School holidays shouldn’t be this much work?

[Libertyfree]

DD at private school so broke up a few days ago.
I’m fed up already. It’s exhausting trying to arrange meet ups with anyone. She’s incapable of doing any organising herself. Can’t concentrate on anything craft/reading related for more than 10 mins (probably touch of ADHD). Only thing that keeps her occupied is tik tok or tv.
I’m Working from home at moment but struggling to do my work and keep DD entertained.
Any wisdom out there?

Why do you need to entertain her? Depending on age she has toys, books, games etc? Can go in the garden? Maybe this is a good time to teach her how to organise herself

My school holidays were just spent at home with maybe one holiday 🤷‍♀️

Holiday club. Mine's in it every week, except next week because they have to self-isolate before they join. There's no benefit to her being here all day watching tv while I work if she can be somewhere where someone can actually devote some time to her and she can be with other children. Dh and I, of course, have some days off here and there and we have two weeks of family holiday booked, but the rest of the time, she needs to be in some sort of childcare setting because she can't just watch YouTube all summer.

Surely you can't be working and looking after DD. It's either one of the other.

How old is she? My 8 year old has been in holiday club. I allow a couple off days a week to chill, play with neighbours, or have play dates, but I’m working so I’m not having her under my feet all summer getting bored on you tube.

If you're working surely you need childcare? Sign up for activity clubs. Kids cant be expected to sort themselves 9-5 everyday.

Or take holiday alternate to a partner/send to relatives for a week etc.

We try and go out most days but often just for a walk in a different area. Baking /etc as well as some tiktok/netflix time.

How old is she? I feel this is a vital piece of info

As an aside, you don't get 'a touch' of ADHD. You either have ADHD or you don't.

Touch of adhd? How dismissive , perhaps find out what she actually likes doing. Tiktok is a new thing what on Earth do children do without access to screens?

Touch of ADHD?

Age 11

Op if you aren't able to look after her she should be in childcare? Is she a teenager?

You surely can't expect an 11 Yr old to just occupy herself all day ...unless this is an area where kids have a bit of freedom to go off with friends?
Drama club...youth club...sports clubs ?

By touch of ADHD I mean she’s probably got mild end of it.
She can concentrate on things she likes.
At 11 she’s too old for holiday clubs but not independent enough to organise anything herself.

Please explain how a person can be a touch ADHD?

Sports clubs etc go to at least 14. Local leisure centres usually have programmes too to at least 12.

That said if she's old enough for tictoc she's old enough to entertain herself

Plenty of holiday clubs take up to 13/14. So she has a choice - either she entertains herself at home while you work, or she's dropped off at a club.

She's absolutely not too old for holiday clubs at 11 if she's incapable of entertaining herself. I'm fairly sure you wouldn't leave her at home if you weren't WFH and I doubt your employer is happy about paying you to look after your own child. What you probably mean is you can't be bothered to pay.

Most 11 year olds just concentrate on things they like. Please get her assessed if you think she has ADHD, too many children become struggling adults due to lack of diagnosis and therefore lack of help and understanding.

Hire a local teenager to look after her or send her to a childminder. Are there any grandparents/father she could go and spend some time with?

11 is too young to just be left all week. Theres lots of activities you could look at (sailing/drama/multisport/etc) but a bit late now.
What did you do last year!? Poor child.

I would happily pay for her to go to any club she likes. She would go with a friend but that’s not possible.
She doesn’t like sports, swimming, anything at all.

Yes getting her tested soon.

@Libertyfree with all due respect going by your posts it sounds like you have given up so why would you expect her to be coming up with ideas? Monkey see...monkey do...

I would happily pay for her to go to any club she likes. She would go with a friend but that’s not possible.
She doesn’t like sports, swimming, anything at all.

Sorry, but at 11 she doesn't really have a choice. Just put her in a club. You can't carry on with her doing nothing all day whilst you're meant to be working.

Oh come on OP. You know you can't work and look after her properly at the same time, you're taking the piss out of your employer and giving DD the shitty end of the stick then blaming her for thinking it's shitty.

I have an 11 year old so sympathise. Too old for most childcare, a bit too cool/awkward for a lot of clubs, etc. My daughter just flatly refused to go to any this summer.

She's either amusing herself or meeting friends to go for bike rides to the park. DH and I are trying to take 2 days off a week between us to break it up, but in my mind she's having the type of summer I'd have had in the 80s. Pretty free, a tiny bit boring maybe, but long hot days and friends to kick about with.