Second date fucking weird

[seconddateshithead]

Is this just me?!

Just went for a lovely second date with a guy from old. All good. Doesn't seem crazy or obsessed with ex.

His phone keeps pinging throughout our meal from his friend. Asking how the date is etc

He keeps saying oh I should turn this off. But he doesn't. He replies each bloody time.

End of meal. I'm thinking nice walk. Maybe chill on the terrace.

Oh my friend has asked if she can meet you. Really. It's a second date. I want to get to know you not your pissed up mates.

We walk home. But oh the bar is on the way. I say don't you just want to go home? He says oh we could just stop for one.

We get there and the barmaid brings over a drink for him. So they knew he was coming cos he'd said yes. (I get nothing cos I'm an afterthought obviously...)

I'm sure they're all lovely. But they're out celebrating with shots etc. I wanted a date with one person. Is this just weird?!

[Tal45]

I'd just explain the situation from your point of view and explain what you were hoping for. Then I'd give him another couple of dates to see if he listens - and to see Parker again. I wouldn't take what he said about Parker as emotional blackmail though, I think that's reading too much into it.

[seconddateshithead]

@Tal45

I'd just explain the situation from your point of view and explain what you were hoping for. Then I'd give him another couple of dates to see if he listens - and to see Parker again. I wouldn't take what he said about Parker as emotional blackmail though, I think that's reading too much into it.

I have explained it. He doesn't get it. He thinks it's perfectly normal to introduce second dates to his pissed up mates.

There are lots of niggly things about him that concerned me (lying about his age, lying about smoking and apparently dating anyone nearby/who asks/who likes his dog)

He struck me as being emotionally quite immature. I don't have the time to hand hold him through relationship 101.

The dog thing annoyed me. It was definitely used to play on my heart strings. I have a low tolerance for that kind of shit

[BudrosBudrosGalli]

Would have been tempted to steal the dog and run off...