Excusing bad behaviour because the child ‘gifted and talented’ and bored

[WildWestWanda]

My sister has a ds who she believes to be ‘gifted and talented’

His behaviour has never been great but he is now 9yo and it is getting worse.

Just before the start of the summer holiday my ds was yet again called into school. This time he has kicked a teacher! Apparently the class were having a maths lesson and he kept getting up and running around the classroom. He was repeatedly asked to sit down and eventually lashed out and kicked the teacher!

My ds believes it was because the work wasn’t challenging him and he was bored! Instead of any kind of punishment she has sympathised with him!

It’s getting to the point where I am losing all respect for my sister! She is now upset with me because when she told me about the latest school incident I refused to accept his behaviour was ok. She isn’t doing him any favours at all. He is losing friends at school because of the way he behaves.

DD2 was assessed as Gifted & Talented at junior school and had maths lessons with Yr6 when she was only in Yr3. However, she has always been very well behaved. I wouldn't have tolerated anything else.

Speaking as a teacher, as long as he doesn't have any neurodiverse issues or special needs etc then she needs to stamp that behaviour out ASAP! To be frank, he sounds like a complete little sh*t!

Pretty soon, he will be bigger, stronger & feel like he can do/say what he likes
at school because mum always backs him & that's a VERY dangerous thing for a young child!!

If a child with no underlying issues kicked me for no reason, I'd report them for assault - in a heartbeat. Teacher's jobs are hard enough as it is - why should they have to put up with being physically attacked??!!

It does seem odd he hasn’t had a fixed term exclusion even if there are Sen issues, when mine was in mainstream and had ehcp with full time 1-1 he would still be excluded for anything like that and less

I wouldn’t expect an almost 10 year old to be running around the classroom and definitely not kicking the teacher unless they had SEN. I think he needs assessing.

Great, she’s raising yet another violent, entitled male. Just what the world needs.

I honestly couldn’t tolerate this from my sister, I’d tell her exactly what I thought.

Why is every badly behaved child immediately ‘diagnosed’?
This boy sounds like his mother let’s him rule the roost, sees no fault in him and by extension he misbehaved at school as he’s never given boundaries or rules and all behaviour is excused by his pathetic mother.
Not all kids have SEN, some are just poorly raised and have poor behaviour as a result.
Same in relationship threads, man is a shit and in cones ‘maybe he is autistic’ comments, no ppl can just be horrible.

@HerMammy

Why is every badly behaved child immediately ‘diagnosed’? This boy sounds like his mother let’s him rule the roost, sees no fault in him and by extension he misbehaved at school as he’s never given boundaries or rules and all behaviour is excused by his pathetic mother. Not all kids have SEN, some are just poorly raised and have poor behaviour as a result. Same in relationship threads, man is a shit and in cones ‘maybe he is autistic’ comments, no ppl can just be horrible.

Agree. It’s also incredibly offensive to people with SEN.

Exactly what I was going to say!

Ex teacher (inc SEN) and carer for children with SEN/trauma.