DH packed lunch comeuppance

[Bananapuppy]

A couple of months ago, I took the children to school/nursery (as I did every day) and for the first time, had managed to forget the baby’s packed lunch. Never mind, sacrificed my lunch break to take it in, bit of a pain, no big deal. My DH just couldn’t get his head around why I hadn’t checked I had it before leaving- not in a mean way, just in a conversational, very logical way- aghast that I didn’t have a mental checklist in the car every morning. I tried to explain to him that it was a little bit chaotic in the morning, to which his well meaning solution was that we should leave earlier. I was not impressed. (Things are very 50/50 in our house, he wasn’t being a twat, he just didn’t ‘get it’).

Well, two months ago, I started working full time, and DH in turn reduced his hours to fit around school drop offs. In his 8 weeks of school/nursery runs so far, he was forgotten the little one’s lunch at least five times. The mornings are absolute chaos and he ends up spending his lunchtimes driving like a headless chicken to drop things off…

WIBU to suggest he “makes a mental checklist in the mornings”, or simply leaves earlier?

😂😂😂

I'd have crowed about it the first time it happened. and sung' mental check liiiiist' each time it happened thereafter.

I'd probably prepare a mental checklist type photo, go to Asda and use their cake picture machine to put it on a cake

So how come he has forgotten it so many times?

Mental checklist/leaving earlier not working for him??

@InkieNecro

I'd probably prepare a mental checklist type photo, go to Asda and use their cake picture machine to put it on a cake

Yes - do this!!!!

Pie for tea.

Please go with the cake suggestion

Buy him some Homity Pie and change the name 😃

Brilliant! I would be loving every moment and rubbing it in where I could

I would!

Wild horses wouldn't stop me mentioning it at least 3/4 times a week

I'd get soooo much mileage out of it

At bedtime - have yous set your alarm earlier darling, so you can mentally prepare for your day

I'd have post it notes in the car and all over the kitchen

I'd be buying mental note books and he'd get them for Xmas and birthdays. Im site there's loads of self help videos and literature on similar subjects

I'd be relentless

WIBU to suggest he “makes a mental checklist in the mornings”, or simply leaves earlier?

Oh please do! You could word it in such a way as that was such good advice he gave you when you forgot that you thought it would be remiss of you not to remind him of it!

Karma :)

That's hilarious @Bananapuppy my just barely toddler once managed to break my phone once by throwing it in the toilet water. DP was all ''you know what they say, you shouldn't leave these things laying around you know he's little and it will just end up broken'
Well guess who left their phone laying around a month later and ended up with a cracked screen courtesy of DS?
Oh how I smiled when I said ''oh you know what they say...you shouldn't leave these things just laying around'' he caught on immediately it's still a bit of a running joke between us.

@diddl

So how come he has forgotten it so many times?

Mental checklist/leaving earlier not working for him??

I love it when they get a healthy dose of reality and finally realize that it's not quite as simple in practice

He's been doing this for 8 weeks and is still a headless chicken?
He deserves a helpful comment or two.

Fantastic.

My DH is like this. We have a decent split, but even my kids say they prefer mornings when I do the school drop off. With my DH it is chaos (I WFH so hear it all unravelling from the safety of my office). I despair at what he dresses them in at weekends and I've lost count of the amount of times they have ended up in each other's clothes.

When he moans about all of this stuff, I just do a smile and nod with a head tilt.

Nooo don't do his mental checklist up for him, it's his and his alone.

Putting a picture of a checklist on a cake with "mental checklist" and a few pointers like "remember how many DS I have" remember to set alarm at crack of dawn" and "remember to feed my DS's" is brilliant though. I would totally do that.
And rip the piss out of him forever more.

I would say the same to him as he said to me

You have so much self restraint. I would have said it the first time he did it 😆

driving like a headless chicken

Asshole. Putting people's lives in danger....

He knows. You don't have to say a word. He knows he was a twat.

@Iflyaway

Driving with due care and attention and diligently within speed limits, having had to flap around at home to find required objects, using his entire lunch break and arriving back slightly panicked because he’s now late for a meeting.

Brilliant! This has made my day.

A colleague of mine had to leave a note on the front door to remind her husband that he had to collect the children in the evenings!