To ask if you like your siblings

[Thedays76]

Seems everyone I know has amazing sibling relationship. I just don’t

Every cm of them.

I don't see them often now as I live so far away but I am very lucky to have them.

I used to be as close as best friends with my brother. Then he met a real victim-type narc GF who pretended I was “unwelcoming” to her (I wasn’t, everyone could see that I wasn’t) and now we don’t speak. It nearly destroyed our family because our parents are on my side.

But, hey ho. His loss. I’m lovely.

Same @ZednotZee - I always wanted a sister.

This thread makes me feel sad because I hope my three children enjoy their childhood & are close (or at least friendly) as adults. The pressure! I don’t understand sibling relationships at all.

I’ll not lie and say it has always been sunshine and flowers.

There have been tricky times. It just shifted in our twenties - it suddenly was easy.

I am so totally proud to call them my siblings and we have eachother’s back. Fiercely. Always.

I love them both with all my heart. (We don't say it but they know)

They are so much more to me than friends. I’m not good with words so it is hard to explain.

We are all flawed and have had our knock backs and kicks down. But we go through it together.

We are harsh but fair when needed. A championing force if necessary.

And my folks are thrilled we have become so close. They must have thought it would never be like that!

Sadly no I don’t, we had a difficulty childhood which they dealt with very differently to me. They chose self destruct I chose to educate myself and have a career. Hence I think they were jealous of me and I was always blamed for things going wrong. I hadn’t seen them for over 10 years then took a risk inviting them to my wedding, and guess what… they were embarrassingly drunk and abusive to my friends and my children couldn’t wait for them to go home! Now it’s a phone call once in a while. Blood is definitely not thicker than water in my case.

Love them all, they have my back and I have theirs. We have a short-hand and a shared history which I don’t have with anyone else. They are the first people in turn to in celebration or sadness (other than DH and Dc!)

No contact with my brother
Get on reasonably well with my half sister most of the time - but she is hard work, and I probably wouldn't bother if she wasn't my sister.

Yes get on really well with my sister. We often go travelling together as we have very similar interests.

Yes, I love my sister

No I don't speak to mine anymore after his verbal abuse and aggression.

See them less since covid. Not sure they have my back. Feel my mother stirs the crap too. Just little things over the years or my name left off cards that kind of thing. Op its more common than u think!! Low contact suits me though

I have 2 brothers. My younger one I see once a year at Christmas at my parents house. We used to get on quite well but his gf has caused a lot of problems between us. My older brother lives abroad. We text regularly but arent close.

Not that keen really ...have friends who I care about more and who care about me more !!
One is much younger so nothing in common ..polite if we see him ...diff father
One is no contact due to history of issues.

We get on ok better than when our parents were alive. Probably something to do with the fact that we have diametrically opposed views on said parents so now we avoid the subject.

Yes, love mine. Respect and admire them as people, and would choose their company above most others! I'd always turn to them for advice, support, and to celebrate.

My older brothers are two of my favourite people in the works. I’m pretty ambivalent about my sister. Beyond a shared childhood and family, we have nothing in common. If I met her on holiday I wouldn’t stay in touch. I don’t wish her ill, but we are really not each other’s type and she is a complete control freak.

Yes we're very close, we have disagreements at times though never fall out for long.

No. I can't stand my Covid denying, conspiracy-theorist twat of a sister. Our mum died over 20 years ago leaving 2 of us plus our dad. In mid-March last year, I brought my Dad down to stay with me (+DH & 2 DDs) to shield him. DSis was not happy but then she thinks it's all a hoax and lives abroad anyway. She tried to persuade DF not to have any vaccines, has accused me of all sorts and basically I want nothing more to do with her. When DF finally shuffles off, I will have to work with her to sort out his estate but that will be it. My DDs are in agreement - they think she is a complete tool.

OTOH, 3 of my cousins are amazing and lovely people who have become more like sisters than DSis.

Yes, but we aren't super close. There are 3 of us and we're extremely different with lots of strengths and weaknesses each. I'm closer to my sister but my brother is rock solid as a person. I know they would always help when the chips are down, which indeed happened when dh died and when our df was ill and died. But we had a big row recently over my mother's needs and I'm not sure sibling rows are ever really resolved, you just decide to ignore them or you don't.

I have one brother, he is several years younger than me.

We have absolutely nothing in common and wouldn’t be friends if we weren’t related. I like him fine but I don’t see him often and we only really text every few weeks to complain about our mother.

Our parents didn’t help as they treated us so differently. I had a really strict upbringing and was forced to get a job at 14 to buy pretty much everything I needed. My brother was waited on hand and foot, bankrolled and left to treat the house like a hotel.

We don't not get on but we don't get on either. When we were children we fought like cat and dog. We're OK with each other in small quantities.

Yes, very much so. Have an older sister and an older brother. Love when I can spend time with them.

I’m close to my sister now but we didn’t get on great as children. My mum doesn’t get on well with her sibling because of their partner, and my dad only really gets on with one of his siblings.

Cutting my abusive sister out of my life was the best thing I ever did.

My parents hate it. It's absolutely fine for her to abuse me but I'm not allowed to stand up for myself.