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Exam Results Day - being there for DD or car repairs?!!

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Verymuddymummy · 22/07/2021 21:49

Doing the usual silent treatment with each other as DH wants to drive about an hour away for car repairs on exam results day. Both of us have taken the day off to be there for DD but now he wants to use the afternoon to have non-essential car repairs done. I think DD will be hurt when she finds out. She’s already well aware she’s not DH’s favourite child. All very jokey but actually uncomfortably close to the truth. Could make more of a fuss but there’s a slim possibility that DD will end up wanting to spend the afternoon with her friends - I’d understand and wouldn’t have an issue but fallout from DH will be bad if that happens - ugh!! Advice please - is DH being a bit rubbish or AIBU?

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Sleepingdogs12 · 31/07/2021 10:30

Can't remember if I took the day off. I was about and contactable , gave lifts if needed but really they wanted to be with friends. I think both parents having the whe day clear is overkill and makes it seem like this event is too huge. It is big but not the answer to the question of life or the end of the world. Help your child get it in perspective.

Bunnycat101 · 31/07/2021 10:32

I would definitely take the day off. For my gcses we had a lovely day and I made the papers for my results. I had a disappointment for my AS levels and my mum was in hospital. I was upset but was also upset about my mum’s illness so was a really hard day. My A-levels were more celebratory. I am really surprised by so many posters being quite blasé. It is a major life event for young people and I couldn’t imagine not being there when my children get there.

Bryonyshcmyony · 31/07/2021 10:35

@Sleepingdogs12

Can't remember if I took the day off. I was about and contactable , gave lifts if needed but really they wanted to be with friends. I think both parents having the whe day clear is overkill and makes it seem like this event is too huge. It is big but not the answer to the question of life or the end of the world. Help your child get it in perspective.
This! I have other kids. We don't all need to spend all day celebrating/commisersting.

Hopefully a big well done, a card from all of us then a nice meal in the evening

Obvs if it goes badly the card goes quietly in the bin, we spend a few hours weighing up options then all have a nice meal in the evening

jamimmi · 31/07/2021 10:35

I've.and a level results DS this year too. Taken the day off to help if things go wrong or to drive to the pub if we are celebrating. He originally didn't know why but said yesterday he's glad I'm going to be there. I think nerves are kicking in. DH will also be about but of limited help as he's blind so ringing and chasing for clearing if needed sont be his thing. He's the calm voice of reason instead! Tell you husband to either wait with car or get a bus back if he must go that day. TBH he sounds like he won't be missed.

newnortherner111 · 31/07/2021 10:47

How many weeks away are the results? You have been given plenty of notice, as has your DD. If your DD cannot cope easily with that, then I would be concerned about her ability to cope with the inevitable difficulties that work or university will bring.

Minnie56 · 31/07/2021 10:48

@Chasingsquirrels

Interesting that so many are having to go in to collect.

We went in to collect ds1s GCSE results (pre covid) but his Alevel results this year will be emailed - as below (we are in England).

A Level Results:
As I’m sure you are aware, you will receive your A level results on Tuesday 10th August. Your results will be emailed to your College email address from 8.30 am that morning. You should not come into College to collect them.

We didn’t get offered that option at all. Have to go into school or phone up by prior arrangement if away. I know it’s nice in some ways that they all go in, but for some DC I think they would much prefer to get results privately.
Titsywoo · 31/07/2021 11:18

I will be taking DD to get her results. She won't be with her friends anyway as covid restrictions this year means she collects hers with her form (and she isn't friends with anyone there). I'll wait outside in the car but I won't be clearing my whole day - she just may need the support when she comes out so I wouldn't miss that. I would say in your case it isn't necessary for both parents to be there but if he promised your dd he would and is now going back on that to do something that could wait it seems horrible. I'd be upset too.

OutOfTrousers · 31/07/2021 12:34

I think DD will be hurt when she finds out. She’s already well aware she’s not DH’s favourite child.

Are the other Dc older and what did he do for their exam results day?
If they’re younger, what does he plan to do when the time comes?

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