AIBU to think that when offering seconds at dinner...

[ElevenBenevolentElephants]

and the host has plated it up and served it, and then at the end, they shouldn't word it: there's more xxx, if anyone can manage any more?"

but more like: "there's more xxx, would anyone like some?"

reason why i think it is U? because the first one is implying that "how could anyone possibly manage any more dinner after this plate of food? only fat bastards that's who "

I prefer the way they said it, it takes the pressure off the guest to have seconds if they are no longer hungry. I prefer to serve myself at the table though.

@ElevenBenevolentElephants

and the host has plated it up and served it, and then at the end, they shouldn't word it: there's more xxx, if anyone can manage any more?"

but more like: "there's more xxx, would anyone like some?"

reason why i think it is U? because the first one is implying that "how could anyone possibly manage any more dinner after this plate of food? only fat bastards that's who "

Sounds like you might be projecting. Are you by any chance a fat bastard?

For crying out loud what a way to pluck a problem out of thin air

Nah. The first way is better: that way you can refuse because you are full. Ie it's better to say 'the food is lovely but I really cannot eat any more' than ' I could eat more but I don't want more of that food'

@Pebbledashery

Oh dear god not another weird thread. Something in the water today.

That was my exact thought on reading the OP. So many weird, overly-sensitive people making threads about nothing at all.

I agree. But I’m fat and greedy so I’d still have some.

Mumsnet has taught me that people can make an issue about absolutely anything. It’s amazing.

@WhySoSensitive

Mumsnet has taught me that people can make an issue about absolutely anything. It’s amazing.

Indeed.

On another thread someone thinks it's rude because someone is pleased to be leaving a job with colleagues like that I can't imagine why they want to leave such a place

Your issue for sure

It wouldn't register with me in the slightest. I wouldn't read any hidden meaning into it beyond "if you're already full, there's some more food available".

Yeah, this is definitely just you. Totally normal turn of phrase and doesn’t imply anything other than seconds are available but no pressure

I have an interest (and qualifications) in linguistics so I do think about things like this too OP.

It’s an interesting turn of phrase. There is definitely a strong implication in it isn’t there? Like a dare.

Are you just pissed off you wanted more and didn’t want to say so as everyone else said no, so you’ve decided you’ll lash out at rhe host.?

Well I have made my opinions on plated food very clear on here in the past and had my arse handed to me.

Lets just say, it wouldn't happen in this house, it would all be in the middle

Omg. What?!

I say 'there's plenty more if you want it' or if there isn't loads left 'there's some left if anyone wants more'.
She was wanting to keep some so they can finish it off tomorrow - nothing to do with anyone's weight.

I think if they had added "surely you'll have some more Fatty?" then you could be offended.

God to use the trope, I wish this was the level of stress and angst l had, but I really do!

Good fucking Lord, assuming this is real you are turning a hosts generosity into a snipe. Never once have I dished up a meal for guests and thought ‘fat bastards’ when saying there was more x,y or z if anyone fancied it.

Do you think you could manage a ?

Cos you REALLY need one for this.

I wouldn't even notice.

OP, you reflected on the feedback and admitted it was just you a while ago, but I'd love to know how you feel about the person who said it they really have your back up on a bigger issue?

I have a history of ED and yes, I'd think this way! But hopefully I'd see it was my issue!

This is the nonest none issue in the history of nontity.

I'd think the host was just desperate for someone to finish the food so it wasn't wasted. I wouldn't put any value judgement on it