To let my dog in my garden?

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Really can't figure this one out. My dog is a rescue and a bit jumpy. She loves to hang in the garden and it's enclosed so in nice weather we just keep the back door open and she goes out and sunbathes. We live in a suburban area so have gardens backing onto all sides of our fence.

The neighbour behind us is often in her garden talking on the phone or to her husband, when she comes out and starts talking it makes my dog jump and she barks a few times. Or if there are other sudden noises she'll bark too.

But whenever she barks my partner or I go out immediately to stop her because we want to be respectful of neighbours, and if she's too worked up we just bring her inside.

But the neighbour behind us screeches at our dog. She tells 'shut up!!' all the time, a few times has yelled that 'someone needs to throttle that dog'

I know a barking dog can be annoying but it's usually only a few barks, and we go out immediately every time to quiet her, and sometimes will bring her inside. I don't see what else we could do aside from never let her out. And I just think it's so rude to screech 'shut up!!!' into a neighbour's garden. She's an adult human who can control herself, the dog isn't. And if you live in the suburbs you surely have to accept that you will have neighbours who sometimes make noise.

AIBU to keep letting my dog in the garden?

@MaMelon

Are we speaking the same language? You don't seem to be reading properly.

It’s not unhinged to be pissed off with a dog that barks every time you go into your own garden. It’s like anything, surely, a bit of barking, a bit of music, a bit of screaming from excited kids is all ok, but becomes anti social when it’s constant.

We have a dog who occasionally barks. We take her indoors if she’s in the garden and doesn’t stop after a couple of barks. I think that’s the courteous thing to do.

Our neighbours on the other hand have a dog that yaps all the time. I can’t go into the garden, open a window, or cough without the bloody thing going mad. We now keep our windows shut most of the time because the noise drives us mad. They don’t do anything about it, it’s clearly terrified of its own shadow and I often mutter shut the fuck up as it makes me feel like an intruder in my own home.

I think communication is the key. It might be worth talking to your neighbour. Apologise, acknowledge it’s annoying, ask if she’d like to meet your dog, as it would then recognise her voice and may then shut up.

If its only a few barks it's fine. I have neighbours with dogs who bark all day long from morning until night constant yap yap yap some days I fantasise about going into the garden and screaming SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!!!! but I don't. Its unreasonable to scream shut up and say a dog needs to e throttled for a few barks.

Well done @ShitPoetryClub! Totally agree about it being worth it.

OP, you can train away these barks, if you choose not to that's your choice but equally your neighbour is going to carry on yelling and unfortunately you can't train her.