To ask if you like your siblings

[Thedays76]

Seems everyone I know has amazing sibling relationship. I just don’t

My brother started competing with me (I'm the elder) as soon as he could crawl. Last time I saw him, he spent most of our conversations scoring points off me. It's so fucking tedious. We have completely different values and lifestyles. There IS no comparison that's valid. I never see him now.

2 out of 3. Not spoken to the third for a few months when she attempted to lay into me about not caring about her. She hung up on me when I finally, after 20+ years of her crap, gave her a piece of my mind. She has depression, but I wasn't about to be the next family member to be blamed for the way her life turned out. She's worked her way through most of us.

I don't - one sister, nearly 9 years older so we grew up virtually as only children.

She has had a chip on her shoulder her entire life - I am more academic and have had a career while she chose not to.

She has lied to me throughout our lives, although she always denies it.

I have very little to do with her - you can choose your friends and all that ......

I don’t mine is a twat of the highest order and it breaks my heart to see the man he has turned out to be and how he continues to upset our amazing parents.

I have one sibling and I love them but quite often I do not like them. They are an alcoholic, can be quite manipulative and selfish and we have fallen out for months at a time because I will not take the bullshit my mother did. They have had to be reminded that their mental health does not matter more than mine, I will not drop everything to help them with every minor thing. If I ever tried to discuss my issues I would get the oh I'm not very good at that kind of thing speech but I had to drop everything. At the moment when they visit they are on their best behaviour!

I'm close to one but not the other. They are close to each other though! My brother is a brexiter, Boris lover and is racist which puts me off him!

I have one sibling I am neutral about and one sibling that I really, really dislike and will happily go months without speaking to her.

My brother, my sister and myself are estranged from each other, the result of our narcissistic mother's divide and conquer campaign and blatant favouritism of my brother as a child.

I tried to keep us together for years but couldn't fix the ingrained dysfunction of my family of origin. My brother recently made contact because he's falling now fallen out with our mother but the ten years of ignoring and silence when I was going through a nasty divorce have ensured that door will remain firmly shut.

ive not spoken to him in 2 years. He’s an alcoholic and so so selfish, he would spoil every holiday we had by phoning to say he was homeless or going to harm himself, he made me so ill so I had to cut him off.

My mum still has sporadic contact but he lets her down all the time.

I’m so disappointed about how he has torn our family apart his children don’t speak to me or my mum and the only reason I can think of is his ex has poisoned their minds against us!

So I’m done with him.

He blames everything on our childhood...... I had the same childhood and turned out pretty well, well I think I did 😂😂😂

Mine have done a lot for me, and are lovely people.
I do see sisters more than brothers.

I love him, but like is a bit strong

Fell out with my sister about 10 years ago. Not seen or spoken to her since. I haven’t fallen out with my brothers but have very little to do with them. I have two nieces I’ve never even met.

No. I have only one sibling. I tolerate him; he loathes me. It's not how I would like our relationship to be but accept that that's the way it is.

We've had varying degrees of closeness in our relationships through the years but we started out as a group of 6, then lost a brother almost 20 years ago when we were all in our teens/early twenties & lost another brother 2 years ago so make an effort to keep up our relationships & sort any issues before they become too big.

I'm definitely closest to my sister though even though there's a 6 year age gap - it was always us against the boys growing up still is sometimes but it's at least even now

Yep, 3 siblings - twin is my best friend. Speak to my younger 2 daily. Would be lost without any/all of them.

Nope, mines an arrogant tosser who I keep thinking is going to grow the fuck but sadly, not. I keep trying to cultivate a relationship as we were really close when we were in our 20’s but it’s incredibly difficult now. 💐

I like my brother, and get on with my SIL really well. Closer to my cousin, but that's because we are both extroverted, and my brother is quieter. The 4 of us together is great.

I'm not in contact with mine anymore, so no! Both were abusive and there's been lots of substance abuse and I just couldn't face it anymore so went non contact.

I love mine but if we weren't related we wouldn't have anything in common.

Yes, very close to mine and now one is terminally ill not sure how I will cope without her.

5 siblings, NC with them all. I’ve never had a solid relationship with any of them due to family politics and parents playing us off against each other. I have a small family of my own, and would much rather make a better go of that, than force a relationship with toxic relatives.

Yes, I love them to bits.

I can get on with them. I prefer one to the other, but not close to either.

I was the one left out when we we’re children - they are both male - and I think that is why. But one in particular annoys me still now!

One brother. We are very different. Fought a lot as kids. As adults, we only talk once every few months.... but we respect each other, and know we'd be there for each other and each other's families in a crisis.