To ask if you like your siblings

[Thedays76]

Seems everyone I know has amazing sibling relationship. I just don’t

My sister is very much the mean girl type. She was ok with me if I did everything she wanted & agreed with everything she said. I had the temerity to disagree, she’d be horrible, always “only my opinion!” I finally had enough when she was snippy & frosty with me for doing something she didn’t like, I told her I was sick of it & we haven’t spoken socially since (we’ve spoken about our elderly father). My life is better without her controlling opinion in it, my DC pointed out that it was classic bullying & I do feel free without her.

I like them just fine but we don't have a close relationship. We never really talk when apart and mostly hear each other's news through our mother.

Not much. Little in common.

And I have no contact whatsoever with my sister who is toxic. I am much happier without her in my life. I have no idea how she feels about it and little interest in whether she cares or not.

Nope. Would walk on by if she was on fire.

Not particularly.

Nothing wrong with them, we just have absolutely nothing in common so there's no reason for us to spend any time together. They also go everywhere with the kids, and I can't stand children, so that's a bit of a barrier as well.

Love them, love spending time with them, and do so as often as possible, I've been to Manchester for shopping and lunch with one today.

Two brothers, two sisters, really good relationship with them all.

Yep. Two older brothers, I only speak to them / visit occasionally / from time to time, but when we do we are right back there.

Now I’ve seen a few more replies along the no theme could I ask if anybody else’s parents try to force you together and to “get along” despite being fully grown adults with lives of our own?

I love my sister and her son, my nephew.

No. He was a bully when we were growing up. Our parents are dead now and he's my only sibling. Speak to him once a year maybe.
He doesn't get rewarded with a sibling relationship in my book.

Dm does yes she often tries to get me and him together. Our father isn’t involved so don’t know his faults

Thoughts

I'd be lost without my sister, we WhatsApp pretty much every day. If I was without her, it'd be like losing an arm.
DH gets on fine mostly with his. He doesn't go out of his way to speak to either of them though. Things between him and his sister can be frosty at times, or tense at others.

Speak to my brother occasionally via email. Never see him even though he lives close by. I have nothing in common with my sister who is a total narcissist. I avoid her as much as I can . See her perhaps once a year for a few hours. It’s really sad.

I have a cordial relationship with my two much older siblings. I suppose I love them but would NEVER choose to spend time with them unless we were related.

Two brothers, no, not at all. No contact for ten years.

I do have a step-sister, our parents only married when we were both 16, and she and I get on great.

I think he can be a bit of a knob and I doubt we would be friends in real life, that goes both ways. But I love him dearly and know we are there for each other. I mainly ignore the knobbyness and we can have a good laugh.

Used to be close to my brother but we had a big falling out two years ago and haven't spoken since.

No. My sister only bothered when there was something in it for her. She was the golden child of the family. The minute I stopped being a doormat and focused on my own responsibilities she disappeared from my life. I haven't seen her in years and haven't missed being pushed around by her one bit.

Mine are my best friends. But I know of families where there is no relationship there. Sadly it isn’t a given.

Not even a little bit.

@CMOTDibbler

Nope. When I finished disbursing my parents estate it was a relief to know I now never had to speak to him ever again

I’m so envious! Mine hasn’t spoken to me for nine years. No particular reason other than she’sa childish arsehole. I now have to make peace with her as my mum is elderly. I can’t wait to never have to pander to her ever again

NC with one, absolutely awful human being.

Get on with my sister. We text several times a week. She is also NC with the other sibling.

Yes. She's fab. Love her to bits.

Yes definitely, she's one of my favourite people.
Objectively though she's the "nice" one in the family, I'm the narky one.... so she might answer differently