Ok, so after many years of OLD I went on a paid dating site and was drawn to a man who seemed just my type. He's seen all the bands that I like, dresses different to most - nice hats, and has the confidence to dress in vibrant shirts etc.
We chatted for a few weeks and is was all very fluent, we bounced off each other as we had so much to talk about. He seemed so genuine, gentlemanly, and asked lots of questions about me.
Some men that I've met have been very different to chat to in person but I knew this one would be the same when we met. He was. He drove 20 odd miles to see me, I've never had anyone do this before.
Whilst messaging he said that he was potentially going to shave his hair as he's been very unlucky with losing it on the top, and it's got much worse. He's really enjoyed having long hair but he needed to take the plunge!
On his photos he's wearing hats and I didn't notice his long hair as it possibly could have been up/tucked in his hat. He says that his beard, which I love, is a focal point because of the hair loss.
On the date, he was so lovely, he listened to everything that I said with interest and commented on everything so sweetly. I felt like it was the best conversation I've had on a date ever. I found him very attractive.
But omg his hair when he took his hat off, he had a long bit swept over the top of his head and the rest was all one length down to his long neck but it looked so flat, it really didn't suit him. He's 40.
Whilst I try to sympathise, I really think he could make it look far better to emphasise his good looks.
So we were messaging after the date and he asked if he was what I hoped. (I told him on the date that I thought he was very attractive, with a lovely smile and enjoyed his conversations very much). So I reiterated that I found him very attractive etc and also that I agreed with him about shaving his hair/cutting it as it would look amazing, and suit & compliment his face. He says he's getting it cut before a wedding in a few weeks.
I am attracted to him and there's a definite connection.
I knew he used to love having long hair but I thought it was a thing of the past as he wears a lot of hats. I can't explain how terrible it looked.
Hopefully it'll be a decent cut, but what if he just has it trimmed and it's similar?! I appreciate that it's just him and I should just like him for him. Do you think what I said to him is a bit mean, would you say anything further, or what and see?
Thank you.