AIBU “being noisy “ whilst DH working from home

[mumof2exhausted]

Husband is working from home. He has been able to go back into office for a long time, lots of his colleagues have and he goes in now and again but he prefers to work from home as can sit outside , go for runs on his lunch break etc. All fine but kids now on summer holidays and we also have a baby. He’s getting really grumpy telling us all to be quiet all the time. Just had a massive row where I told him to go back to the office if he wants silence! I’m not being unreasonable am I??

@Royalbloo

YANBU- do Amazon sell multi-packs of recorders? Might be worth a little browse...?!

Oh that's just bad, so bad... but strangely exciting.

Three blind mice to one deaf husband

Take up Mongolian throat singing.

My EX used to try to do work emails while in his recliner right smack in the middle of the living room, while the kids would be playing and/or watching TV.

I and the children were NOT to "interrupt" him even when we had no idea if it was work emails or just surfing, and his emails were always Extremely Important and if one of us talked at the wrong time, we would be blamed for Making Him Mess Up his Email.

And I would tell him to go somewhere else if he had Very Important Emails and he would say it's his house he can sit where he wants.

So I totally sympathize.

He is working from HOME. Your HOME their HOME his HOME. His expectations about what happens there have become skewed. You are not trying to live in his workplace but he IS trying to work in your live place.

If he cannot tolerate homelike conditions he needs to go to work.

I say this as someone who works full time perm from home. I get a bit aggy when my routines get disrupted but im on planet earth.

Just make normal levels of noise. Be yourself. It's your home too. DH works from home and I am sure his colleagues will have heard me shouting like a banshee at the DC.

Oh, and EX also took numerous naps whenever the f&$# he wanted but if I wanted one, it had to be carefully scheduled, and even then I couldn't trust that he was actually watching the kids.

I also play piano as he works. And have two children who play woodwind instruments too. That's life.

You clearly aren't being noisy enough if he hasn't already scuttled back to the office!

2% of people think YABU yet I cant see any YABU commentary.

NRTFT - just p1, but WFH is because we are in a pandemic 🙄
Going to the office is just a recipe for giving you Covid, and why would you want that?

Can you banish DH to his office upstairs & get him to close the door and then you all carry on as you would otherwise

I WFH and our company has given us headphones that really help to control background noise - when colleagues mention building work etc happening around then I can’t hear a thing. Ask him to look into those?

@DespairingHomeowner

NRTFT - just p1, but WFH is because we are in a pandemic 🙄 Going to the office is just a recipe for giving you Covid, and why would you want that?

Can you banish DH to his office upstairs & get him to close the door and then you all carry on as you would otherwise

I WFH and our company has given us headphones that really help to control background noise - when colleagues mention building work etc happening around then I can’t hear a thing. Ask him to look into those?

It is better to read the whole thread, tbh. The OP has explained clearly that her H will not use his home office. He prefers to deliberately control and inconvenience her and the children.

Taking up the dining table when he has a home office is very controlling. He's not having fun so no one should be....what a shitty attitude to have toward his wife and children.

I can see a lot of marriages ending due to the pandemic highlighting just how horrible some people actually are when given the opportunity,

He is being so selfish.
At his lunchtime, why isn't he giving the children lunch/ minding the baby, so you get a break?

I work from home (in my bedroom upstairs). Even thought I have a very busy, stressful job, I break to give my toddlers lunch every day (which I batch cook).
It means no lunchtime for me - just a slice of toast while reading emails, and certainly no time for runs/naps/sitting outside.

Then I break again for babies' bath and bedtime, and go back to work after, if needed.

YANBU. Mine has worked from home full time since before DD12 was born. He doesn't complain about the noise.