Page 7 | To ask if you like your siblings

Youdiditanyway · 21/07/2021 22:06

I don’t not like him but we don’t have any sort of relationship. He was 10 when I left home and I never really liked him as a child, I thought he was a bit of a twat tbh. He’s a fairly decent adult now from what I hear but I don’t really know him, I haven’t had a full conversation with him since I left home and probably only seen him 5ish times.

Pedalpushers · 21/07/2021 22:18

Not particularly. Nothing in common, only shows up when he wants money or a favour.

Purplealienpuke · 21/07/2021 22:29

Always got on well with my brother as adults. Have had a difficult relationship with my sister over the years. When we stopped to look at why we have got on better. Definitely bonded since our mum died. Step siblings... well they've shown their true colours since their dad died (after our mum) and I wouldn't piss on them if they were on fire. Can't wait for the legal stuff to be done and forget they even existed! Twats!

theliverpoolone · 21/07/2021 23:18

I don't have any.
I will always be a little bit sad about that.

I think I'd have been a lot happier as an only child. Never really got on with my sister, she made the atmosphere at home unbearable, so much so I never moved back at a time I really needed to. As adults we're not close and there are times she's been quite nasty to me. When dd was younger I used to really wish she could have had a sibling, but dsis upset me so much once that it made me glad she's an only and will never have to experience a poor sibling relationship. I envy people who are close to their siblings.

XenoBitch · 21/07/2021 23:29

I have siblings. We just exchange a text on birthdays and xmas. I know they have a good relationship with eachother, but I am the dark horse of the family. It hurts, but it seems too late to change now. Would be weird.

Dutchesss · 21/07/2021 23:31

I'm close to mine. I see one weekly and the other at least monthly.

Onlinedilema · 22/07/2021 06:42

So I would say it's a resounding no going by this thread. I'm surprised by how big posters families are too.

catinboots21 · 22/07/2021 06:46

No - my sister is a doctor so that makes her so much better than the rest of us.

I love my SILs though they are both great

unidentifed · 22/07/2021 06:55

I wouldn't be friends with either of my sisters but we are definitely friends, because we are sisters first.

ItPearl · 22/07/2021 07:21

@2pinkginsplease

He blames everything on our childhood...... I had the same childhood and turned out pretty well, well I think I did 😂😂😂

It is quite common to have a different chikdhood /parenting than a sibling.

My brother the golden child believes we had a great childhood. He is blind. My parents projected all of their low self esteem issues on to me while he could do no wrong. The whole family is just wilfully blind to the most obvious family dynamics.

Kinsters · 22/07/2021 07:30

Really close to my twin sister. Younger brother and sister I don't have any contact with apart from via my parents eg WhatsApp group, get togethers. I did try and build more of a relationship with my little sister but she wasn't interested so I stopped bothering.

Weebleweeble · 22/07/2021 07:35

It would be interesting if posters had put their age - you might be friends at 16 but not by 60 or vice versa

lanbro · 22/07/2021 07:37

Yes, my sister is one of my best friends and our children are more like siblings than cousins. Through our teenage years we weren't close but became friends when I came back from uni, and now we're both single parents we are very close, socialise and holiday together, in touch every day. We're both really close to my mum as well

Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse · 22/07/2021 07:38

Love one of my siblings, we’re very close. I love the other but been cut off from them as their in an abusive relationship and refuses to believe they are. Like being strangled, punched and having your money and who your allowed to see controlled is normal.

MrsBungle · 22/07/2021 07:38

I genuinely love my brothers. Love meeting up with them (all 3 of us live in different countries to each other). I’m 43. I only grew up with my younger brother. We met our older brother only a few years ago as he was adopted. We are all loving growing our relationship.

Allegra82 · 22/07/2021 07:41

I’m 39 and my sister is 37. We are completely different people, live a few hours apart, have different views on life and priorities and only see each other a few times a year. However she is one of my favorite people in the entire world, and I would be completely lost without her

impatientwatcher · 22/07/2021 07:45

Nope. One sibling has huge behaviour problems and mental health issues, thinks the whole world is against them and remembers a completely different childhood to me. Other sibling - we didn't grow up together, have nothing in common as adults they are the much preferred child of our shared parent.

CatherineAragon · 22/07/2021 09:16

@Allegra82

I’m 39 and my sister is 37. We are completely different people, live a few hours apart, have different views on life and priorities and only see each other a few times a year. However she is one of my favorite people in the entire world, and I would be completely lost without her

Why do you see her so rarely then? I don’t understand?

nokidshere · 22/07/2021 09:34

I have 5 sisters. The last time I saw any of them was about 4yrs ago when 3 came to stay at mine. But we speak daily over social media, face time etc, we are friendly and supportive and always look out for each other. One is in the USA, one in Europe and the rest of us spread out over the uk. The oldest is 61 and the youngest 52.

Having grown up in care and moved away years ago means we weren't emotionally close when we were younger but we all have a good relationship these days.

BertramLacey · 23/07/2021 13:13

It is quite common to have a different chikdhood /parenting than a sibling.

Yes. My parents treated my older brother very differently from how they treated me. Being male and the eldest child his experiences were very different. There's often a golden child.

Mary46 · 23/07/2021 13:19

Its hard bertram. My sis is the golden one . They wouldnt have my back. Always on my guard. My mother can be devious. Envy nice families

gwenneh · 23/07/2021 13:24

I love her.

She went NC with the whole family, for reasons unknown. I occasionally speak with her wife just to make sure they're doing OK.

I miss her.

AquaTorfana · 23/07/2021 13:25

I like my sister but I don't like my brother. I don't even think I love him. We've never been close as there's a big age gap (17 years) but he's just a horrible person in general and I prefer to keep my distance.

NeverDropYourMoonCup · 23/07/2021 18:04

Well, I did, but then found out that none of them liked me much or even regarded me as a sibling because I'd been dumped on them (just as their father died) because my mother had been having an affair and had decided I wasn't to know I had a different father.

If somebody dies, I might be contacted. Or not depends upon whether they remember I exist, having made it clear that I don't for the last twenty years.

FlipFlops4Me · 23/07/2021 18:50

I love my sis dearly. She lives in the same road as me and we are always in touch.

Never used to be like that. When we were children, teenagers and young wives we loathed each other. It wasn't until our mum died that we finally talked to each other properly - over several days - and sorted out all that we had thought separated us.
Now I wouldn't be without her.