AIBU to ask neighbours to keep kids off trampoline in working hours?

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Not really for me, for my DP who is WFH. I don’t WFH so this doesn’t impact but he is very bothered by it.

Next door recently bought a trampoline for their two kids. When they go on it, they’re really noisy - they scream and shout a lot, I’ve heard them on the weekends when I’m home and it is loud. DP is hearing impaired, he’s on work Zoom calls during the day and the noise is making it difficult to do his calls. One is a pre schooler and the other we think might be home at the moment because school bubble has burst. Obviously he is used to general neighbour noise during day, but he finds the screaming and shouting difficult as it’s right next to our fence. He’s using noise cancelling headphones for calls, but even with those it’s getting through and making it hard for him to concentrate and hear what’s being said.

Would he BU to ask them if they could keep the kids off the trampoline during his work hours or confine it to lunch time during the week? He has an hour break where he’d be fine with them using it, he normally goes out to walk the dog. They’re very nice neighbours and we’ve never had any issues, but he’s afraid to rock the boat.

I don’t mind the laughing, chatting and having fun but the shriek, high pitch screaming on the trampoline is annoying

Children should be kept off trampolines 24/7.

My mom keeps telling me she’s going to buy one for my two children and I’ve told her to save her money because if she turns up with one I’m just going to burn it.

@Pinkandpink

It’s 10pm and I’m currently listening to my neighbours kids aged 10 and 11, so old enough to know better. High pitch screaming and yelling. Iv had to shut my window and it’s boiling. The parents are just rude if they think that’s acceptable. During the day yes, no probs but this time it’s a big no

Your problem is nothing like the OP's then.

It’s went quiet! I can open my window yah!

AlanBrazil
I never said it was did I? Strange comment

I WFH. My NDN have older teenage sons who love kicking the ball at their shed. It pisses me off.

Same with another neighbour's dog barking.

And whatever drill was being used by someone today.

However, I know I would be totally out of order to request anyone stopped doing these things. Just one of those things.

If it was me being asked i wd be happy to limit the dc time on a trampoline . I think dc wd understand that and it teaches comprimise and consoderation .

Have you got proper double glazed windows and a decent door?

If so I'm really amazed you can hear so much inside the house with windows and doors closed. There are children and assorted trampolines, climbing forts etc in the gardens & houses by mine, they make a terrific racket, but once you close the doors & windows, there's no way you'd be disturbed by it indoors. I've got good hearing too so I'm usually the first to bothered.

Maybe one of the problems with this thread is that OP presented it as if the noise would be ok if they weren't wfh. If the noise is ok outside of work hours then it's ok during work hours. The work hours thing has confused the picture. You're always ok to ask neighbours to keep the volume down if kids are being too noisy. However tobexpect different standards during office hours is not reasonable.

I suspect that some parents are genetically incapable of hearing the noise that their own kids make.

Definitely not true for me. I notice it when my DDs are too noisy and I really don’t like it. So I wouldn’t allow them to scream in the garden for hours on end; if a neighbour were to complain, I would apologise and do my best to accommodate them. As would my DH. (My DDs don’t make a lot of noise now thankfully, as they’re 12 and 9).

If you get on well with these neighbours normally, then surely you can ask them if their DC could keep the noise down?

It's great hearing the sound of DC playing, last year you could hear a pin drop.
I wouldn't allow mine scream all day in the garden, the green area at the back of my house is packed with DC playing.
Last summer taught them playing outside is what the summers about.
As DC in the 80's there were 30 DC on our street playing tip the can, kerbs, hide and seek the residential association would be out with a stick if you tried playing kerbs or tipping a lamp posts nevermind hiding in a garden.
Ffs is there an epidemic of childhood obesity and increased anxiety over screen addiction.

I actually think it is very healthy for children to be playing outside, rather than being indoors on their devices. This is what children are supposed to do. Play in their own backyards.

@PrincessNutella

I actually think it is very healthy for children to be playing outside, rather than being indoors on their devices. This is what children are supposed to do. Play in their own backyards.

They are. I actually really love the sound of my neighbour's kids...they kick balls around all day, they run and yell and it makes me happy to hear it and I also work from home.

Who wants to live in a silent, dead neighbourhood? Not me!

@PrincessNutella

I actually think it is very healthy for children to be playing outside, rather than being indoors on their devices. This is what children are supposed to do. Play in their own backyards.

@PrincessNutella nobody is disputing that. But the lack of consideration for others on this thread is shocking. How are children supposed to learn to consider the feelings of others if their parents think they can do what they like in their own garden?

I completely disagree that you can as you please in your own garden, or own house for that matter. Because unless you live in the middle of nowhere, others will be affected by your actions. It’s called living in a society.

It's not the playing it's the high noise isn't it?
So for me I'd ask them not to be screaming and shouting at the top of their voice as some children do. But don't think you can ask to restrict their timings.

It's great hearing the sound of DC playing

Yes, when they are playing nicely.

Not when you don't have kids and you're trying to work or relax and kids are screeching and screaming and blowing whistles and booting footballs against fences.

I hate that neighbours are expected to put up with other people's kids' noise.

Reading this you'd assume adults are silent. They're on the summer holidays, I'd imagine if the adults were on a long awaited break with friends they'd laugh, clink glasses, get louder as time went on.

Office blocks are outside residential areas for a good reason.

@EmeraldShamrock

Reading this you'd assume adults are silent. They're on the summer holidays, I'd imagine if the adults were on a long awaited break with friends they'd laugh, clink glasses, get louder as time went on.

Office blocks are outside residential areas for a good reason.

Well on here adults are bonking in blow up jacuzzis in the garden till all hours 😅😅

You can’t tell someone else how their kids play in their home. Even if the kids were banned from the trampoline that would probably cause upset and shouting anyway.

If your DH can’t work in your house with window shut then maybe look into hiring local office space for him.

@Skysblue

You can’t tell someone else how their kids play in their home. Even if the kids were banned from the trampoline that would probably cause upset and shouting anyway.

If your DH can’t work in your house with window shut then maybe look into hiring local office space for him.

the OPs DH has sorted it out with the neighbours amicably.

He would be better off going to work in a work environment...

I'm sorry I know its annoying but it's part and parcel of home life. Homes and gardens are for people and children to enjoy. Working from home is a relatively new thing for the majority of people. I'd be really annoyed if you asked me to keep my kids indoors, except for a lunch hour! Honestly I'd look at better quality headphones or go back to the office.

ZOMBIE THREAD but I suspect others will still comment below…