest he “makes a mental checklist in the mornings”, or simply leaves earlier?

Why not but be prepared for him to let people know that you keep reminding him of every thing he does wrong.

gotalottolose · 28/07/2021 13:47

Goodness me. Your DH needs to prepare everything the night before, staying up late, then get up early to go through his ‘mental checklist’. I hope he’s also batch cooking, journaling and doing his daily gratitude list.

Perhaps buy him a copy of the ‘Organised Dad Method’ for his birthday.

Batsy · 28/07/2021 13:53

yep, 100% i would absolutely say that to him.

I'd probably even write him a visual 'leaving the house' checklist and stick it to the door... Grin

How2Help · 28/07/2021 13:54

YABU

How have you not raised your eyebrow and laughed at him already?

You are too restrained. This makes me feel guilty for how unrestrained I know I would be. Therefore I think YABU Grin

LobotomisedIceSkatingFan · 28/07/2021 13:54

I'd be sorely tempted to get him a t shirt or mug printed with his mental checklist . . .

Mindymomo · 28/07/2021 13:55

Sounds like my DH. His answer to everything is you should get up earlier, then you will have more time to get things done. I just reply, yes dear.

ememem84 · 28/07/2021 13:56

Amazing. Love a bit of comeuppance.

Sexnotgender · 28/07/2021 13:56

You would be very unreasonable not to😂

MaMelon · 28/07/2021 13:56

Love it!

Have you served him a large slice of humble pie with that mental checklist? Grin

BeneficiaryMadness · 28/07/2021 13:58

Some people wait a lifetime for something like this to happen! Bathe in its gloriousness.

YourDaughter · 28/07/2021 13:58

Ah, I’ve been guilty of this with my DH - might give him a ring and eat humble pie Blush

sailmeaway · 28/07/2021 14:07

Nothing like walking in someone else's shoes for a bit! You've been very restrained OP...

blacksax · 28/07/2021 14:08

Save your energy and work out how to do it together
There's always one, isn't there?

sailmeaway · 28/07/2021 14:08

@reluctantbrit. Now I just want some giant post-its!

Xmassprout · 28/07/2021 14:10

That literally brought a smile to my face. Love it when things like that happen

youdoyoutoday · 28/07/2021 14:10

I so would!! Grin